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Name: Parko

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i have a 2 yr old step child, my husband got into a lot of debt when he lift his ex and now we are suffering badly financially, i may not be able to have a child of my own because the mother said that if the payments are reduced we may have to pay back the amount we didn't pay when we have paid off his debt, she also said that if we have a child we may have to give her our baby bonus that is ment for our child. I live in australia and i need help please someone help me please please!!!! ↓

Name: sally | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 10:33 PM

Maybe you both should work hard 4 the next couple of years, pay off your debt, then have a child of your own. ↑

Name: Snoopy | Date: Jan 15th, 2006 10:50 PM

I agree to work on getting out of debt first or at least getting it under control. I don't know anything about australian laws, but I highly doubt that you would have to give her a cent more because you have a baby. I would talk to an attorney about all of this, maybe you can have more custody of the child and then the payments would be reduced anyways. I am sure that it will work out, but even if you didn't have all of this going on I would still work to get yourselves out of debt as much as possible before you have your child..... ↑

Name: dmac | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 5:44 AM

That is emotional blackmail. you should try to see if what is owed can be forgiven, because nobody should be able to prevent you and your husband form creating a piece of happiness that both of you created.
There may be a little jealousy here, and the ex is attempting threats and mind-control over the both of you... Go for it, but go to the courts and State revenue department and see what can be done.
DO NOT WAIT or it will never get done, and the ex has won with her manipulative ways ↑

Name: Joanne | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 2:51 PM

Your husband needs to take responsibility for his debt and visit a financial advisor about rolling his debts into one or reducing payments. Working through the debts will help, but some clever moves with any assets you have can also work.The payments are fixed through centrelink, don't pay a cent more. Any arrears are between you and centrelink. Speaking to them will help you.The baby bonus cannot be touched its yours. The problem here seems to lie with your man . Yes he has a child with this woman but se is being allowed far to much access to your life. Try and keep your privacy and don't get involved in squabbles. ↑

Name: Toots | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 11:03 AM

One day you will be sitting on your death bed and thinking to your self well I didn't have any kids but at least I paid off my debt! Come on! this is a small segment of your life, it might seem abit tricky at the moment but kids are forever GET GOING GIRL! ↑