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Name: JennyD
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Hi Im Jenny and Im 24 and just found out Im 9 weeks pregnant. Im very excited but nervous about being a single mom especially being in the military. Is it normal to feel this way. Is being a single mom as hard as it looks?
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Name: Helen | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 12:09 PM
Not really, as long as you have friends and/ or relatives around. I am single too, and the father of the baby is nowhere near, he's not even in the same country with me, and I haven't heard from him since I got pregnant, but I'm still happy. As long as you want this baby, you should feel the same way. I felt left, alone and depressed, but my parents helped me through it, and I will never forget the first baby kicks- that moment is unforgettable. And even now, when I feel those kicks, I feel that this is MY baby, and nothing else matters. As fro you being in the military- I have a friend, she's also in the Army, and she had a baby recently- and she was scared too at first, but now- she has a beautiful son and very happy. 

Name: Liz | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 6:10 PM
I don't mean to scare you, but yes it's very hard to be a single parent. The baby is up three or four times a night and therefore you are too. And babies don't just wake up to eat and go right back to sleep oh no they like to have your attention for a while and they don't care that it's 2,3,or 4 in the morning. You have to get up for work and spend eight hours a day away from home and exhausted. Then when you get home you're so tired all you want to do is go to bed but you can't because the baby needs you. It's the most tiring job in the world and that's with a two parent household. To have a baby on your own is also very expensive. You have to buy diapers, formula, clothing and other neccessities, and when you go back to work child care. I think (and this is my opinion) that bringing a baby into your world no matter what the cost eventually short changes the baby. How do you do your job well as a parent if you are dead tired all the time and how do you do your wage earning job well if you are tired all the time. I just hope you have a strong support system lined up because you will surely need it. None the less I wish you and your baby a life time of happiness. Good Luck 

Name: JennyD | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 2:59 AM
Thank you Helen and Liz for your comments. Like you Helen the father is in another country and wants nothing to do with this. My mother is very excited and wants to move in with me to help out and I think it would be very wise to let her. Next month Im moving to another state where I wont know anyone. Im also very excited to be having a baby. Im plenty ready and mature for this but its still so scary.
I had my first doctors appointment yesterday and I got to see the baby and hear the heartbeat and it was so amazing but it was lonely at the same time not having anyone to share it with.
Thanks again, jenny 

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