I am a single father with custody of my 2 and 3 (4 in a week) year old girls. They are the absolute center of my universe.
The situation with their mother is horrible, and that is certainly understating it. We have just finalized the divorce and she has standard visitation. Tonight being the second Thursday night visit, and tomorrow starting their first weekend visit.
The problem (or one of many) is that my 3 year old wouldn't come off the driveway with her, and when I finally carried her in, it was the beginning of an intense "I want mommy" episode that literally lasted until she fell asleep.
I am looking on any advice on how to handle this. The common sense part or me realizes that this is a 3 year old that doesn't understand the situation or why it is how it is. However, I still find myself stressed and even (and it seems silly) hurt that my whole world, from the moment I wake to the moment I go to sleep, is all about the well being of these children. Now they will go over for the weekend, and I am afraid tonight's episode will just be the tip of the iceburg, as it will just be more intense after a weekend.
On top of that, I will spend the weekend stressed because I know their mom will stay up all night and sleep until mid morning leaving them on their own for hours after they wake.
Any advice on any of this would be appreciated. ↓
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