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Name: Jessika
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Hi. I'm 19 and I found out I was pregnant a couple of months ago. I'm about 3 months along. I'm technically married, but not to the baby's father, which makes me feel like I did something wrong. My husband and I haven't been together in over 6 months. He left me a few days before being deployed for Iraq. I started the divorce papers, but with him being over seas makes the process even slower. I met the baby's father shortly after splitting up with my husband. The baby's father and I are no longer together either, his wonderful excuse was that he "just doesn't have feelings for me anymore". But he claims he wants to be there for the baby. I just feel very alone, scared and confused. I'm not sure what to do, but I guess I don't really have very many choices, other than to be the best mom to this baby that I can be. Well, thats my story, any advice is more than welcome. Thanks.
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Name: Tarra | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 4:12 PM
You gave yourself the best "advice" anyone else could give you. Take care of you and your baby, that is what matters. If "daddy dearest" doesn't want to be with you, you can't force him as than it ends up being a worse situation all around (trust me, I'm going through the "if you don't give the baby up for adoption I'm going to make your life hell" senerio as I am 5 months pregnant and dad believed he could "fix" everything which he couldn't).

Take care of yourself and your little one. 

Name: Been There | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 6:04 PM
I got pregnant by a guy right after he got back from Iraq. We broke up but then he would mess with my head by saying he cared but that the war just messed up his head. Really all he wanted was the sex. His best friend was a single parent and decided that it wasn't fair that I was going through all of those games, so he told me what his friend was up to. I decided that I just had to take care of the baby and not worry about anything else. His friend helped me in so many ways. I figured that everything would fall into place as long as I took care of my baby. Well, I ended up miscarrying, but the good news was that his best friend became my best friend. Now we are married and expecting our own baby. Everything worked out the way it was supposed to. Don't let either of these men determine how you are going to live your life. If they are there for you or the baby, then just think of that as a bonus. You can do this without them. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it. There are plenty of men out there that will respect you for being strong and making it on your own. Those are the kind of men that you want in your life. One will come along when you least expect it. Your baby will have a strong role model to look to and that will be you...no one else. Reach out to your friends and family for support. 

Name: heather | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 4:16 AM
What is it with the male race anyway. Are they all jerks. How come its so easy for them not to understand the stresses we woman have to deal with when they make us pregnant. I am pregnate as well. Though my situation is not as terable the father and I are seperated right now. He says he wants to get married in a couple of years. but I don't see it working out. All the men in my life are full of talk till things get sticky. Exceptions, my dad and brother of course.

How ever enough of my soap box. A baby is the most wonderful but scary responsibility in the world. Though there are days I am over whelmed with worry one thing remains constant. I have a new precious give to be responsable for and I will do everything in my powper to protect her and raise her the best I can good luck.

answering these have been very helpful. It helps me realize that there are others out there and I am not alone. 

Name: Jess | Date: Apr 20th, 2006 9:59 PM
hey i have had unprotected sex. for the passed week i have been felling sick but not close to throwing up. is this a sign of morning sickness or just another illness going around?
i am really scared... 

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