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Name: kml0001
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I truly hope somebody can help me out on this topic. I dont know what to do.....Im not sure if this is the right forum i should be under to discuss this topic but if anyone has any advice please let me know....

About 10 months ago I moved out of my sons fathers house due to us always fighting and being hostile towards each other. I wanted to take myself out of the situation and did not want my son to see us fight. I now live on my own and my son goes back and forth from me to his father. We both see him on a regular basis, just separatly. Some nights he sleeps at my home, and some nights at his dads....
Anyways, in the last couple of weeks out of nowhere my son has been refusing to listen to a word i say and having very weird mood swings...for example, i simply turned a light on in our living room and he threw a fit like the world was coming to an end, telling me "turn that off right now" (without reason)...He refuses to let me do everyday things like brush his teeth (he clenches his mouth shut), refuses to go to bed unless i go to bed with him...he will tell me that he wants something to eat, and wen i get food for him he will change his mind and start freaking out...When i go to take the food away he starts freaking out even more demanding that i put it back in front of him. And in the end....he still never eats it. I tried time out, i tried taking toys away, i tried simply talking to him, i tried showing him affection but he just pushes me away continuing to throw a tantrum, absolutely nothing is working....Yesterday, I was trying to take his jacket off and put his pajamas on to put him in bed and he WAS NOT having it. I got so fed up trying to fight him to take his jacket off that i hit him in his face...(i know it was the wrong thing to do but i did it out of impulse and i feel terrible about it). His dad tells me that when he has him, he is NEVER like that. He used to never be like that towards me either but just recently this all started.
His dad was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and more recently, Bipolar disorder, but i dont think you can diagnose a 3 year old at that young of an age.
if anybody has any advice please HELP ME. i dont know what to do anymore, i dont want to hit him again but he drives me crazy i feel like if this keeps happening then i will end up hitting him again.. :(
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Name: dacia turney | Date: Jan 28th, 2012 5:36 AM
Don't hit him send him to live with me :) 

Name: rose | Date: Mar 16th, 2012 4:24 AM
Hi there well before you diagnose your child, that will take you down a road that is full of pills and problems. look at what his father dose to brush his teeth and feed him.
if he dose not have any rules or boundies and then he will act out with you to test you to be like his dad. don't hit him any more pick him up calm voice and take him to his bed when he gets out put him back keep it up over and over some times it will take a long time the first few times you do this and it can take up to 3 days to get though to him set a timer when he is in there and quite for 3min explan that he can be upset but he has to tell you why boys this age dont always know how to tell us that he dose not like whats going on or change
good luck 

Name: PJ Arizona | Date: Jun 16th, 2012 8:18 PM
Perhaps you should consider that the father may be saying some unkind things about you, and your son is having a hard time dealing with the negative comments, causing a lot of confusion, emotional outbursts with you and sadness in his life. It is very hard on a child to have two homes w/two very different parents that do not get along. I think the best thing is to be as loving as you can be with your son, be the bigger parent and reasure him he is loved by both you and his dad. Please do not ever hit your child... Be patient, do fun stuff together, and just be there for him. PW 

Name: Mandy | Date: Jul 14th, 2012 2:12 AM
It can be so frustrating when you are a single Mom exhausted from a long day and your child starts to misbehave. When they are throwing a huge tantrum and just won't stop. It's hard not to lose it! All parents have been there.....and those who say they haven't are lying. It will never hurt to just walk away and give yourself a timeout! A mom in my parents group said one day she felt at the end of her rope so she put her son's in there room, laid in the hallway with her feet on the door for her time out while they screamed and kicked the door. Another Mom said she use to lock herself in the bathroom with a timer set for 10 minutes to give herself time to recoup. He most likely is just acting out due to the situation. Dad might have said something and he is acting out. Or he might just be acting out because 3 is a rough age. Try to stay strong and just give yourself a timeout if needed~deep breath and remember to forgive yourself. Let your son know how much you love and care for him. Let me know Mommy is trying! There will be better days and worse days you just have to make it through!~ Keep your head up! From one Mom who get frustrated and overwhelmed to other! 

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