i dont even no were to start with this, but it is about my mum.
she never listens to me, and i mean literally like i will say something and i will sit there waiting for a replie and i get nothing, or sometimes i will start talking and she will just turn the telly up.
she tells me im overweight and when i wask for her help to loose it she just shrugs me off and never takes anything i say seriously.
im nearly 20 for gods sake and a mum myself i want to move out and there no way i can afford it, the only way i could afford it is to work full time 40+ hours a week but that would mean putting my daughter into a nursery full time.
all i do everyday is clean the house for her or she will moan at me like mad, i want more with my life but i dont no were to start. i want to be more independant but my confidances is really low, i just feel so alone at the moment and the urges to si are coming back.
iv try talking to her about all of this and she just ignores me, she always says shes no good at this parenting stuff.
i jus dont no what to do, iv got mates but they aint like real close mates so this is the only place iv got to turn to. ↓
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| Name: PiageM | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 1:03 AM |
Well Emma, your mum sounds like a real tramp! sorry to be rude.
I understand your situation, i had to live with my family when my little one was born. All i can suggest to you is keep posistive, try whatever you can to move out, with some friends maybe? to help pay the bills.
If you keep living with this woman she will just drive you insane, and your baby girl will sense this, and its no good for her either.
Good Luck Sweets ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 1:20 AM |
It sucks to hear your going through this. I'm 21 and i live with my family too and they can be real assholes. Once i have my baby boy though im out of here....i cant stand it already, i dont know how you put up with it
Is there any government assistance you can get to help you move out and support you and the child?
I really hope there is :( best of luck to you, i know how difficult it can get ↑ |
| Name: saxton_emma | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 11:22 AM |
tramp?? thats a bit harsh...
bitchybunny yer there are soma assistance i can get but its not much, i could move out but iv got debt so all my extra money goes on ↑ |
| Name: saxton_emma | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 11:24 AM |
tramp?? thats a bit harsh...
bitchybunny yer there are somE assistance i can get but its not much, i could move out but iv got debt so all my extra money goes on paying that, im just stuck in a rut at the min and dont no were to start trying to get out of it... ↑ |
| Name: simmonds-amanda | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 12:31 PM |
| Try your local council they might be able to house you it might be a hostle for the short term but in the end you might get a two bed flat youe will be able to claim housing benefit and council tax benefit you will get child tax credits and income support you do have options! ↑ |
| Name: oniedabear | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 3:23 PM |
My son is four years old and I work full time and it's second shift. It's tough but being a single parent you do what you have to do. I'm not sure where your from but daycare is nearly fully reimburst at tax time. If you want to get out of debt, you may want to find a full time job. I mean, do you want to live with your mom forever?
Good luck to you I hope I helped somewhat. ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 4:08 PM |
Thats what it always felt like for me! Constant nagging about doing this wrong. I used to break down into tears. But then after about 5 or 6 months of us living with her she settled a little now she'd taught me the "basics" of babyhood and I could bathe them and felt more confident. Now she just leaves me well and truly to it. She's back to nagging me about clutter, my unorganisation when it comes to schoolwork and normal teenage things. I know what you mean about government assistance. If you can get your mum to throw you out you would get a flat! I was given one when I was pregnant and an old schoolmate Laura was given one too. If you have child you should be entitled to your own place. I'm not saying they are the ritz or anything. Anything but...
I hated the flat I had and am very pleased that I live here with her. Although there are times when I wish I was away with nobody else so I could ocme and go as I pleased without a shed load of questions about it. My mum pretty much leaves me too it. SHe never really butted in or anything like alot of mums do with a grandchild. SHe watched from a distance, nagged from a distance, corrected me from a distance. Lol, as for cleaning, keep up the good work. point it out to her if she annoys you. Maybe look for a parttime job like I have, the macdonalds in chippenham are hiring willynilly at the moment....lol ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 7:33 AM |
work out a schedule, where your daughter is in daycare so many days a week, and see if you can get your mother to look after her, say for two.
Go out and get a job. If you dont take the steps, your life wont change. ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 8:37 AM |
| how long has this been going on for hun i feel for you how come she is like this are u in touch with your daughters father? if so by all rights he should be putting a roof over you and your babys head good luck hun dont go through that alone you need somone for you and your daughter ↑ |
| Name: saxton_emma | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 9:07 AM |
no her dads not around, we was together 5 years and he left me for someone else when i was 6 month preg, my daughters now 2 and he hasnt seen her for over a year he doesnt want nothing to do with her, he doesnt care. hes happy enough with his gf and raising her kid and shes pregnant now with his.
things are going better with my mum at the min which is good ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 12:57 PM |
| That's good Emma. I'm bringin Garry home to meet my mum tonight. I told her 3 days ago he has a child and she didn't say anything just looked at me, then I told her why she has no mummy and she smiled and said, "it's up to you." I was expecting a bit of a "I'm disapointed" type thing. Anyway, I'm bored. 20 minutes till I hav to go to work... ↑ |
| Name: rosie_smith_2004 | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 5:51 PM |
| i completely understand where u r comeing from i had the same proplem with my mom but she abused me mentaly an phisicly .and now im with my brother and his gf with my two kids and the only thing i can say is u have the willpower to do what ever u want as long as u believe in yourself being a single parent is ruff but his has its good sides one of the other girls said that if u dont take the steps then u wont go any where thats true u have to do what u can and be the best u can be.i believe that if there is something in life u realy want, if u want it bad enough, u will have .i have wanted the man that i love all so much for 3 years and now we r together going to get married and working on r place now bye saveing money. i wish u the best of luck.just think to yourself that u do have the stringth to do what u need to do. u just need to make that first step ↑ |
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