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hi my name is sarah i am 20 this year and having my second baby. My first one is 21 months old and i am 26 weeks pregnant. Well i broke up with my partner a week ago for good as it was not workin out. I have no family or real freinds where i live. I am so tired all the time and no one to take my little girl for a couple of hours just to give me a break. That doesnt bother me so much. What i am scared of is when the 2nd one is born how i am going to cope. I had depression before i got pregnant with my first one then had postnatal depression with my first one. all i keep thinking is the labour and doing it alone if the baby come early and my family isnt here. When am i goin to sleep when i have 2 of them by myself. My daughter does have a good afternoon sleep but when am i going to clean the house. If anyone is in my positions please give me some advice
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Name: Reale21 | Date: Apr 7th, 2007 5:02 PM
I am not in your position. Yet. I am 16 weeks pregnant and expecting to do this all on my own. To me you are a survivor. Your scared about bringing a second one in this world. I am scared about bringing my first. I had to continue you tell myself over and over that this isn't the end. And neither is it for you. You will have something special at the end of this, something your partner will miss and that his lost. I can definitely relate to you on feeling alone. While you may not have family and friends around I do. They are all supportive but, I still find time to feel all alone. I think it is because I miss the companionship that I once had. Well, anyways I am glad to say you need to be strong especially for someone like me. 

Name: Reale21 | Date: Apr 7th, 2007 5:05 PM
I am not in your position. Yet. I am 16 weeks pregnant and expecting to do this all on my own. To me you are a survivor. Your scared about bringing a second one in this world. I am scared about bringing my first. I had to continue to tell myself over and over that this isn't the end. And neither is it for you. You will have something special at the end of this, something your partner will miss and that is his lost. I can definitely relate to you on feeling alone. While you may not have family and friends around I do. They are all supportive but, I still find time to feel all alone. I think it is because I miss the companionship that I once had. Well, anyways I am glad to say you need to be strong especially for someone like me. 

Name: dmt | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 1:24 PM
Hi Sarah, give me an email at [email protected] 

Name: missy 26 | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 7:44 PM
hi im not in your position. maybe when the second baby is born you could possiably put the oldest in childcare for maybe one or two days a week... that will give you some time to yourself and some time to spend with the lil one... or maybe try to move abit closer to your family if thats possiable....
hope all is well... and itl all work out in the end... :) 

Name: Sher | Date: May 10th, 2007 10:27 PM
i'm 22 years old..i'm not sure how far along i am..but i'm not sure if i am having the baby or not..i have family and friends that can help me..but i'm scared i wont' be able to give the baby everything that he/she needs...

and for sarah..i would suggest that you find places that you and your baby can go so you can meet other moms and make friends ..its hard but its worth the try...its even harder not having anyone there to support you 

Name: question | Date: May 10th, 2007 10:34 PM
hate to say it michelle,but please don't beg these girls for their babies... 


Name: DAD | Date: May 12th, 2007 2:39 AM
Hi Sarah no one has to be alone no matter.
since me and my family moved to the USA from the UK we have come into contact with a lot of people who need somone to talk to please email us we will be happy to talk ( we do not judge nor do we preach ) [email protected] 

Name: marija | Date: May 12th, 2007 6:32 AM
hi sarah...long time no speak :-)
sounds like your doing it tough so sorry to hear.
i think sarah if you have suffered both normal depression and post natal depression then you are going to probably experience them again :-( only this time you have experience on your side...speak to your doctor about it and im sure they will be able to help you through the pregnancy during and after birth.
i do think that you are going to need some help...can you go to your family (move near them)?
if you cant i strongly suggest you have time out at least 2-3 days a week through daycare. just to give you rest and to give you space to cope with being a single parent....THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING SOME ME TIME...parenting can be demanding, if you are battling outside issues as well as being a single parent ...the best course is for you to look after yourself...then you will become a better mum for your babies

cheer up...talking about it makes the problems easier to face.
i hope you feel better soon :-) 

Name: mama2b2007 | Date: Jun 9th, 2007 7:06 AM
Sarah,

If you are thinking about adoption as a possibility, please consider talking with me. I'm a want-to-be-Mommy in a position to provide a lifetime of love and opportunity, education and attention, to a child. I'm planning to be a stay-at-home Mom and am dreaming and hoping to adopt very soon.

You can find out more about me here: http://www.wanting2adopt.com

I know that this is a challenging time for you and that the decisions will be difficult ones. I wish the very best and hope you'll let me know if there's anything I can do.

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