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My husband and i are looking to adopt. My husbands has a masters in computers science and is a computer programmer. I was a ob sonagrapher untill we decided I was going to be a stay at home mom. We decided we want one more child. I could have another of our own but my heart tells me that I want to give a good home to a child that needs it. We would love your baby as our own and make sure it has everything it needs such as clothing and college etc. I know this is a single parent section but, it looks like some people are looking for options. If you are interested email me at michelle. miller@ pobox.com I wish you the best of luck and love, Michelle ↓
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| Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Apr 8th, 2007 12:09 AM |
| not on here....Thanks.. ↑ |
| Name: roseywosey | Date: Apr 10th, 2007 6:39 AM |
| you cant look for a baby over the internet.. thats just sick. we want our babies!!! go and ring up an adoption agency.. in other words you are wasting your time asking for someones baby on here.. goodluck anyways. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 10th, 2007 2:04 PM |
| Your wrong I know most of you want to keep your babies and I support you 100%. There are some girls on this post that are looking for other options and I figure adoption is better than abortion. I am not trying to steal anyones baby. I have three of my own. My heart tells me that I want to help a mother that wants it and a baby that needs it. I have had several girls email me that are wanting to do private adoptions. So I know it is not for you but, please don't get offended there are lots of girls that are looking to do adoptions. Even if someone wanted to do adoption they parobally not say it on a post because some of the opinions are very harsh. I am only here to help someone if they need and want it. I have a good stable home and a lot of love to share. Do you realize how many kids end up in foster care? You would be shocked and foster care homes are not always nice. I have noticed that a lot of the girls on the due date forum want to get pregnant. Even though I really don't think 14, 15, 16 year old should be having babies. A lot of them do want their babies in fact a lot probally do it on purpose. Anyway I am not posting on the due date crowd. I am posting on the adoption forum and the single parent forum. Everyone on the adoption forum is either looking to adopt or want someone to adopt their baby. I also post on the single parent because, a lot of people go there looking for help. Anyway I don't want someones baby that wants it I want to help someone that want help. I mean even if it means just helping them out how to get an education so their child can have a better life with them. Anyway I wish you the best of luck and God Bless, Michelle ↑ |
| Name: sarah toman | Date: Apr 10th, 2007 11:56 PM |
| I would not give up my baby personally, but I know everything is done on the internet these days. I dont think its wrong for asking. it can happen.. seen worse things....good luck. ↑ |
| Name: lil_dancer77 | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 3:08 AM |
| guess you have a point there Sarah.. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 1:12 PM |
Well I think some people prefer it is more personal. Best of luck to ya'll and your little angels.
Love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: sarah toman | Date: Apr 13th, 2007 12:00 AM |
| Thank you lil_dancer!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 13th, 2007 12:11 AM |
| No one is going to give some weirdo their baby over the internet. ↑ |
| Name: sarah toman | Date: Apr 13th, 2007 12:39 AM |
| I dont think they will necessarily do that.. that is not what I was saying.. I was just meant it does not hurt to ask, form a relationship with someone, then go from there... I wouldnt do it..but like I said.. anything can happen these days!!! ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 13th, 2007 10:58 AM |
| I think the way forward is not for mothers to give up their babies, but for us to help them become good mothers. Being adopted myself, I know first hand that it isn't always an act of love. My biological mother gave me away for no good reason other than she just didn't want to be a responsible parent. Her marriage had broke down, and she didn't want to be a single mother (and before you criticise, I do KNOW that for a fact) and my adopted mother wouldn't have wanted to know me had she been able to have children of her own. That's the facts in adoption in most cases, not all cases, but most cases. And it's a very sad one. It leaves the child feeling unwanted by the biological mother, or second best in the eyes of the adopted parent (no matter how loving) to what could have been. Rarely does any adopted parent want to adopt for any other reason than they can't have their own children. Unless you are adopted yourself (in a closed adoption) you can never fully understand it. I am for mothers keeping their babies if they possibly can. Nature dictates that a child belongs with it's mother, and if we as a society will only HELP young mothers keep their children, whether single or not, instead of trying to benefit from their situations by taking their babies from them, then we will be doing a wonderful thing for those babies, and their mothers. ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 13th, 2007 11:03 AM |
| Also DMT, very rarely are babies put into foster care, at least not long term, they are always adopted very quickly. Foster care moreoften has older children who were abused or neglected by their families. You'd be doing a child a bigger favour by adopting a foster child, not a baby. Everyone wants babies, not many want the older children. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 14th, 2007 1:32 AM |
Breseis,
I totally understand your feelings. My father was in foster care all during his childhood and not a good one I might add. He is a great man though. Your wrong about me though I do not want to adopt because I can't have children I have 3 biological children. 2 boys and a girl. I wanted to adopt to give a good loving home to a child that needs it. Now I know that nothing is better than a good biological mother but, they are not always good. I had a friend that got pregnant at 16 and gave her child up for adoption. The mother at 30 was still blaming that baby for her losing cheerleading and college. She really believed that baby caused it and it wasn't true she would of never went to college even if she hadn't had a baby. I thank God every day she didn't raise that child she would have been very mean to it. I am not here just to adopt when I talk to people I meet when I talk to them on email I also try to help them. There are some mothers though that are out there that even if you try to help are not going to change their mind about how they feel about the baby. Also I would never love an adoptive child less than my own if I would I wouldn't be here. You are right it would be better to get a child out of foster care but, even though I want to help someone I do have to think about the children I already have too. A lot of those children have been through all kinds of abuse and having them here would hurt the children I already have. So that is why I am trying to adopt a child that hasn't already been hurt by someone that didn't want them. Now I serious answer me honestly would you rather be with an adoptive parent that loves and wants you or with a mother that doesn't want you or a mother that lives in a homeless shelter. I have talked to a lady with a baby in a homeless shelter. We are trying to get her out of the shelter and some education so she can support herself. Okay I am just rambling now. Anyway I agree that if a biological mother can and wants to keep her baby that is best but, no matter how much you try that is not always the case. Also I am not here because I can't have children I am here because, I want to give a child a better life. I am also considering after all my children are back in school full time. Going to one of these pregnancy places that help scared teens. I use to be an ob technician. I think these places do dating scans. I would like to go back to work and help pregnant teens figure out how to make a better life for them and their babies. I just can't do that right now untill all my kids are in full time school. I understand what young pregnant women feel. I had my first child at 20 I was single and alone. I did have my parents support. I did keep my baby.
There is not way I would have given him up. I went to school in the morning and worked at night. My mother watched my son. From the ages of 20 to 25 it was really tough but, we made it. If I can help a mother I will. Or if a mother wants to choose adoption I will be there to love that baby. I am sorry for your past and how you feel, but I am sure your adoptive parents love you.
love,
Michelle
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| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 14th, 2007 1:33 AM |
| Sorry I spelled your name wrong! ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 12:20 PM |
| I fully understand your point of view. I wasn't criticising you. I think you're very brave to take in a child which is not your own. My adopted parents don't and have never loved me; I was neglected as a child, and ended up in foster care anyway when I was 12-years-old... My adopted parents found they couldn't love me as I wasn't their own. We still have a relationship somewhat, but I don't feel I have a family at all. The adoption process failed me. Had my mother loved me enough to keep me, at least with biology on side, I'd have stood a better chance of being loved. Now I'm pregnant myself, and mean to do right by my child that neither of my 2 sets of parents could do for me. I do however frown at posts from adoptive parents who say it is an act of love, and encourage mothers to give away their children. It actually angers me, which is why I do not post on the adoption board. Theres not a day goes by that I didn't wish my biological mother had loved me enough to keep me, and that I had never met my adoptive parents. However, I wish you luck. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 15th, 2007 4:46 PM |
Brisies,
Iam so sorry for what you have been through. I don't think anyone should adopt unless you know that you can love a child that is biologically not yours and I know that I can. Briseis I have a big heart and a lot of room for a lot of people. I know that I am not your biological parent or even adoptive parent but, I would be more than happy to be here for you if you need someone. email me at michelle.miller@po box.com I know that you will but, learn from the people that have failed you and know that you will be a better person and a better mother. I am really sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!! EMAIL ME IF YOU NEED SOMEONE
love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 16th, 2007 10:38 AM |
| Thanks for your warm reply Michelle. I'm OK though. Please don't think I said that to seek attention, or to criticise your decision to adopt! God no! I know that the adoption process can often end with fantastic outcomes, and I know that there are many cases when a child is better off being parented by people who are prepared to make the 'sacrifices' that their own biological parents can't or won't. I don't blame my adopted parents, nor am I angry with them. It's fine. :) This is why I called you brave for making the decision to adopt. I know it isn't always easy. If you adopt a child which would otherwise have not had a good life then that's fantastic. x ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 16th, 2007 2:39 PM |
Thanks Breseis,
I appreciate what you said it was very sweet. Remember you don't ever have to be alone. I don't think you were trying to get attention. Everyone has their own opinions and usually for good reason. I understand that and it doesn't bother me. Just remember you don't ever have to be alone and your more than welcome to email me. I don't mind being a shoulder to cry on. Or since you might not have good support you are more than welcome to ask me any questions you have about pregnancy symptoms. I have had three so I know quite a bit about pregnancy. Anyway email me if you need someone.
Love,
MIchelle ↑ |
| Name: breeze | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 12:48 PM |
| michelle u need to get a life u know i wrong u want someone babies and u are wrong being on this site u can make people on here upset and that and that can hurt their babies is that wat u want ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 20th, 2007 2:39 PM |
Why should my post upset anyone. If you are not interested in adoption. I don't even know why you would look at my post so it shouldn't upset you. I don't think that everybody here is looking for adoptions but, some people do come here looking for help. There are some people looking for adoptive parents. I am not trying to take anyones baby that wants it . I am trying to help someone who wants and needs it. I don't know why some people get so offended. It is not like I have to adopt I have children. I just want to help someone and a child that needs it. i am not here to hurt someone. I want to help someone. I am also not the only person on this site that is trying to adopt. This might be your opinion and I respect that but, I do not think that your opininion is same as everybody elses. If you haven't seen woman also come here posting that they are looking for adoptive parents. If you are not interested in adoption then that is great but, at the same time I am not going to deprive someone who is looking for a good home for there child. So many children end up in foster care because of one reason or another. It is sad. My dad grew up in a abusive foster home because his mom and dad decided that they didn't want to be married anymore not did they want their 7 kids. They all grew up in foster care. My dads a great man and didn't deserve that. Anyway sorry if my post bothers you.
love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 21st, 2007 12:29 AM |
| There is no reason why this particular post should upset anyone. But another poster close to term said she felt 'intimidated' by you asking if she was considering adoption, when all she asked was what labour feels like. She didn't even suggest she wanted to give her baby away. It's not nice being asked if you're considering adoption, when you haven't even suggested you might be. Bear in mind that this isn't an adoption forum, and try not to 'intimidate' anyone else. ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 21st, 2007 12:30 AM |
Name: lucy_x • Date: 04/08/2007 08:44:41
Im sorry but no im not looking to give my child away & feel quite intimerdated that you ask ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Apr 21st, 2007 12:36 AM |
| Asking random people if they are considering adoption is as good as saying 'I get the feeling that I'll be a better mother to your baby than you will. I get the feeling you don't want your own baby'. No matter how you dress it up, Michelle. That's the message you're sending out. I think that's what Breeze meant when she accused you of upsetting people. Don't ever ask anyone if they are considering adoption unless they have given you a reason to ask eg saying they're not coping, they don't want their baby etc. It's incredibly rude to do so. Enough said. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 1:52 PM |
I didn't mean to intimidate any one. I saw you post about the name thing I thought that I would tell you about what happened with my son. I got pregnant with my first child before I got married and I did not give him his fathers last. His father and I were not getting married. I ended up marrying someone else five years later. We wanted to change his last name to my husbands name. His biological father wouldn't let us do that. So now he is 12 and I have had two more children and he is the only one without his fathers last name. Him keeping my last name seemed the right thing to do at the time but, I didn't think about the fact that my last name would change someday. I know that you and your fiance are suppose to get married in three years. I hope that happens for you but, three years is a long time. If in three years for some reason the two of you don't end up getting married do you think he will still be there for the baby. If you think he would still be there for your baby it might be better for your baby to have his last name so he has a feeling of belonging somewhere. I am sure that someday you will get married and if it doesn't end up being with your fiance your baby will be the only one with your maiden name. If you two end up getting married then that would be great because you will all have the same name. As they get older believe it or not having a name tied to one of their parents does matter to them.
Love,
Michelle ↑ |
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| Name: TAKIRA AND CHRISTOPHER | Date: Dec 4th, 2010 10:58 PM |
| hi were a young couple in phoenix that are looking to care for a child with out going through and pay insane amounts of money were are in phoenix AZ my husband has a steady job and we have a stable home i am a house wife we have been married for a yr we know each other for 4 yrs if you would like to know more are is interested please contact us via email at [email protected] thank you ↑ |
| Name: wesa891 | Date: Mar 18th, 2013 2:56 AM |
| Me and my wife can't afford an adoption agency n I'm not sure how old this post is..we both work have a home and want a baby. Give it a good home and tlc. I cnt concive. Email me at [email protected] thank you Sara ↑ |
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