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Name: kimmeh

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Hi, I am 25 years old and have 1 step daughter I have been trying to have children for 5 years and I was over the moon to find out my partner and I are having our first baby but now I have been told I do have a risk of my baby having downs.
I do not know what to do I can not have the fluid test as I am high risk and it will 80% cause a miscarrage.
I also work in disability care and know alot of the clients I have would prefer not to be here but alot of people get told thair baby could have downs and they don't I really don't know what to do I work in disability care that dose not mean I want my child to have it.
is there any mothers on here that have children with a disability and would have not kept it if they knew? I dont know whats more mean to have it or not to have it It's killing me and just wanted some advice ↓

Name: lorraine byrne | Date: Jan 11th, 2009 3:46 AM

I really feel for you because it must be so frightening to be told this. Fortunately it was never detected that my little boy had down syndrome and to be honest i am happy they never found out because the fear of the unknown is a lot worse than reality and if we had of been told , i can say i honestly dont know what choice we would have made. I look at my 7 year old boy now and if i knew then what i know now i deffinitely wouldnt have been so frightened and scared. He is a gorgeous little boy and we are so proud to be his parents. When we were told he had down syndrom we could not imagine having a child with special needs and very selfishly we thought about our future in caring for him forever. But looking at him now we neednt have worried because he is the most independent person i know. ↑

Name: Vickie | Date: Aug 14th, 2009 1:26 AM

i how are you ↑

Name: vickie | Date: Aug 14th, 2009 1:28 AM

my son has downs and he is 18 months and he is the best thing that could have happened to me ↑

Name: vickie | Date: Aug 17th, 2009 2:01 AM

hello ↑

Name: belinda | Date: Jan 31st, 2010 5:19 AM

my 3 yr old son has downs. he has brought so much joy to our family every day there is a smile on his face he loves music and can dance his heart away. i worried greatly while pregnant with him i didn't think i would be able to handle this ,but i was wrong he may be slower at some things but life is great and i'm ok with this. don't worry enjoy your pregnancy. ↑

Name: DarlingDurelle | Date: Apr 20th, 2010 1:40 PM

Hi Kimmeh, I have a 2 year old who has down syndrome. I did not find out until he was born. We all have/make choices we have to live with everyday. I can tell you that he is a joy and having him has kept me grounded. The care and love that it takes to care for anyone who needs special attention, will teach us all what life is all about. God utilizes our strength to show the world that we are an image of God. God bless! ↑

Name: Tara Radcliffe | Date: Jun 11th, 2010 12:00 AM

Hi ladies, i have a 6 yr old son with down syndrome i was wondering if other than SSI there was another program anyone knows of that helps with financial assistance? I am a stay at home mom and have terrible anxiety about working and leaving my son and would like to just be home with him but cant cut it financially. ↑

Name: shabana | Date: Jun 12th, 2010 2:31 PM

what about disabilty allowance and income sopport ↑