I guess I feel like all the focus is on moms who work b/c they have to to pay bills, single moms etc. I have worked since I was fifteen. We could probably get by on one income but I like my job. My job does provide all of our insurance, but my husband could find something with insurance if he had to. He would probably be doing something he didn't like,however.
I like the feeling of accomplishment my job brings to me, the fact that we already have a college fund set up for our kids, my retirement and 401K so we will not be a burden on our kids when we retire and not have enough. Plus I like the fact that if anything ever happend to my husband I could support myself and our kids.
I just don't think I could be a sahm. Don't everyone jump down my throat, there is nothing wrong about that, it's just not for me.
anyone else feel the way i do? ↓
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| Name: jamberrt | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 12:01 AM |
| People are way too judgemental. If your kids are safe, happy, and know they are loved, it's nobody's business. Our kids are adopted and we went to a private agency at one point and there were birth moms who wanted sahm's and some who wanted full-time working moms because their own childhood was positive and they were daycare...I think liking your job is a bonus! ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 3:54 AM |
| Congrats on liking your job!! If your happy then you have won half the battle of raising kids...Well done!! ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 4:42 PM |
| I congratulate you for feeling as you do,you are a smart thinker,good for you!!! :) ↑ |
| Name: koz | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 11:09 PM |
| i work right now prn(as needed) However lately they haven't needed me! i am an oncology nurse and really love my job. i've been at that hosp and on that floor for 7 yrs. however, ever since the birth of my little girl( i also have 3 boys) my heart isn't where it used to be! Maybe cuz this is my last child and i want to savor every second! But i do really love the job, and the patients! Maybe once my children are older, I'll be able to be full hearted with it again! ↑ |
| Name: LuckyMom | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 11:13 PM |
I was a sahm until my kids were all in school. After that I only worked from time to time because my kids wanted me home and would do things so I would have to quit. I think my youngest was in 7th grade before she ever let me have a working life and I love it!
Don't get me wrong though...I loved staying home with the kids too. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 3:43 PM |
| I love my job. I have a place where im me not mom or wife. I stayed home for 12 years and now its my turn. ↑ |
| Name: jamberrt | Date: Oct 24th, 2006 2:16 PM |
| Layne do you work full time? I work 3 days a week and LOVE getting out...I don't love my job. It's better because I started a new position Sept. 1 but don't like my new boss....always trading. Nothing's perfect. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Oct 24th, 2006 3:42 PM |
| I work about 25-28 hours a week. I work at Dollar general. It doesnt pay the best but its a paycheck I havent gotten in many years so Im happy. Our store is in the top 8% in the country. for profit, and apperance. we take great pride in it. My boss is the hardest working women I ever met and i consider her a wonderful new friend. as the other ladies I work with. I truely feel blessed. But Im home 2-3 days a week so It is a good situation for the whole family ↑ |
| Name: laurac | Date: Jan 1st, 2007 9:10 PM |
| i like my job, i work at a daycare it is so much fun, and my daughter comes with me one day a week, it doesn't pay the greatest, but i'd go crazy stying home all day!!! ↑ |
| Name: Leala | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 12:39 AM |
| i work now becouse i have to , i am recently divorced with 1 child. before i did it becouse i am not really a person that can stay home , sure that is a fulltime job all on its own i am not saying that at all it just wasnt for me , i would have bouts of depression while at home all day by myself that was before my son , but when i had him i already had my bussiness up and running and couldnt very well abandon it. ↑ |
| Name: billy22 | Date: Jan 5th, 2007 12:48 AM |
| I work now because it helps us w/ a bit of extra money after paying bills. i only work part time, so I am the "taxi" with the kids and all their activities:) I also go to school part time, but my children are older and don't need me at home as much, but I like being home when they get home from school and I like being home to send them off to school. There was a time, though, when it wasn't like that and I had to leave them w/ the sitter at very young ages. Now I am thankful to have the life that I have now:) ↑ |
| Name: Bluebird | Date: Jan 29th, 2007 3:11 AM |
| of course I work because I want to. I have a 8 & 5 year old and I drive a school bus, loving every minute of it!! ↑ |
| Name: Jocelyn | Date: Mar 23rd, 2007 3:05 AM |
| Yes, I work because I want to. I adore my 2 year old son, who has been in daycare since he was 10 weeks old. He is happy, healthy and well adjusted. I actually think he is smarter than lots of other children who do stay at home, because he gets so much education at "school" (that's what we call his daycare). I never envisioned myself as a stay at home mom, and have no desire to ever do that. I think it is crazy how a lot of stay at home moms criticize moms who work because they want to. I don't criticize them, it is a personal choice. I need the structure of going to work everyday, to keep myself sane. It's nice to see that others feel kind of the same way. ↑ |
| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Mar 23rd, 2007 11:48 AM |
Jocelyn,
i'm going to disagree with your comment about your child being smarter than stay at home children. yes, your child is getting a heads up with playing with other children and getting in a routine like they would be in actual school, but i wouldn't say your child is smarter. chlidren can learn just as much in "daycare" than they could staying at home with their parents during the day..your being way to jugdemental. i take offense to your comment. actually, i had my son in daycare for a couple of months when i went to school, and i must say that he learns more at home with me than in daycare. there are going to be alot of stay at home moms that take offense too for that comment. now, i stay at home and don't critize NO ONE for working b/c they want to...some women love staying at home, while others love working plain and simple. ↑ |
| Name: Angela1 | Date: Mar 24th, 2007 5:47 PM |
| I do! I only work P/T because I cant afford daycare costs. But I do it for the social aspect of it! I actually think it makes me a better mom. Gets me away from my kids for a few hours! keeps me grounded I think! ↑ |
| Name: Jocelyn | Date: Mar 24th, 2007 9:32 PM |
Tubbybubble,
Sorry didn't mean to offend anyone, I think every mom tends to maybe think their child is more advanced then others, it's hard to be objective sometimes! But really though his daycare center does do a good job working with the children there, it's not just free play all day long. Maybe that's not the way it is at other daycare centers I don't know. And also, this being the working moms forum I kind of thought that's the kinds of moms that I'd be sharing my opinions with. So sorry again, my comment was certainly not intended to offend stay at home moms!! ↑ |
| Name: 2010Mom | Date: Apr 4th, 2007 9:51 PM |
| I am a SAHM, have been for 5 years and it's driving me crazy. I work from home part-time and feel pulled in so many directions I can't seem to do any job as well as I'd like. I love my job and I want to maintain it for now and in 3 1/2 years when my youngest is in kindergarten I will be able to work more hours and still be home. That is what I'm holding on to. For now being a SAHM is not for me, but without changing jobs I can't afford childcare. How do SAHMs do it? Any advice on handling a 2 year old that screams 70% of the day and takes 10 minutes to turn around and sit down so I can latch him into his carseat? I have no prior experience with kids and don't know why I ever thought being home with them would be a good idea. I thought being a Mom would come naturally and I'd enjoy it, but I couldn't have been more wrong. I definitely should be a working Mom. I applaud the SAHMs for their patience and ability to perserve a sense of self through it all. I applaud that Working Moms for doing their best to earn a living and still provide good quality time with their children. Each to their own, no one can judge without walking in the others shoes. We are all doing our best! ↑ |
| Name: pattilynn35 | Date: Apr 5th, 2007 1:33 AM |
| I work because I have to being a single mother. I feel as if I had enough money to not work I still like my job enough to want to do it atleast part-time ↑ |
| Name: aprilcall | Date: Apr 3rd, 2008 5:39 PM |
| I miss work so much. Been sahm 14 months. Bored. My husband can't understand why i'm not happy and grateful..... ↑ |
| Name: luca | Date: May 12th, 2008 9:33 AM |
| hi i m luca i like football.. ↑ |
| Name: minkidi | Date: May 14th, 2008 4:10 PM |
| I feel you. I had the option of taking unpaid leave from my employer but i couldn't stand the thought of just staying at home and waiting for the baby to wake up so I breastfeed. I kinda feel lyk a bad mommy stimes.. ↑ |
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