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I went to dinner last night with some of my dearest friends, all of whom are stay-at-home mom's. I am a mom of a 4 year old and 1 month old and have decided to stay home for 6 months with the baby before going back to work. However, in the past month I have really decided that working wasn't so bad after all (I've always felt guity that I wasn't a SAHM with my first child)... and when I said that at dinner, you would have thought I murdered someone! They can't understand it at all and think I am paying other people to raise my children. Anyone ever have this type of experience???? ↓
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| Name: BabyPursuit | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 1:30 AM |
| I am at home with my 1 month old right now as we speak. A part of me is SO looking forward to going back to work in a few more weeks; then the other part is a little apprehensive. But only because someone else will be caring for my little one. I have no problem "paying other people to raise my children". They obviously have a gift to do so and want to make a living--just as I do. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 3:43 AM |
| There is NOT a gift of "raising someone elses children". I was one of those "gifted" ones. Dreaded every second of dealing with others kids all day, couldn't wait to get home. By the way, if a daycare worker doesn't like your kid, your kid only gets attention when they're getting yelled at. I've worked in 3 daycares, so I have experience, and know what goes on there. Also, they hire those people off the street. They didn't send in my background check in till I was there over a week. Daycare providers lie to the parents, like second nature. Cause they don't really have a choice. You are told by the director, when something happens to the kid(s), exactly what to say to the parent. This keeps the daycare looking good, because the situation doesn't seem as bad as it really was 3 hours before you got there! I witnesses a four year old get called a dirty mexican. I turned her into the owner, and that lady was still working there a month later! I could go on forever, of all the things I saw go on in those kid farms. That's what they are. Parents who try to find a "great" daycare for their kids, good luck cause there isn't one. The center and people may seem nice, but take it from someone who has been around the block in the daycare field. It is all an act. Think about it. If you were in those workers position, would you be cool, calm, and collected about watching a load of kids you don't even know. I doubt it. Do yourselves a favor, and stay home as much as you can. Oh, and don't get a job at the center thinking you are going to work with your baby. You can't work in the same room as your child, and they treat staff kids just as bad, if not worse. I took my baby there for a few months, to see how it would go. How would you respond if your seven month old got stepped over 2 days straight 2-3 different times when he needed something. I watched the whole thing. Some fat bitch went to get a cupcake, leaving my baby screaming on the floor, while the other teacher in the room was already busy with another baby. That was only one of the incidences. I won't go on any further, hopefully, you get my point. ↑ |
| Name: Beth | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 4:13 PM |
| When I was in college I worked at a private school in their extended day department and I will agree that working w/ children is hard.. it's exactly why I changed my major, I was going for elementary education originally. But, I have my son in a very good private preschool, I know the director of the church school personally and LOVE it.... my daughter will go there when she is old enough but in the mean time, that is the hardest part of it all --- finding a good place for a baby to attend. I think staying at home is beneficial but in this day and time, you can provide so much more to your children if you work -- my children will attend a private school where I know they will get a jump start on their education and hopefully we will be able to provide experiences to them that otherwise wouldn't be happening if I wasn't contributing financially. I came online to look for support from other working moms who might feel judged by stay at home mom's - i feel like I constantly have to 'talk myself up' when it comes to working because the SAHM really dont agree with my decision and I sometimes walk away from them feeling inadequate. And that's terrible! Because I have worked hard for the past 10 years in the same profession and have made a great career for myself. So, I told my husband that I needed to find some other moms who work to talk to - ones that can understand where I'm coming from! :) ↑ |
| Name: BabyPursuit | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 6:44 PM |
| Unfortunately there are extreme circumstances where care is substandard-the same with anything in life (daycare, schooling, hospitals, eldercare). As a career advocate I adopt the same values in my own life: to educate myself on a facilty, know the law and my rights (in this case) as a parent. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Jan 23rd, 2008 8:31 PM |
| From what I've seen, you can educate yourself on whatever you want in a daycare facility, and that won't be enough. There were many intelligent parents that brought their children to all 3 facilities I worked in, and they were completely clueless about what went on during the day. I remember one child that would be allowed to cry ALL DAY LONG, except feedings and diaper changes, of course. drove us nuts, cause she was dubbed "spoiled". She was one of those who wanted to be held constantly, but she was "annoying" cause she cried endlessly, so everyone got irritated with her, cause she never shut up. But, about fifteen minutes before her mom or dad was about to show up, someone would pick her up, hold her until they got there, and had her smiling for the camera, so to speak. One time, she was crying so hard, there was no noise comming out. According to the director, "If she is that spoiled, don't hold her unless it is absolutely necassary, cause we don't want to make her worse." And this was one of the "Best" child care facilities in my city. ↑ |
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