| Name: tj2728 | Date: Mar 5th, 2008 5:25 PM |
| My son is 14 he has adhd, odd and suspected aspergers syndrome, he was diagnosed really late at age 14. My husband and i have managed his behaviour at home without medication until dec 07 when he started taking concerta xl. He is now attending his 3rd senior school, which is brilliant, but it only has around 6 students on any 1 day, he has learnt so much more in the couple of months he has been compared to years at his other schools. I have spoken to other parents with children with similar or the same problems and everyone agrees mainstream schools are not trained enough in dealing or teaching our children the government need to do more to accommodate them without making them feel like outcasts. ↑ |
| Name: Kathy | Date: Mar 5th, 2008 10:36 PM |
| I'm so sorry! I truly believe it's as hard on the mom. We just want them to be okay. Sometimes I try to come up with a game idea to help. I told my 10 year old, "when your feeling like you are getting hyper, start staring at the teacher to keep your mind on the "right" thing. See how long you can stare before you blink". Make it a game. ADHD's seams to like short games. Or when your mind is in the crazy mood or after the teacher has called you down twice, try to sit on your hands and see how long you can do that. It may seam mean in a way. But it's just ways that he can train himself to recognize, and then refocus. ↑ |
| Name: anthills mom | Date: Mar 6th, 2008 10:41 PM |
| I am goin through the same thing. my son is 8 in the 3rd grade and he has major difficulties concentrating in class, he has an attention span of 3 mins if that. his teacher is constently writing him up i feel what is that gonna do but make her happy. i agree that the school may not wanna deal with him anymore and no matter how much i fight or take him to doctors they dont understand what it is hes going through ↑ |
| Name: gumball | Date: Mar 7th, 2008 11:18 AM |
| hi im "gumballs" daughter and i am 16 years old. I understand what your son is going thru because im been treated almost the same way at school, I have been diagnosed with dysleksia at the neuropsychologist when i was 9,...but the teachers really didnt seem to care,...they didnt take my condition in consideration at all,......i had to get diagnosed yet again 1 more time just to sattify their disbeleives, i am now getting analised for adhd and i hope it will sattisfy them this time,...but now its too late because of all the wasted years i spent in shcool with teachers that didnt give me the right education i was intiteled to,......ending school with low grades is the outcome of everything i faught for. so i understand what your son is going thru,......teachers that dont have time or energy for someone with xtra needs really have to update their education skills. ↑ |
| Name: sasha_e100 | Date: Mar 7th, 2008 3:36 PM |
| My son is ten and last year were having the same problems , he is hated by his school teachers he is made to stay in at play times while all the others are having fun . the teachers try to tell me that he is a trubble maker !!!!! and to answer your question having your son tested for A.D.H.D is the right choice but unfortunatly that is never enought for them . my son was medicated at the age of 6 and it has helped no end, but as far as it goes with the schools it never gets better the scools will do anything for an easy life . stick with it do whats best for your son . all the best x x x x your not alone . ↑ |
| Name: mom2nadhdson | Date: Mar 12th, 2008 10:27 AM |
| MADMOM HAVE YOU CONCIDER LOOKING IN ON THE 504 PLAN OR THE IEP , I WOULD LOOK INTO IT HAVE YOUR DR WRITE A THING FOR THE SCHOOL . AND WHEN YOU GO THROUGH THEN THEY CANNOT DO THIS . YOU CAN TAKE THEM TO COURT ... ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: Mar 18th, 2008 1:30 PM |
| help!! My husband and my adhd son can't get long I am afraid I may have divorce him to get rid of the pain he causes my son and the blame he puts on me ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: Mar 18th, 2008 1:34 PM |
| The same thing happened to me.I fought the teachers for 3 years.Until I went to a doc and he "said if your son ws a diabetic would yo give him Insulin".I was so upset that i felt like I was the worst mom ever my son had a serious medical condidtion and I ignored it.Now he is on stratara and is a differnt child ↑ |
| Name: LJC | Date: Apr 16th, 2008 7:36 PM |
| Yes, my son is 26 and has ADHD. He was always in trouble at school. Most of the other kids did not like him, he did not treat girls nice at all. He started getting in trouble in Jr High. He was always disrespectful to me. Now at 26 he is married and has a baby. I took off work to keep my grandson today because his mother was sick. We bought our grandbaby a beautiful crib and the assembly that goes with it, matching sheet, pads, etc. My son is so selfish, the baby doesn't sleep int he crib yet. I went over to their house and he had put his huge bow case, a big box and had the crib loaded up with junk. Today when he picked the baby up I said would you do me a favor. Would you take all that stuff out of the crib. He cussed and said it wasn't hurting anything. I said it is dirty and we paid a lot for the crib and pads,etc. He went into a rage and said get the baby ready we are leaving and you will not babysit him again. I will pay someone. Yea you won't keep him again. The baby isn't even a month yet and he already trying to hurt me which he has done a lot. His ADHD comes out in rage. I have cried and cried. I never know if he will change his mind or not. He is such a disgusting person. I hope your son isn't ADHD. Your school should try and work with your son more and not give up on him. If he has ADHD or ADD you can do an IEP (individual education plan) and stop them from putting him in the hall and make them work with him. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Apr 19th, 2008 11:27 AM |
| I know is exactly how you feel, my daughter is 5 she has adhd, and everone seems to hates her, the school doesnt want herther, for them i have had my daughe, nothing is ever good enough ↑ |
| Name: Lori sick of dealing with this | Date: Apr 19th, 2008 11:39 AM |
| I know exatly how you feel my daughter is five, and she started kindergaten this year, she was so excited then bam!!! On her very first day the schools calling me saying please come pick her up she wont sit still, well it just progressed from them they told me either you get her in to see a therapist or she cant come to school until shes calm , So i did everything they wanted shes now been offically diagnosed with having adhd and still her being on meds and seeing a therapist once a week is not enough, they still nag me, call me every other day, im so stressed, I cant think about anything else but oh my gosh when is the school gonna call, Im at my wits end i have just stopped dealing with them i now let my daughters therapist call them, but they still nag me and always tell me how bad she is, Whats wrong with the school systems today???? ↑ |
| Name: Amber | Date: May 4th, 2008 7:30 PM |
| Each child is different in their own way. They should be treated and taken care of the best way for them. The school system may get a little pushy to make accusations but, you as a parent should make sure that thier tooken care of. ↑ |
| Name: helenmcgrath35 | Date: May 27th, 2008 8:32 AM |
| yes i have the same problems my son is 7 and is going to hospital been testing for adhd, people dont understand what it is like for the child and parent, it is easy to judge ↑ |
| Name: Steve | Date: Sep 6th, 2008 5:42 AM |
| My son as a form autism the school he as just left had a small group of teachers that can only be described as bullys when he had bad days he was just shouted at. My wife who works as a kitchen assistant at the school was told by one of the teachers that she could F'''''''''ing kill him the worst day was when he was locked in a room on is own this incident had an averse affect on my son and he changed in the end they employed some one to stay with him in a very small room some of the Teachers who were not in this group of bullys where very upset when they heard what had happened to my son we tried to get help from the governors and we tried to get help from the county but everyone just passed the buck ,My son is a very intelligent boy we were told once he was the best at maths in the school .The good news is he as just started a School with a special autism base and so far he loves it and the Teachers seem to understand is problems. I have only scratched the surface of what goes on at this school and what we have been through many other Children are having the same problems with the same teachers at this school. Thank you for reading my story. ↑ |
| Name: Katie | Date: Oct 4th, 2008 7:54 PM |
| My is in the special class with ADHD, My son is facing the same problem, his teacher is trying to put him in another school too, I am thinking if I can sue her or get her sacked for not able to control him in the class room .... ↑ |
| Name: jenna | Date: Oct 7th, 2008 7:01 AM |
| my son is 12 also,everyday he is bullied by the other kids because he is differrent,its so upsetting,i feel he shouldnt be in mainstream school for his own saftey,but the school does not agree,but they have just sent a letter to me saying his reading and writing is of a 7 year old!i feel like im hitting my head against a brick wall!so ur not on ur own hunny! ↑ |
| Name: Momamary | Date: Oct 23rd, 2008 8:20 PM |
| I just went to a thing today about school consolidation & kids at the extreme ends of the bell curve - like your son. The speaker had 5 grown children himself ranging from a physician to child with mental retardation & epilepsy. The key is that EACH child has special needs for the kids at the ends of the curves the services that they need may not be available in the main stream venues that we funnel our kids in. I would rejoice if they would fund a school that would meet my son's needs - rather than treat him just as how you outlined. I would encourage you to visit the school personally and formulate your thoughts on the school. I have to agree a fresh start somewhere else may be the right move - only you as a mother can tell! ↑ |
| Name: rileys mom | Date: Oct 23rd, 2008 9:49 PM |
I have read the book HOW TO RAISE A SON The writers are associated with a speak of Waldorf schools. These schools have a different method of education.
My son's kindergarten teacher didn't like him. I didn't realize how bad until his 1st grade teacher was completely different. His diagnosis is definetly a label that works against him at school. ↑ |
| Name: Arlene Stanlake | Date: Oct 26th, 2008 10:17 PM |
| I have worked in schools 27 years before I retired as an administrative secretary. The teachers don't hate your son. He may be ADHD. Before you move him to another school make sure you have him tested, that way, he will have a fresh start, and you may know the problem. Make sure you are open and honest with the teachers, and don't mistrust them. If you mistrust them, they feel uncomfortable and that may present problems. They have gone to university to become teachers, and they really like kids. ↑ |
| Name: nicole | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 3:29 PM |
| my boy deago said that everybody hates him what do i tell him ↑ |
| Name: stefy77 | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 7:47 PM |
| Yes I know how you feel my son is 6 has just been tested and not on meds yet and I feel like his teacher just hates him ↑ |
| Name: andromeda | Date: Jan 2nd, 2009 10:48 PM |
| I have seven year old twins that have been kicked out of school, church and we have been kicked out of our home because of their behavior. And all I can get anyone to tell me is it s because of adhd. ↑ |
| Name: tina | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 4:14 PM |
| i went thru something very simular. just get him diagnosed asap, and stand your grounds with the school. they are harming your child if treating him badly. let the school know you are doing your best, and they need to do theres. cole.tina@sbcglobal.net ↑ |
| Name: desperatemom | Date: May 5th, 2009 3:09 PM |
| My son's school acted that way too!!! Finally after threats to give my son 3 day suspension for misconduct, I had said enough. When they diagnosed him, the school acted like they couldn't believe that he had ADHD. I am really tired of people that don't believe this disorder exists. I am glad to have found others that experience the same. ↑ |
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