Hi. I'm a 26 year old hispanic/german woman who is looking to find a good home for my baby. I myself was adopted at birth and like my birth mom would prefer to have a closed adoption. There are certain things I would like my baby to know but I'm sure we can discuss that at a later time.
I have been going to the doctor regularly and my baby is in perfect health.
My reason for considering giving my baby up for adopting is because I'm worried I'm not at a point in my life were I can financially afford to have a child and to me that just wouldn't be fair. I grew up in a well off family and desire the same for my child.
I can not afford to do this on my own and will need financial assistance for doctors bills, maternity clothes, and living expenses since my doctor says I will probaly have to take the last 2 mths of pregnancy off from work. I'm not looking to do anything illegal so please do not think that but I am well aware that financial assistance can be provided to the birth mother to help with expenses and I definitly need it.
Please email me at [email protected] ↓
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| Name: Elizabeth | Date: May 3rd, 2006 4:35 PM |
| I sent you an email *smiles* ↑ |
| Name: justsoyouknow | Date: May 3rd, 2006 4:35 PM |
| every state limits the amount of financial assistance an adoptive parent can pay to a birth mother. This limit is usually $1000. Better contact social services for help if you are looking for someone to pay your way. ↑ |
| Name: Jessie | Date: May 3rd, 2006 6:24 PM |
| Shannon, can you tell us a little more about yourself you can email me at [email protected] Thanks! and I look forward to hearing from you! Jessie and Landon ↑ |
| Name: shannon | Date: May 4th, 2006 2:09 AM |
| I'm not looking for someone to pay my way. I am looking for a family who is willing to make sure their baby to be is taking care of prior to birth. I do not qualify for wic nor do I qualify for medicare and I definitly can not pay 500 a mth for insurance. So I am caught in a tough situation hence the reason I am here in search of the help that is needed. If could afford to pay for all the exspenses that goes into having a baby then I could afford to keep my baby but I know that at this time I can not ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: May 4th, 2006 8:23 PM |
Hi, Shannon...
Just wanted to offer you my support and encouragement in your situation. It sounds like you're kind of in a tough situation and I wish you all the best.
My husband are hoping to begin our family through the miracle of adoption and would be open to paying some birth mommy expenses, as allowed by law, of course. All these expenses would have to be sent through our attorney and would be paid directly to utiity companies, landlords, physicians, etc., which i'm sure you are aware of.
If you wouldn't mind defining 'well off', it might help many of us hopeful adoptive parents know if we would even meet your criteria or not. I can only speak for us, but we live comfortably within our finances. Our baby will have everything it needs and many of it's wants as well. We do, however, believe that love and security go far beyond the realms of money.
If you are interested in chatting with us... please let me know!
Sincerely,
Lisa ↑ |
| Name: Kaylee | Date: May 4th, 2006 9:35 PM |
| Hi Shannon, I think we could all do with a little bit of financial support but I don't think that you can base what you are looking for in adoptive parents by what money they can give you. I'm pregnant at the moment and am also looking for adoptive parents. I have 2 year old twins and am 17, I can't afford another baby. It's a real struggle financially, I work full time and also am studying to graduate High School and go to College. I understand that you might need help for dr's bills, I personally qualify for Medicaid so therefore I consider myself lucky. There are people in the world who dont even have access to clean water. I also grew up a luxury lifestyle with everything I wanted but my parents kicked me out when they found out I was pregnant and havnt seen them since the day they threw a suitcase at me and told me I had 5 minutes to get what I wanted to take with me. You say you come from a well off family, couldnt your family help you fiancially? You say you cant work in the last 2 months, what do you work as? I work in Wal-Mart and am on my feet all day, I don't think I'll be able to work in my last month of pregnancy if my pregnancy with the twins is anything to go by. I'm very worried about what I'm gona do moneywise in that month and for a few weeks after birth, but I have to get on, and scrimp and save eveything I can now, which by what I calculate by that I won't have enough money to survive a week. Financial help is appreciated when offered, but howcan you ask? Dont you have any pride? You cant manipulate parents who desperatly want to have a baby for financial benefit. You're 26 and (a 17 year old) is telling you to grow up!!!!!!!!!! If you find lovely parents are you going to disregard them because they don't want to foot you bills? You're a grown woman, put yourself in their place. Find a good home for your baby, thats whats important and thats exactly what I'm looking for. I live in the 'slums', if you want to put it that way, am currently a single mommy to twins with no financial support from their father, no friends, no family. Lifes a struggle, but I'm a great believer in; everything happens for a reason. Maybe someday I'll lead a better life when I graduate college but you never know what life will throw at you. ↑ |
| Name: Barbie | Date: May 4th, 2006 10:02 PM |
Sorry to hijack this thread, but I just want to Kaylee to know that I *adore* her. She is a birth mommy I would be proud to know. You cannot ask for a better BM, by the looks of it.
Regards,
Barbie ↑ |
| Name: chloe | Date: May 5th, 2006 12:23 AM |
Kaylee,
It's refreshing to run across a posting from someone with so much maturity.
My husband and I just went through a failed adoption and would love to get to know you. Please email or im me on messanger at [email protected].
Blessings to you,
Chloe ↑ |
| Name: Chelsea | Date: May 5th, 2006 12:25 AM |
Shannon,
I'm so sorry you have found yourself in this situation. My husband and I have a four year old daughter through open adoption that is hispanic/caucasion. We are desperately wanting another baby. Please email me at [email protected] so we can get to know each other. ↑ |
| Name: To Kaylee, from Carolyn | Date: May 5th, 2006 3:49 AM |
Dear Kaylee-
You are one young lady that is very level headed and we would love to get to know you if you are looking for wonderful adoptive parents and a beautiful home for your little one. You sound like the perfect birthmom to us !
We are Carolyn & Louis in Colorado, and we would love to talk to you about adopting your baby !
Our website is www.readytoadopt.com/carolynandlouis/
Or you can email us at [email protected]
Thank you ! God bless !
Carolyn & Louis
1-800-643-2962 ↑ |
| Name: Kaylee! | Date: May 5th, 2006 4:02 AM |
| Wow! You are mature beyond your years and God has something special planned for you and your family! Best wishes!! Jessie and Landon Pohl ↑ |
| Name: Carla | Date: May 9th, 2006 1:59 AM |
Hi Kaylee,
Very well said. I don't know what you are seeking in adoptive parents but if you like you can email me. I am interested in adopting but also if you want to keep the baby maybe I can help. Dunno, but you just sound like a great person to know.
Email me [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: want2beparents | Date: May 9th, 2006 2:21 AM |
Kaylee,
Please contact us at [email protected] or on yahoo at [email protected], we would love to chat with you ↑ |
| Name: Mrs. A.M. | Date: May 9th, 2006 2:52 AM |
| I am sorry hun but the post about limits was right. In our state gifts can not be more than $50 and I have to say if someone did actually agrre to pay your way and the court found out about it ....it would cancel the whole adoption....its illegal to pay over the states amount and it varys for every state. and In your place yes I would be concerned about my bills ...but the most important thing should be to find a family who you feel would love and cherish your child always. A home you wouldn't ever have second thoughts about placeing in. That is the number one thing. I wish you the very best of luck and hope you do what is right for that baby. ↑ |
| Name: Misty | Date: May 9th, 2006 3:31 AM |
Hey Kaylee,
I have been trying to get in touch with you. I send an email with my information. I am glad you are so mature about this. Please contact me and let me know what you decide I would love to know either way chosen or not for your child. Thanks Misty [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Carey | Date: May 9th, 2006 6:17 PM |
Hi Shannon....
I sent you an email, but haven't heard from you. Hope you got it! ↑ |
| Name: ??? | Date: May 9th, 2006 6:18 PM |
| Why is everyone responding to Kaylee on here when this post was from Shannon?? ↑ |
| Name: ............ | Date: May 10th, 2006 1:58 PM |
| if u look shannon hasnt wrote on her board but once and that was at the beginning so what if some one takes her board if shannon wanted her board then she needs to post on it and keep up with it and respond to people asking her stuff ↑ |
| Name: crystal clostio | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:46 PM |
| i am looking to adopt a child please contact me and we can talk [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: christie29 | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 11:31 PM |
| Shannon,hello how are you doin?I hope that Im not to late in responding to you.If im not please respond to me.Me and my husband feel that maybe we can help you and would love to talk with you on the phone as well,so please email us and we will give you our #.We are not rich by any means but do feel that we can give your precious baby all that it needs and wants to be happy.we have 2 children now that have all the love and material things a child could need.they would love to have a baby sis/bro to share in their love and happiness.Best wishes and God Bless!Christie ↑ |
| Name: Jessica Sue | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 7:50 PM |
I would be interested.
Please contact me.
jessica sue ↑ |
| Name: craigandheather | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 11:02 PM |
Shannon,
Please consider my husband and I as parents, you can find our profile under www.ldsfamilyservices.org
You just go to birthparents, search adoption profiles, and type in our name as craigandheather and our profile is there!
There is help for mothers in your situation with those needs, please consider contacting us, thank you.
Heather ↑ |
| Name: Jessica Sue | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 6:50 PM |
PLease contact me.
Jessica Sue ↑ |
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