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Name: justified06

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Hello. I had a situation that I need help with. I was at my doctor's appointment and I met a lady that is due within the next week. She started talking about her other 2 children and then asked if I had children. I told her no and starting talking to her about all the miscarriages I had. We ended up talking for over a hour. Towards the end of the conversation she stated that she was going to give her baby up because she doesn't have the finances to care for him. We talked a little more and the conversation ended with her asking me to adopt her child. I told her that I would love to. She got my phone number and I got hers and she's going to call when she is in labor. My problem is that I don't have a home study and I travel about 60 miles to see my doctor(wonderful doctor) . The doctor problem is the doctor is in another state. I drive 60 miles and that places me in another state. Is there anything I can do so that I can adopt this child? I contacted a social worker and she is going to start the process on Monday (finger printing and references) but by the time that comes back she will have the baby already. I spoke with a law firm here in town and they said the person who deals with adoptions is out of the office until Tuesday. Is there anything I can do because my homestudy will not be completed by the time she has this baby? Is there any kind of temporary waiver I can apply for? Please let me know. ↓

Name: nyjocool | Date: May 13th, 2007 2:31 PM

Sorry, I really can't give you specific help as I don't know what state you are in. I would advise that first thing Monday morning, you call an adoption attorney and speak to one. Don't wait another day. If you go to www.adoptionattorneys.org and click on member directory, you can find an adoption lawyer near you that is what they call "Quad A". You will need to retain two lawyers, one to represent you and one to represent the birthmom.

There is so much that needs to be done within a short period. First step is to see if they will grant you temporary custody while you are waiting for homestudy, fingerprinting etc. to be done.That normally takes months.

Good luck and please keep us posted. ↑

Name: tattudemom | Date: May 13th, 2007 3:39 PM

It's my understanding that with independent adoption, you can have temporary custody while awaiting the homestudy. I agree you need to seek an attorney who's expert in adoption, particularly interstate type. There is the ICPC where you take the baby across state lines, which will play a part in this as well. If your attorney knows what he/she is doing, they can tell you everything you need to know.

Don't forget to breathe in all the excitement. :) God bless you. I know you must be ecstatic. ↑

Name: dmt | Date: May 15th, 2007 5:33 PM

If you can't get a hold of the adoption lawyer at that law firm try another one. ↑

Name: Mom2BEE | Date: May 17th, 2007 10:25 PM

Sadly unless You live in a state where You do not need a homestudy to have a child placed with you for adoption then You Cannot have a child placed with you to adopt without that all important homestudy. This is to protect the child. Also have you gotten proof that the father will sign all papers? Does he know of the pregnancy and is he willing to sign? If he is not willing then you cannot adopt the child. Is your social worker with an agency? If yes the agency could take placement of the baby but most will not place in a home without that homestudy in place background checks and fingerprints done etc. What state are you in? What state is the birthmom in your state or the state the doctor is In? If she is in another state NO way You can take that baby home out of her state to adopt without that homestudy and ICPC being done and approved. That is Interstate compact approval is a must with any out of state adoption. U need to talk to a lawyer now asap. I hope this works for you but without you both being in the same state it may not be possible unless the baby can be placed into temp foster care in that state? Hard to do but a thought?
Good Luck to all ↑