This is to all the new members of babycrowd who might not be aware of some of the things that get discussed on this forum.Below is a post from a different user who agrees with me.
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Name: Scam Buster Title: It is NOT BabyCrow's Intent to Meet & Match Here
Hey - pay attention to the paragraph written by BabyCrowd about this forum;
"Trying to make sense of the adoption laws in your state? Confused by the different regulations surrounding international adoption? Wondering what your rights are as a birth parent or as an adoptive parent? Just looking for adoption information? You'll find all the support and advice you need when it comes to child adoption in this forum."
Does it say anywhere this is a place to meet and match? NO! Maybe we should all email Hearthsone Communications (Contact button at bottom of page) and request that they add another line to this paragraph stating:
This is not a place for prospective adoptive parents and expectant / birthmothers to meet or match. ↓
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| Name: codyjody | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 3:20 PM |
Quote:
Just looking for adoption information?
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This
is the def. of information.
in·for·ma·tion [ ėnfər máysh'n ]
noun
Definition:
1. knowledge: definite knowledge acquired or supplied about something or somebody
HHHHMMMM..... letting people know you are trying to adopt, sounds like info to me!.........
Anyone else think so?...... TGIF!
Jody ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 5:46 PM |
| This site has become unproductive the last week or so since Luckey and her negativity came to visit. Luckey never tells us what her link to the adoptive community is. I wonder why? I think she owns an adoption agency. Anyone want to take a guess since she won't tell us? ↑ |
| Name: codyjody | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 6:00 PM |
I agree 100% with the negativity comment!....Not sure why she is here? I don't think she knows enough about adoption to have an agency....atleast I hope NOT!
Hugs,
Jody ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 6:03 PM |
Hi Jody & NYCool happy Friday :) I think that this forum can provide for all of us all aspects of the adoption world whether it be placing (and having questions to help make a decision) or looking for support in having to make that decision. It can be helpful for intended parents identifying with other IP and to put it out there HEY I am here and I need your help whether it is coping, or hoping to match, or just to share knowledge to help others. Adoption is an emotional rollercoaster for both the placing families and the families hoping to be matched. It is scary for all of us and often times frustrating. Having someone where to come and share thoughts or dreams or have hope or any thing that has to do with adoption or changes in your family beyond the convential method (I know I probably didn't spell that right). I for one am glad to know there are other people out there I can connect with. Yes I am hoping to make a match where ever that match may come from. I have an attorney to keep me grounded (that is why he gets the big bucks). But I also want to talk to others who are just thinking about it or checking into it not necessarily for my own gain. What if by chance there is that scared girl who doesn't know what to do and is embarrassed to go to her family or social services or doctor. Who better than to give her a written hug or courage to help her gain confidence to do what she wants to do? As I have pointed out in the past- we are not all "lucky in life". Yes there are also scammers out there too. But there is a lot of very nice people who want to connect and care about others.
Today I was feeling a little blue, but coming here has helped me cheer up because I am not in this alone there are others who live on this rollercoaster too :)
With that said- have a happy Friday! ↑ |
| Name: codyjody | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 6:32 PM |
| cheer up mommy.....HUGS!!!!.... ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 6:49 PM |
Hey I have a question doesn't she sound a bit familiar to anyone else. Like she is trying to get involved in too much. Maybe someone that disappeared a month or so ago after being found out!!!!!!
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 7:05 PM |
| Well interesting to know there is someone else like me! Jody thank you for the hug guess I need them too. My blues come from deep discussion with my hubby last nite and this morning about what else? Money. Every year, we get an amount of money that is beyond the norm. Last year we set it aside to buy a larger house, the year before we used as a down on a motorhome and our adopted baby. So since I handle the money the amount still unkown, I was thinking of how best to use it, some for baby, some for household bills etc. My hubby had other ideas that I didn't even think of. Anyway don't want to get into exact details, but it just left me feeling a bit blue and trying to what is right for everyone including him. He has an expensive hobby Racing. Although it was fun during our first year together, when I saw how much things cost for me it became a money pit. Of course he doesn't see it that way. So Tamara if you still think I am some person that went away awhile ago, I am sorry. I don't think I am a lot like anyone. I just started on here within the last few weeks and am looking for other people who know what it is like to go thru the adoption process. I also figured if I couldn't share with you all that I am blue once in awhile - who can I share it with? Friends and family don't know what it is really like to walk in our shoes. After re reading your note Tamara now I am not sure if you are referring to me or Lucky. I apologize in advance if you didn't mean me :) ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 7:09 PM |
Mommy not you....... Luckey!!!!! Sorry I was refering to her crap she is starting everywhere and how she words some of her phrases.
Sorry Mommy if you thought I was talking about you.
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 7:11 PM |
And reading a little more I think I am over sensitive today :(
Boy my poor hubby better watch out, he may want to go over to his friends house if I can't shake off this icky mood. I know, I will go to Micky D's and have a happy meal (it works for my daughter it is her favorite restraurant lol) ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 7:14 PM |
| And now taking the advice of Jody from "Beware" I think I will go hide under my bed and come out when my happy meal is ready :) ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 8:25 PM |
Mommy,
My nephew had a chicken nugget happy meal and I had fish for Mickey Ds today...... Those fries always help! :) :)
And I tink we all have those days. Mine stayed around for about 3 last month. Wow. I thought am I never getting out of this glum mood. :( But, I did and so will you try the fries! :)
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 9:41 PM |
Quote from a user regarding this forum:
"What if by chance there is that scared girl who doesn't know what to do and is embarrassed to go to her family or social services or doctor. Who better than to give her a written hug or courage to help her gain confidence to do what she wants to do?"
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My reply:
I don't think strangers on the internet is where advice should be sought from a girl in this situation.This is how I perceive many of you on this forum. Waiting for that scared girl who doesn't know what to do and has an unplanned pregnancy. Now what are many of you going to tell her? Many of you have the agenda of finding a baby. I don't think many of you will help her find all of her options other than the option that you would love to adopt her baby. I think a scared teenager needs to be counseled by objective individuals who want nothing from her. That is why I will continue to come on this board and post warnings about the dangers of the internet and recommend that they seek advice from a doctor, teacher, relative--anybody but a stranger on the internet. I think you are afraid I might scare off a pregnant girl looking for your advice and blow your opportunity at a baby. This is pathetic! ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 12:18 AM |
Mommyinwaiting Quote:
"What if by chance there is that scared girl who doesn't know what to do and is embarrassed to go to her family or social services or doctor. Who better than to give her a written hug or courage to help her gain confidence to do what she wants to do?"
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My reply,
Mommyinwaiting, what credentials do you have to counsel young girls? Do us all a favor and refer them to their local crisis hotline. I do not think many of the potential hopeful adoptive parents here are going to counsel a young girl to do what she wants to do. They may, however, counsel a young girl to give them her child. Read through some of the old posts on this forum. There are plenty soliciting adoptions. Not many informing others of their many choices regarding unplanned pregnancy. These young girls can benefit from the advice of trained counseling professionals who do not have their own agenda. ↑ |
| Name: mommyboo | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 5:31 AM |
| All I have to say to luckey is We understand Its not there intent to meet and match but both sides of the adoption people come on here and post.Who are you to tell anyone that by the grace of god someone actually meets someone one here and choose to give there baby life and let someone else raise it instead of killing the child.No one knows what will happen on here but if someone does find a match then that is great for them and god bless them in life for giveing a child a home.SO just dont bother comming on here if you dont like what is going on.Its as easy as that dont click on the forum and you wont have to read any of the posts. THANK YOU ↑ |
| Name: mommyboo | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 5:34 AM |
| Also why do you have to constanly quote people from other posts?Its getting old and tierd.You just keep starting new threads and people dont want to hear it from you anymore.Im sure alot of women on here feel the same.BACK ME UP GIRLS!!! ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 6:23 AM |
| mommy... I agree 100%. This person has come on her and said what they needed to say. She is starting to sound like a broken record player. ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 4:14 PM |
| I back you up. I joined this forum to learn more about everyone else's experiences with adoption and make a few friends. I know enough to "BEWARE", I am a 37 year old woman who know all the risks of communicating with ANYONE online. We started the adoption processes in 2002 and did not get too far, as I became pregnant and had my daughter in January 2003. I have been to seminars, day long adoption events, and talked to adoption lawyers on end. I don't need Lucky to tell me to beware. I have nothing to be afraid of. God will help us find our baby! ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 5:50 PM |
| Lucky- how you like to attack people is very sad. Coming to a forum like this to "discuss" adoption is very safe. Someone who is afraid or confused about what to do about an unwanted pregnancy has nothing to fear! All the intended parents here have homestudies and attorneys. I have already been checked by the state of California who finds that I am a good parent and a "safe" person to raise a child. The people who want to place are exploring their options, and if they decide to pick parents for their baby they will be safe because all adoptions are legally done by attorneys or thru the state or sometimes both. No one is here to pounce on or take advantage of a young lady who finds herself pregnant and scared. I would be the first person to say yes I want to adopt again, however, never would I try to influence someone to place. If they are confused I would be here just as a friend. We all could use a hug or just someone to listen. The person placing has to know in their heart that it is their best decision for their circumstances and their unborn baby. It gives them peace to know that they have helped someone who can't have children. So what starts out as a tragedy for them can be turned around to create joy for the adopting parent, the baby who is going to a home where they will be given love and where they are deeply wanted, and to a young lady who ended up pregnant and scared and now can get her life back on track. ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 5:51 PM |
| Obviously Mommyboo I back you up 100%! ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 6:00 PM |
| Tamara the happy meal helped :) can't beat those fries! ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 9:56 PM |
mommyinwaiting-you should have gotten a big mac and fries and supersized it! Then chased it down with a Mickey D's chocolate milkshake!!!! That always makes ya feel better!!!
As for our "unlucky" problem here, I think I have a solution.
As much as our blood is boiling and we want to respond-don't.
If she wants to have the last word on her posts-let her. When she sees that she is no longer ruffling feathers-she'll go away.
We don't have to keep proving that we are good parents and run our credentials by Luckey. I guess we should all be thankful that Luckey is not a social worker. I'd pity the poor couples who had her do there homestudy!!!! Nobody would get approved and everyone would have to be aware-watching out for predators!!! ↑ |
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