Name: luckey_in_life Title: Mid life crisis
I decided to be a stay at home mom when my child was born because my husband travels alot and we don't have any relatives close by to help out.I worked before our child was born and saved so I could do this. I know alot of women have to work to pay the bills. I also decided to stay at home because of guilt. My mother told me when I was in college that she would help pay for my education but that if I ever became a mother I had better not work. She really dislikes working mothers! She is very opininated! She also thinks it is wrong for the wife to make more money than the husband! Now my child is a teenager. Because my child is getting older I am starting to think about what I want to do with my time. In four more years my teenager will probably be out on their own and my husband travels alot with his job.
My problem now is that I feel like I gave up too much of myself. I feel like I will have to start all over as far as my career. I also feel like it will be hard to get a job after not working for 20 years. I should have volunteered over the years but we moved alot and I always put everyone else first. Because I gave up a very important part of my life I sometimes feel like everyone takes me for granted. Does anyone else ever feel like that? Why did you choose to be a stay at home mom? I guess I am having a midlife crisis. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you handle it? ?
This was posted by Luckey on the Moms with teens forum. Just a couple of points stick out on this:
1)No wonder her husband spends all of his time away. He would be too scared to come home!
2) She's scared of her mother and has issues standing up to her and that is why she takes out her frustrations here. She needs to spend a bit of time in therapy to work through those issues. Fancy posting that on a public forum!
3) She says she should have volunteered but 'put everyone else first"...umm blaming other people for her not volunteering is pretty flimsy. I'd say she put herself first. How much work is there with just one child anyway and a teenager at that!
4) She says she had a career...wonder what that was...and I'm pretty sure it wasn't in counselling or mediation! lol
5) She says she's suffering from a mid life crisis...so be it, but why make everyone else miserable. Find a rock, crawl under. Simple solution Luckey! ↓
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