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Name: Calitini

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This message is to all scammers. I am not writing this to be malicious, but I’ve seen and experienced enough pain when it comes down to the adoption process. Do you scammers know what it feels like to have your house empty without the joyous sounds of little children running around and enjoying the harmony and love in your household? Or trying everything possible and being told you will never feel that joy and therefore being in the mercy of someone who can provide you with your only hopes and dreams and have them bait you until the end and decide that your feelings and investments don’t matter in the end? Do you know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep disappointment after disappointment, and to have to look the man that you love and wants to provide you with the world, in the eye, and tell him again how you’ve been scammed and that all your hard work and his unwavering support did not amount to anything worth someone else’s thought our acknowledgement? I have been through it and I know how it feels and I am sure thousands of women/families know that pain. I therefore ask that you place yourself in our shoes for one moment, and think before you inflict intentional pain on someone else. If you truly need help and want to provide a home for your child, myself and other families on this board will be more than happy to take you precious gift and provide he/she the best the world and love has to offer.

I apologize in advance if this message seems bitter, because I am! ↓

Name: cl1145 | Date: May 13th, 2007 6:51 PM

Amen , sister!!!! ↑

Name: jnsmom | Date: May 13th, 2007 7:38 PM

Whatever you do first read a book called the Primal Wound. Pleae. And do not decide anything for at least 6 months after you baby is born. Once you see your child and feel you child you will understand why it is imperative that you stay together.
Do not let strangers talk you into taking your child away from you. They will say and do anything they can because you have what they cannot. They do not care about you at all. If they did, as good humans they would offer you help with keeping your daughter, not extorting your fear for their benefit.
You will feel the pain daily with the loss of your child. And you daughter will never feel like a whole person. She will grow up with strangers to her biology.
I have researched adoption for over 5 years. It just doesn'tt work fo the child. Only the selfish people that cannot have their own that want it for their own needs.
Read the needs of the woman above boo hoo'ing because she has an empty life. Not your problem or your daughters.

Please seek professional help from groups that keep families together. There are activist groups against this autricity. You can find them on the internet.

You will be the BEST mother for your daughter. Woman have had baby's for centuries at young ages. Just makes you more energentic and fun.

jnsmom ↑

Name: Lauradawn76 | Date: May 13th, 2007 10:32 PM

I am new to this board and I am totally amazed at how vicious people can be. I too have been through what Calitini has been through and it took me almost 5 years to try again because of a woman pretending to be pregnant and telling me that she wanted me to be the mother of her child. Jnsmom do you have children of your own?? It sounds as if you do not know what its like to not have children of your own. It is heart breaking. I was married to a man who has a daughter who's mother left her at 6 month old. I adopted her at the age of 4 and at about the age of 6 the mother came back in town. I was the one who wanted to intoduce her to her mother. I wanted my daughter to know her mom. And do you know that she walked out on her again. Left without a word. After two more times of this and years later my daughter says she loves more than anything. And I have all the respect for her real mother in the world. She gave life to my daughter and she will always hold a special place in my heart and I will never disrespect her. So don't say that woman who can have children just want to say or do anything to take someones child. In most cases you are wrong. I would do any thing for the mother and child. It isn't fair for you to say these things to hurting woman like us. Shame on you. If a mother wants to keep her child that is the best thing for her to do. But if she knows its not the best for the child why is it wrong for her to want to give the child the best by giving it to someone who would love to have a child. You have to think on both sides of the fence not just one. ↑

Name: Lauradawn76 | Date: May 13th, 2007 11:14 PM

I just wanted to clearify what I meant when I said her my daughters mother left her. When she was just months old she became pregnant for the third time. My daughter has an older brother by the same mom diffrent dad. Well she became pregnant when my daughter was about 6 months old. So she decided to go get and abortion and take off with another man over 2000 miles away. After the abortion she became pregnant again and had the baby it was a boy. She then gave this child up for adoption. There was no contact at all until my daughter was about 6 at that time she had a three year old that she decided to keep because she says she got her tubes tied and it was her last. She has NO regrets about not having her other children. She is very happy that they all have loving homes. So there are some birthmothers who know that other families can provide a loving home for their child. I know I am rambling but I just wanted everyone to know that each situation is diffrent. And I have all the respect in the world for the birth mothers. I am looking forward to adopting another child as soon as we can. Good luck to all the moms out there pregnant and those who are looking. And Happy Mothers Day. ↑

Name: dmt | Date: May 14th, 2007 12:52 AM

Have you tried project cuddle. Sounds like some women have had luck with that. I think we might go that way. For one we know they are ligit. I mean they were on Oprah they have to be. Anyway good luck.

Love,
Michelle ↑