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can some one please tell me about adoption please. ↓
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| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 22nd, 2006 9:08 PM |
| can i have some information on adoption..........first i really want to think about it really good before i make up my mind... ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 22nd, 2006 9:25 PM |
| what kind adoptions are there and what is the cost? ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 22nd, 2006 9:59 PM |
| hey has anyone adopted here and if so could they help me out please?? ↑ |
| Name: exposethetruth | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 12:08 AM |
| Go away .....look it up on Google you dumbass and stop seeking attention. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 12:15 AM |
| exposethetruth... while I appreciate what your attempting to do, I don't think you need to be so mean about what your saying. I know there are alot of scammers and liars that come on here. But this person what just asking a question, and looking for some help. She may be a legit birthmom, you never know. ↑ |
| Name: baby2 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 12:17 AM |
| Hi Me-sanchez, There are different types of adoption out there. There is open or closed, with an agency or lawyer. We adopted our son through open adoption with an agency in Indianapolis. I would recommend contacting an agency (if you would like the name of ours who has offices across the country email me privately) to talk to someone about the different types of adoption and what your rights are in your state (every state is different). I do have a cousin that was adopted in a closed adoption that means her records are sealed and she doesn't have access to her birthfamily. If you're interested, I can also tell you the relationship we have with our sons birthmother and family. I wish you all the best. Please feel free to email me if you would like to [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 3:05 AM |
| i am sorry i only wanted some information about adoption. ↑ |
| Name: sdt1977 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 3:29 AM |
wow calling people dumbass on this board, what has happened to being supportive, for the love of all things holy she is asking about adoption and is perhaps very legit and scared.
me-sanchez sorry you are being struck by the evil that flows on this board
Shauna ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:46 AM |
| Shauna, Can you give me some advice please?? ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:53 AM |
HI MY NAME IS MARTHA AND IM 19 YEARS OLD AND IM 22 WEEKS AND 1 DAY PREGNANT....
IM WRITING TO YOU CAUSE I WANTED TO SEE IF YOU COULD GIVE ME SOME ADVISE OR AT LEAST TELL WHAT CAN I DO!!
I AM DUE ON FEBRUARY 24TH 2007, I AM GOING TO BE A SINGLE PARENT CAUSE THE BABY DADDY DOESNT WANNA THE BABY AND DOESNT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH MY LIL ANGEL THAT I LOVE SO MUCH. OH AND ALSO HE LIVES IN LOS ANGELES AND I LIVE IN LAS VEGAS I MOVE TO LAS VEGAS BEFORE I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT.
I WANT THE BABY DADDY TO BE THERE FOR THE BABY CAUSE I DONT WANT MY BABY TO BE RAISED WITH OUT A DADDY......LIKE I TOLD HIM BEFORE I DON'T CARE IF HE DOESN'T PAY FOR ANYTHING FOR THE BABY I JUST WANT HIM TO SEE THE BABY ONCE IN A WHILE.
I ALSO WROTE HIM A LETTER TELLING HIM TO MAKE UP HIS MIND IF HE STILL WANTS ME IN HIS LIFE OR NOT....BECAUSE HE TELLS ME THAT HE IS NOT READY TO BE A FATHER... SO I JUST THINK THAT HE NEEDS TIME TO REALLY THINK ABOUT IT AND I ALSO TOLD HIM THAT IF HE NEEDS TIME AWAY FROM ME THATS FIND ILL RESPECT THAT AND ILL GIVE EM ALL THE TIME HE NEEDS!! MY QUESTION IS DID I DO WRONG OR RIGHT??
ALSO WHAT SHOULD I DO I HAVE BEEN HAVING REALLY BAD MOOD SWINGS??? AND ALSO I CAN'T STAND MY MOM RIGHT NOW, I LIVE WITH HER AND MY SIS WHICH THEY ARE GOING TO SUPPORT ME UNTIL I CAN WORK!!
I JUST NOTICED THAT MOM IS MAD THAT I GOT PREGNANT!! I KINDA KNEW SOMETHING WAS WORNG WITH HER BUT I DIDN'T KNOW SHE WAS MAD AT THAT I GOT PREGNANT!!
ALSO WHAT REALLY HURTS ME IS THAT SHE ACTS LIKE IM NOT PREGNANT.... IT SEEMS THAT SHE DOESNT CARE ABOUT ME!!!
I HAVE ALSO BEEN FEELING REALLY REALLY DOWN, I EVEN GOT TO THE POINT TO WHERE I ASKED WHAT CAN I DO TO NOT HAVE THIS KID!!
AM I DEPRESSED OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT??
ALSO MY BABY DADDY WAS THE ONLY PERSON THAT I CAN REALLY TALK TO ABOUT HOW I REALLY FELT OR WHAT WAS GOING ON IM MY LIFE AND NOW THAT I CANT TALK TO HIM LIKE THAT.....I FEEL LIKE IM GOING CRAZY CAUSE I FEEL LIKE I NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO ABOUT HOW I FEEL OR WHAT IM GOING THRU!! AND I FEEL REALLY ALONE, AND I DONT FEEL THE SUPPORRT FROM MY FAMILY, WHAT SHOULD I DO???
PLEASE HELP!!
THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ME.
P.S. SINCE THE DAY BEFORE YESTERDAY I HAVE BEEN HAVING THIS REALLY SRTONG FEELING THAT I DONT WANT THIS KID....WHAT'S GOING ON WITH ME OR WHAT SHOULD I DO?? ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:53 AM |
| me-sanchez, I'd look at foster adoption. You may not get a baby but you would get a child that needs a good home. ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:55 AM |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:57 AM |
| Ever hear of mood-swings? My daughter is pregnant and boy does she have up and downs. Lots more downs than up. If you want to give your baby up for adoption, you need to try and decide if you want open or closed adoption. Also you have to decide if the baby's daddy will give up all his rights. And you have to be prepared to give up your rights. Your mom maybe disappointed that you are pregnant, but I bet she isn't mad at you, hon. Give her time and talk to her. ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 4:59 AM |
deanna
I am so sad! why and what can I do? ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:00 AM |
| Also my daughter feels alone sometimes. And she used to be sweet, sometimes she has mean thoughts popping out. But since it is time for her baby to be born she isn't as mean spirited as she was. So I figure your mood swings will dissappear sooner or later. Talk to your doctor about them. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:00 AM |
| me-sanchez...you might want to look in your local phone book, and look up adoption agencies. Just because you call and talk with them, doesn't mean you have to put your baby up for adoption. A reputable agency will do everything they can to answer all the questions you may have. Also another idea might be to talk with a priest or a pastor (if you go to church) ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:02 AM |
| me-sanchez.... only you can decided what you want to do. But I will tell you this. I'm a single mother with a beautiful 3 year old son, and I was in a similar situtation. (my son's father left me when I was 6 months pregnant). I decided to parent, and I haven't had any doubts about my decision. I won' t lie, it has been tough at times, But I have been able to do it. ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:03 AM |
what kind of adoptions are there?? and what are the costs??
can i have some info adoption?? ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:05 AM |
there is open adoptions (this is where you can have contact of pictures with your baby after it's been placed)
there is semi-open adoptions (ususally occasional pictures)
there is closed adoptions (this is where there is no contact after the baby is born)
You can decided what type of adoption that you want, and you can choose the family that you like.
As far as legal cost, there is nothing that you have to pay. The adoptive parents pay all legal cost. ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:05 AM |
I don't think you can help feeling sad. Some women emotions just goes screwy during this time. This is where you are at:
You are still feeling pretty good and active in this second trimester. If you are still having aches and pains or feel like you are slowing down you may want to look into some different remedies.
Baby:
The baby is getting bigger and continuing to practice for extrauterine life. This week your baby has developed eyebrows! S/he weighs about 15 ounces (425 grams) and is 27.5 cms or 10.8 inches total length!
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pre
gnancycalendar/l/blweek22.htm
This
is a site my daughter looks at. She said it doesn't give you enough information on feelings and emotions. ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:07 AM |
Ok so alot of things make me sad like, why does it feel like my mom doesnt even came one bit that im pregnant with my oldest sis she would always talk about her pregnancy....and with me we hardly talk and when we do talk we dont even talk about me being pregnant.
also my sis i also feel like if she is not supportive either, i feel now that she has a boyfriend she is not even here alot of the time or else she is always on the phone.
also i want to be able to talk to her openly about anything about how i feel whats going on, in our family we never talk like that we aways keep our feeling to ourself, we never tell each other i love you or i miss you or anything like that.
this is all normal? ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:11 AM |
| I know when I first found out I was pregnant, my mother was quite distant. I could tell that she was disappointed that I was pregnant and not married. But as time when on, she warmed up to the idea. And from the moment she saw the ultrasound, she became head over heals in love with my son. And now 3 years later, my son is "nana's boy". It's kinda funny that after I had my son, my mother and I became closer, and started to become friends, not just mother and daughter. If that makes any sense? ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:13 AM |
| Are you sure you aren't my daughter? Because my daughter said the same things. Her sister didn't care about her life. Your sister does care... She may, especially if she is a teenager, trying to have her own life. Your feelings sound normal to me. I know you feel down. But it will get better. You may be depressed due to being pregnant. Also you should let your mom know of these feelings you have. She may can help you. Mostly all anyone can do for you right now is to let you know that you aren't alone and that you are loved. ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:18 AM |
| I just do not understand. why me? Do you live near me ? ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:19 AM |
| who are you talking to? ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:21 AM |
Hi Martha, I know you wanted to talk to Shauna. She is really nice and supportive. I hope I can be for you also. I was 17 years old when I was pregnant with my first child. Mood swings suck! They will come and go, the good news is that once the baby is here they will die down until they are gone. Men are so lucky not to have all the extra hormones we have. I was married to an 18 year old it was very difficult. We divorced when I was 24. Not something I really like to talk about not really proud about that whole relationship we fought alot! My 2nd hubby and I had our little girl when I just turned 30. It was soooooooo different this time. I had more patience, I enjoyed getting up in the middle of the night for our alone quiet time. Being older starting a family is much different than being young and living with someone who you are not happy with. Unfortunately, my hubby died before my little girl turned 2. Also I had to have a hystorectomy so I couldn't have the large family I always wanted.
So my current hubby and I adopted, 18 months ago. And now we are ready to adopt one more time to complete our family.
Anyway, I would like to say been there and completely understand what you are going thru, but it wouldn't be true. I think every situation is different. If you want to talk or email me I am at [email protected]. Here is ok too :)
Tina ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:21 AM |
| No I was joking! I live thousands of miles from you! ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:29 AM |
Deanna like where are you then?
and I wish i could talk to my mom and sis like that but we are not use to it and we dont ever talk about it and we always avoid it. well my sis that lives with me is 21.
i guess im also sad cause im still not showing im still in that stage where im looking like i gained weight, and i still dont feel my baby which is kinda strange for me cause im already 22 weeks!!!! Is your daughter showing? ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:30 AM |
| Deanna is your daughter my age? Is she going to put her baby up for adoption ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:31 AM |
| Have you told your ob/gyn about not feeling the baby yet? You don't even feel the little butterflies or like a little bubble? ↑ |
| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 23rd, 2006 5:37 AM |
| I do not know what it suppost to feel like. I get hiccups alot! ↑ |
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