HI, my name is Joanne. My husband and I are looking to adopt an infant and add to our family. I'm new here and was scammed last week by Michelle Abrego. Luckily, I did not get further than one email and one phone call with her. Here' s our adoption website-we're hoping to 2007 is our year!!! Good luck everyone!
http://www.ouradoptionplan.com ↓
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| Name: me-sanchez | Date: Oct 27th, 2006 5:55 PM |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 28th, 2006 8:50 PM |
| Yes if you look at our adoption website, we do have a 3 year old daughter. We would love to add a baby to our family. ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Oct 28th, 2006 11:43 PM |
Joanne,
You have a very nice website. I like how pooh zooms around! Have you had much luck by having a website? How long have you had it? I see by your counter that you have had alot of hits!
We would love to have an addition to our family as well. We have two little girls and would love to have a son. I have thought about surrogacy also.
hope you find your little one
Gracie ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 29th, 2006 12:27 PM |
Gracie-thanks for the compliments on the site. I had this site up since 2001 when we were trying to adopt and I got PG with DD. I recently revamped it and updated it with more current pictures and DD too.
We have not yet had our homestudy, so I really have not advertised it at all. I will join some online sites where parents post dear birthmother letters and hope to have a decent response. I am hoping birthmothers don't hold it against us that we have a bio daughter. My lawyer said some of her clients have had excellent luck without spending a lot of money by: 1) Having a very attractive looking adoption site and 2) somehow getting their site to the top of the search engines. Sounds crazy huh!
My husband and I have also talked about embryo adoption-have you researched that? ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 6:59 PM |
| For the birthmom that just called me and left me a voicemail, please call back or email me so that we can connect. You said you found us in this forum. Thanks! ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 7:05 PM |
| Why don't you go through an adoption agency. I think it is unethical to create a website to solicit adoption. ↑ |
| Name: me2 | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 7:08 PM |
| luckey in life, you are wrong ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 7:09 PM |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 7:23 PM |
| BE CAUTIOUS about individuals who solicit for the adoption of your child. For your safety, I recommend you DO NOT select adoptive couples from online chat rooms or message boards. Go through adoption agencies that screen the parents and meet all the legal requirements of adoption. ↑ |
| Name: Deanna | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 7:59 PM |
| luckey_in_life, private adoption is being done everyday. It is legal and safe. What about kin adoption? No need to go thru an agency. ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 8:01 PM |
To mothers looking for adoptive couples:
BE CAUTIOUS about individuals who solicit for the adoption of your child. For your safety, I recommend you DO NOT select adoptive couples from online chat rooms or message boards ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 8:09 PM |
Birthmoms and adoptive parents have to be cautious no matter what route we go. Even adoption agencies have had dealings with scammer birthmoms before they were onto them. Let the lawyers get involved and if the birthmom is serious she will talk to your lawyer and provide him/her with the information to proceed. Advertising in newspapers, sites on the internet, using business cards, and networking are all legal and very important aspects in private adoption. Parents who adopt through private non agency adoption fill out lots of papwork, have background checks and have a homestudy. We are just as qualified as those who choose to use an agency.
Although agencies do provide a lot of services, I don't have $35,000 to spend on an adoption, so we have chosen the private adoption route as have thousands of other couples.
Gosh everyone is so critical in this forum. I was hoping to learn from other potential adoptive parents. Guess I was wrong. ↑ |
| Name: codyjody | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 8:12 PM |
Not to be rude or anything BUT.......
Luckey_in_life,,,,,,,,You sound like you have a "bone" to pick with us adoptive parents, that don't choose to adopt through an agency?????? Or have you just been "not so lucky in life and feel like you need to put others down, to make yourself feel better??"
Adoptive parents that go through an agency, have the same screening as the adoptive parents that have direct placements........
On another note.....HI JOANNE!
Hugs, Jody ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 8:14 PM |
| Hi Jody-nice to meet ya! ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 8:44 PM |
HI Joanne-
Joanne is my sisters name too, spelled just as yours is!
I grew up and lived most of my life on Long Island and all of my family is still there; where in NY do you live ? (I live in CO now, moved to CO just over 2 years ago.)
Don't listen to luckey in life; I don't understand why she would put down possibly matching here.
It hasn't happened very much on this site, but it has happened! I am aware of two of these successful matches from this site!
My son's birthmom found us on another free site, www.surromomsonline.com late last spring. We brought him home from the hospital 2 days after his birth in late June.
Best of luck to you Joanne!
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 10:38 PM |
Welcome!
Glad to meet you!
Hope your adoption journey will be a easy one.
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 12:18 AM |
Carolyn,
I live in Westcester County, NY about 45 miles north of NYC. I am famliar with some parts of Long Island! That's wonderful how your son's birthmom found you. You just never know! When it's meant to happen it will!!! ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 1st, 2006 3:23 AM |
Joanne,
I am so happy for you that someone responded to you! I would love for someone to find me as well. We had a wonderful time tonight with the kids and all the cousins! You asked me about embryo adoption. I actually know someone who donated embryos for adoption. She has three that she was donating for she could not find or when she did find could not afford a surrogate. She was beautiful about this! I foundsome information on this on the website www.nightlight.org.
Also in comment to why go for a forum, private adoption, or other avenues- I would have to comment that "Why not". And I agree that we just never know when something unexpected will come our way. Like meeting your spouse at the carwash, church, while changing a flat tire. Sometimes fate is fate and what God has planned for us. But if we do not at least try - we will never know. Then if in the end - we do not ever have the chance- then at least we can say that we tried vs sitting at home pouting.
I think that adoption is a beautiful gift and opportunity for both sides. I wish you well, and the many others that are on this in their endeavor.
In a side note - I have been to long island many years ago, and have been to CO many times over the last 2 years.
I like this forum to discuss adoption, options, and to help me feel that I am not the only one looking to find a bundle of joy to love.
Gracie ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 1st, 2006 7:45 PM |
Gracie, I believe in fate. I met my husband at a supermarket almost 20 years ago. Yes the A&P is a special place for us. I already had a boyfriend-but him and I were meant to be. There is nothing wrong with networking and spreading the word about your intentions to adopt. Friends and family and very willing to keep an ear out if they hear of a situation! All the best of luck to you!!!
Honestly-what I would like to do, once I start to advertise is join up with some other couples so if a situation is not right for us or we already have a birthmom commited to us, we can refer these potential birthmoms to other families hoping to adopt. We can network amongst ourselves! What do you think? ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 4:16 AM |
Joanne,
I think that would be a great idea! It is nice to see that there are so many wonderful people here. Did you say that you had someone contact you?
Also, I think that the A&P is soooo cute. I saw my husband for the first time when he took his little sister to the school bus one day- something that he usually did not do, 4 years later we got married!
Gracie ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 6:13 PM |
Gracie, I did get a call from a young woman who did not leave her name or number and said she would call back. I do have her phone number though because I have called ID and the call came from the Minneapolis/ St. Paul are of MN.
Very cute way you met your DH too! Who knows-you can meet a birthmom anywhere. Could be the cashier at the grocery store. Everyone crosses paths for a reason they say. Here's to fate! ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 6:14 PM |
| this is a good one,,keep at the top ↑ |
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