You know this board has gotten so out of hand. Hopeful adoptive parents should be supporting and helping each other, not beating each other down and name calling.
And the scammers need to go away. These are real lifes and hearts you are dealing with. Just know and understand that most of us have been through enough pain already and what you are doing goes way beyond just being a funny practical joke. It is not funny or cute to play with people this way and what goes around will come around eventually.
When most people post here they leave an email address, as a group maybe we should try should try emailing the person directly if we have something to say, instead of putting all this mean, hateful stuff on the boards which is going to scare away any woman who may be considering adoption as an option for her child. And that is why we are all here to try to make a connection and make our hearts whole. Or maybe better yet stop saying bad things to each other period. Most of us have a common goal, there is no need to beat someone else down just to make yourself look better. And I admit to being part of this in the past when my vulnerability was played on by both pretend birthmoms and other adoptive parents and hateful untrue things were being said. I know how hard it is to bite your tongue when someone is doing you wrong, but I have come to realize that the negativity isn't helping any of us either. Can we all try to be a little more honest and supportive of each other as hopeful parents and to the possible birthmoms out there?
Jess
www.achild2love.com
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| Name: PAP | Date: Feb 2nd, 2006 10:03 PM |
| I agree enough is enough already. We need to supportive and help other women and couples that need us. ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 12:25 AM |
| Name: jean | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 12:29 AM |
| I would suggest all the legit people go somewhere else...the scammers are on this board because...there is no login, no registration and no IP numbers show up....it's a free for all...thaere are many more better, productive places then this. ↑ |
| Name: Curious | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 2:18 AM |
| I'll admit, I came on here to "catch" a scammer. I've stuck around out of curiosity. I've just never heard of someone adopting a child thru a forum before. But I do wish each and everyone of you good luck in your search. Personally, I'd be looking thru your foster care systems. You may not think the child will feel like yours if you don't get an infant. But from experience I can tell you they will. You will love them no matter their ages. [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 3:12 AM |
| People have connected here in the past when it used to be a good board. Not only adoptive parents and birthmoms, but just adoptive parents connecting and offering support to each other. I am hoping we can get it back to that place again. But it is hard when anyone can write anything and not have to register or be moderated. ↑ |
| Name: Curious | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 12:48 PM |
| That I can understand, the support. The parents that adopt an older child needs the support with the problems on how the child was raised plus they need support on being a parent. Even adopting an infant people would need support and advise. When I saw the forum for the first time of course I was looking at a certain poster who was using quite a few names but certain e-mail addresses and the same phone number. It was to prove she was scamming her way all over the internet. (Which I did prove) Also I caught where she was a man part time and a woman part time, but I knew it was her even when she was pretending to be a child giving away her baby. Or a mother to be with no children. I don't know much about adopting an infant, but I know a lot about taking older children. On the thoughts of moderation, I've never wrote anything on the internet that I'd be ashamed for one of my children to read if they looked it up. I understand some people need moderation. ↑ |
| Name: Amy | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 5:58 PM |
| In America we have such a thing as Freedom of Speech and just because you ladies may not like what others have to say well, they have every right to say whatever is on their mind. Sorry but its life and we have to deal with people opinions whether we like them or not. ↑ |
| Name: Curious | Date: Feb 3rd, 2006 7:23 PM |
| An opinion is fine. I have no problem with someone's opinion. I have a problem with someone acting like another and getting people's hopes up and it is all a lie. But I would suppose this board was created to discuss adoptions. How many of you have adopted or have custody of a child that isn't a birth child? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 2:27 PM |
| Seeing the posts again over the past few days I give up here. Good Luck to the rest of you. ↑ |
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