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| Name: ShelleyK | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 8:57 PM |
| Email me and I can help you with some of those questions..... Sknipplin [email protected] Shelley :) ↑ |
| Name: Vicki | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 9:51 PM |
| I have done lots of research about different types of adoption tell your friend if she needs someone to talk to she can email me at [email protected] I have looked in to both open and closed adoption and have been through it with two friends one that has adopted and one that put her baby up for adotion. I will help her in any way that I can. Talk to you soon, Vicki ↑ |
| Name: BRENDA AND RICHIE | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 9:56 PM |
| THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THEM ARE OPEN IS BEING ABLE TO KEEP IN CONTACT WITH THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS AND CLOSED YOU HAVE NO CONTACT. I THINK GOING THROUGH PRIVATE OR AGENCY IS THAT PRIVATE YOU HAVE ALL THE SAY AND AGENCY THEY HELP YOU THROUGH IT. SEEING THE BABY IS ALL UP TO THE BIRTH MOM, IT WOULD BE HARD TO SEE THE BABY BUT I WOULD STILL LIKE TO GET PICTURES AND KEEP IN TOUCH WITH THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS TO SEE HOW THEY ARE DOING FROM TIME TO TIME. IF YOU LIKE TO WRITE TO ME YOU CAN AT [email protected] hope to hear from you ↑ |
| Name: Cara | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 10:09 PM |
| I can help you with some of those questions as well as refer you to a great attorney's 1800 number who can give you an unbiased opinion and advise you. I understand her feelings though. My friend asked me to adopt her child but then placed out of state for the same reasons. Feel free to email me at [email protected]. Thanks. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 11:53 PM |
| Hi There, Your friend is very smart to be giving these questions some serious thought, this may be one of the most difficult things she may ever have to do. Now days the adoption can be whatever she wants with as much contact as works for her and with the right adoptive parents what she wants can be flexible over time. In an open adoption you can have pictures, letters, visits and really be a part of your child's life. A semi-open adoption is more just pictures and letters with no real contact. And closed is where there would be no contact at all and probably not even exchanging of names and such. I have read some stories from other moms who choose adoption for their babies and it seems having some openess is better for most of them because they can get a sense that their baby is doing well and being taken care of instead of always just wondering. Whether you she goes to an agency or tries to find someone on her own also depends on the situation. An agency can provide a lot of assistance and counseling, but if she finds a couple on her own they should also offer the same. A lot of hopeful couples posting also work with an agency. I would love to talk to her or you and share any info I can. I also have IM and can just chat too! Best of Luck to your friend :) Jess www.achild2love.com AOL IM: nomadjess76 Yahoo or MSN: nomadjess ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn & Louis | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 2:35 AM |
| Hi- You really are a special friend for helping her in this way; Obviusly this is a difficult time for her, and it is great that you are there for her. The ladies before me did a great job answering your questions..... If your friend is interested in adoption, we would love to hear from her via phone or email. Our website you both can check out with alot of information and pictures is: http://www.readytoadop t.com/carolynandlouis/ God bless. Hugs- Carolyn & Louis in beautiful Colorado ! 1-800-643-2962 ↑ |
| Name: KRISTINA | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 3:09 AM |
| MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE A COMPLETED HOME STUDY AND ARE NOW WAITING AND HOPING FOR A SECOND CHILD TO JOIN OUR FAMILY. SINCE WE HAVE ADOPTED BEFORE WE ARE VERY FAMILIAR WITH THE INS AND OUTS OF ADOPTION. PLEASE CONTACT ME VIA E-MAIL @ [email protected] -- I WOULD LOVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO TALK WITH YOU ABOUT YOUR FRIEND AND TO GIVE YOU SOME INFORMATION ABOUT OUR FAMILY. I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO SPEAKING WITH YOU. ↑ |
| Name: friend of a friend... | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 7:04 AM |
| Thanks for replying. I have e-mailed some of you for more information. ↑ |
| Name: Barbara Smith | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 1:02 PM |
| The pros of open adoption: the child never has to think they were "given away" because they were unloveable (because birth mom can always call/write/visit and show that she loves the child), birth mom never has to wonder how her child is doing when she sees children of a similar age (like in the grocery store), birth mom lessens her guilt (because she is part of the loving family that her child is in), and most of all is that child gets so much MORE loving - having more family is definitely a benefit. Some drawbacks of open adoption: having to explain the relationships to the child (but this is easier than you might think). Everyone understanding that birth mommy's role is more like a "favorite auntie" rather than another mommy (immediate family understands this, but strangers sometimes do not as easily). We have an open adoption with our Ava's birth mommy Jenelle. We and Jenelle originally wanted an open adoption with phone calls/emails/letters only, but it was neat how quickly we and Jenelle fell in love with each *other* and so now we visit a LOT! In fact, we spent Thanksgiving with her (even though she lives in Louisiana and we are in PA). It was so neat to have this relationship develop! Jenelle and I are so different, and yet we have this love for each other, like sisters. I would never expect this to happen with our next birth mommy, but you never know... when a birth mommy gives you her most precious commodity (her child), you cannot help buy love her forever! I hope this helped a little, kind regards, Barbie www.SmithAngels.com ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn to friend of a friend. | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 2:01 PM |
| HI Friend............. If you want to email me my email address is [email protected] Thank you so much ! God bless- Carolyn & Louis in CO ↑ |
| Name: helpinghands | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 4:27 PM |
| Hello friend of a friend, I'm glad you are there for your friend. That is what she needs right now. Keep showing your support. I would be glad to speak with you. My email is [email protected] Please email me and I will be glad to help you and your friend in anyway I can. There are many pros and cons and depending where you live and which laws applies. Also something to remember is everyone's situation is different as well. I will be glad to talk to you though email and send you some information if you like. ↑ |
| Name: kimberly | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 12:58 AM |
| please email me [email protected] me and my husband are very interested. and we would love to talk to yall ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 2:08 AM |
| Hi friend, If you want to talk please email or call us. We have experienced a lot during this process and have lots of info we can share. Jess [email protected] www.achild2love.com 1-888-768-4748 ↑ |
| Name: Private | Date: Feb 24th, 2006 5:31 AM |
| Hello as a Mom and Grandmother I can sure to tell you the difference and what and how a Open or closed will help you. I would love to talk to you but I do not feel comfortable leaving my name and all on this board for some one to play around with so I will say to protect you if you want to talk to me post it on here and I will email you my address. Many Blessing tell your friend she is not alone. God bless ↑ |
| Name: laura | Date: Mar 13th, 2006 4:12 PM |
| can i chat to my friends ↑ |
| Name: TO FRIEND OF A FRIEND | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 12:20 AM |
| MY HUSBAND AND I WANT TO ADOPT A BABY WOULD U PLEASE E MAIL ME SO WE CAN TALK AT [email protected] thank u kelly ↑ |
| Name: janelle | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 7:44 AM |
| Childless couple with 2 dogs are searching for a birthmother to choose them to parent their child. We live in Suburban Cincinnati, Ohio. We are both X-ray Technologist. Janelle wishes to become a stay-at-home mom.....just as her mom and her husband's mom was. Please contact us through email or phone [email protected] 513-779-0770 our website with photos and more information is: www.babyadoption.zoomshare.com Thank you for reading and considering, Good Luck Janelle ↑ |
| Name: lisabalash | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 5:11 PM |
| lisa and tony would love to adopt your baby either way it would be very specail to us please respone [email protected] 512-0912 ↑ |
| Name: aava | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 6:12 PM |
| Hi Friend, I am also preggers and have choose adoption for my son. I've done extensive research and talked to a zillion birth moms and adoptive parents. It took a little trial and error but I've found the perfect family and situation for our son. If you or your friend would like some answers from another birthmoms view feel free to email me and also when you do I'll send you my number so you can call if you'd like. Please tell your freind not to Make any fast or quick Decsions without hearing all of her options..!!!!! And be careful as to what info you give who here because if you make one little mistake or change your mind you will get riddled with nasty msgs. Good Luck sweetie and I hope to hear from you... PS i'm due August 25th so it's speeding right up on me... HUGZ' AVA AKA De s [email protected] ps I just noticed that this is a very old post but if you've still not found what your looking for feel free to email me.... Or Congrats if your already all set...LOL ↑ |
| Name: babygirl2006 | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 4:56 AM |
| hello my name is angie I know just abouy every thing about adoptions im on just about every site becuz i want to adopt.and i am adopting yea! maby if she dont back out. any quastions email me it is [email protected] my# is 256-931-4732 email me if you cant call long distences and give me you # i can call you. good luck ↑ |
