I have choose adoption for our child. We are due in August. I am in FL and when I decided to go this route I contacted an attorney from the yellow pages. I was giving a few profiles and eventually started to "get to know" one family. I'm not completely sure why but the family stopped our match. Ive been surfing allot of the adoption sites and profiles and am even a member on a msg board where everyone gives me great advice. My question is DO most familys go through allot of bmoms b4 they actually match. How soon do u think is good to match. (ie,When the bmom is how far along)? I have faith that we will find an adopted family that will end up the parents for our child but worried that we wont have enough time to get to know them before the baby is born. What is you aparents take on this all??
Thanks a bunch
[email protected]
that is my email in case you'd rather email me.
Sincerely
Ava ↓
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| Name: Mrs. A.M. | Date: May 19th, 2006 12:58 PM |
| I would love to talk with you....I have sent you an email. ↑ |
| Name: Luann | Date: May 19th, 2006 1:18 PM |
Following me Ava? LOLOLOL
To answer your question..no..I don't think afamilies go thru alot of birthmoms before the actual match. There are THOUSANDS of people waiting to adopt and just not enough bm's in my experience. If you post your situation looking for aparents you will be overwhelmed with responses. I wish you luck finding your perfect match! ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn & Louis | Date: May 19th, 2006 1:38 PM |
Dear Ava-
Hi ! Adopting is our dream ! We would love to talk to you and meet you, and get to know you !
My husband is an airline pilot, so we can fly to meet you anytime !
I sent you an email. I would really love to hear from you.
You can view our website at http://www.readytoadopt.c
om/carolynandlouis/
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email is [email protected]
Thanks so much !
God bless.
Love always,
Carolyn & Louis ↑ |
| Name: Ava | Date: May 19th, 2006 2:26 PM |
HI I just wanted to let yall know I got your emails and I'm reading and responding to every single one so if I havent replied yet please no I will. I'm a bit slow because I am researching every single aspect of the process as I go so I do make the best decision for this baby!
hugz
Ava ↑ |
| Name: cookie | Date: May 19th, 2006 3:05 PM |
| I need help!!!!!! my grandmother was adopted back in 1920's give a year or two...... how can I find information regarding her adoption..... there are medical issues that we need My Grandmother died in 1975 and my mother was a military wife and we traveled evey where.... no records are to be found... When being moved around you did lose things.... We know my aunt had records but she is decieced to and her family will not give my mom anything pictures record nothing.... can some one please help me and tell me how to go about getting information that we need. I have contacted hi up people and they had no what so ever help.... mayers, congress men were no help. I contacted he place of employment which was the city hospital and they said they can not give us any records because she is dead. please help me. ↑ |
| Name: To:Cookie | Date: May 19th, 2006 3:08 PM |
| Hey, go get a court order to open the records. All you have to do is file a paper and have a judge sign it. If everyone is dead they shouldn't have a problem with it. ↑ |
| Name: Cody and Jody | Date: May 19th, 2006 3:10 PM |
Hi Ava! We are on the other end of this same adoption situation, as well as many families on the board! We even had a beautiful baby boy with us for a week when his mommy changed her mind and re-claimed him. It is not very often that adoptive parents back out of a situation, atleast from what we have heard. We did hear of a situation where the adoptive parents were "matched" with two birth moms at the same time, they ended up adopting the baby that was born first. Very sad if you ask me! We have been "matched more than a "few" times, two times ended up being a scam, and two times the mom had a change of heart. Each time we were matched we stoped taking calls and emails from other perspective birth moms. If we are matched again in the future, we will do the same. We would not want her to be working with more than one family after matching and building a relationship either. Wow , I feel for you right now. Please keep the faith that you will find the perfect family for your baby! There are some great families looking to adopt on this forum, us included! HE HE!
[email protected] HUGS TO YOU!!! ↑ |
| Name: Dee | Date: May 19th, 2006 5:40 PM |
Hi Ava - I am on the opposite end. I had looked to adopt 2 years after my DD was born as I had several m/c - one year into the process I had a failed adoption of an 18 month old baby boy (the mom was mexican and they lived in upstate NY) We had been talking for a couple of months and I we were expecing him home and the day before she called me to tell me her mom agreed to help her and she was no longer giving him up. I was heartbroken, it was like having another m/c but much worse bec I had seen his pictures and it seemed a reality. I then went though an agency and could not bare how commercial it was so I back out. I ended up with a successful pregnancy another year later and had a boy who was a preemie. I am looking to adopt again as I had more m/cs after him and my doc does not advise more pregnancies (I have a bi-cornuate uterus and she does not thing my next pregnancy would make it past 22 or so weeks).
Anyway, my point is that even when things seem very certain, there are events that happen in people's lifes that change everything in a second. Hang in there! My co-worker (single mom) adopted a girl and met the mom when she was 5 moths pregnant and was with ther through the entire thing. You just never know.
Good luck and hang in there ! Dee ([email protected]) ↑ |
| Name: Misty | Date: May 19th, 2006 6:23 PM |
| Name: KELLY M | Date: May 19th, 2006 10:12 PM |
| Name: Ava | Date: May 20th, 2006 8:35 PM |
Hi everyone, I wanted to let yall know that via the emails I got I found a couple whom we are now "getting to know" I dont want to lead anyone on here I dont want to break heats .
I have no idea wether this will become a match or not but things are going good at this moment. I've kept each and ever email should things go bad I will be in search again. ( i hope that doesnt happen)
Wish us all luck!!
One more thing I noticed just email addys here under the topic I started and had no clue why they were there if they were there for me to respond to that would not have happened. I would at the minimum at least introduce myself and extend a handshake.
Ava
ps THANK YOU ALL SO SO SO MUCH I am happy I'm starting a relationship but sad that you are still looking pleeze hang in and I wish you all good health, love and luck. ↑ |
| Name: KE | Date: May 20th, 2006 10:21 PM |
| Good Luck and Congratulations to you and the family you chose. I wish you all a world of happiness! :) ↑ |
| Name: misty | Date: May 21st, 2006 12:21 AM |
| [email protected] Ava good luck to you and best wishes also. I am glad that things are working out for you there are wonderful people here. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: May 21st, 2006 3:00 AM |
| All the best to you and your family, Ava! We wish you nothing but great things for your future... ↑ |
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