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| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 29th, 2006 3:23 AM |
| Tired of it taking so long, so am I, we have been involved with adoption since 1999 altogether. For every baby out there successfully adopted, there are at least 20 couples vieing for said baby. We have been listed on parent profiles since mid May of this year. We have had three live hits to date. The first baby wound up going to grand parnts. The second turned out to be a money scam, the third parents reversed themselves when baby turned out to have cleft lip and palate and swing jaw. We should have been parents several times over by now... parentprofiles is an excellent forum and I do recommend it, we have just had super rotten luck. ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Oct 29th, 2006 12:22 PM |
| There are other lower cost sites out there too similar to parent profiles. How about newspaper ads-are you using them? I still heard they are very effective. Less couples use some sites similiar to parent profiles and I think they don't get the "traffic" parent profiles does. I did not hear good things about adoptads.com at all. This one is only $150 a year: http://www.findadoptiveparents.co m/dear-birthmother-letters.shtml Says the ad is free: http://mayweadopt.com/index.php This one is not too expensive either: http://www.adoptions.com/cost.cfm Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: nikkiandrob | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 4:21 PM |
| Hi Gracie, We've been on Parent Profiles for about 6 weeks and Patty's right, it's a great forum. Yes, there are a ton of couples listed, but the site is very user friendly and you get exposure all over the Internet. We've gotten a few contacts already, but nothing serious has developed. Good luck to you! ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 11:24 PM |
| Might be all over for us anyway, because of the evaluation I cannot seem to obtain. I think the doctor I saw did not correctly understand me. Gosh do I try to fix that or try to start over with a different agency and new home study... how bad do we want this. I would like children, but the docs and social workers and state of Michigan don't seem to think that is good enough. So I am stymied, guess we will foster newborns. I already have a year of volunteering in the NICU in a local hospital and I LOVE it!!! Should just get a job there. ↑ |
| Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 30th, 2006 11:46 PM |
| Quote: Name: nyjocool • Date: 10/29/2006 07:22:32 There are other lower cost sites out there too similar to parent profiles. How about newspaper ads-are you using them? I still heard they are very effective. ****** I think this is really bad. Find a child in a newspaper ad. Looking for a budget web site for adoption! We are not talking about pets people. Why not adopt an older child who has been waiting years for a family? Why not go to Africa. I hear the orphanages are full of children waiting for homes. ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 1st, 2006 4:37 AM |
| Thanks to all for their replies. I will have to look at the sites. I have been looking for children of just about any age. But for us it would work better to have the ages a little closer. When we were growing up my parents took in kids- mostly teens. That was not a problem and for the most part was fun except for one teen. I just am not sure that we are able to meet that age groups needs right now. I would not want them to feel that they were just wanted to baby sit just because of the young age group that I have. I have looked into orphanages overseas....Ohhhh that breaks my heart. I am married and many of those countries require that you stay in their country for a period of time. My spouse is not willing to do that at this time. I have many great websites about this if anyone is interested. I have thought about trying to get a group together to sponsor an orphanage. They need just the basics of life even. I feel helpless in this situation and not sure how to proceed. For sure every child is born with the need, but not always is the situation there for them to flourish. Gracie ↑ |
| Name: sdt1977 | Date: Nov 1st, 2006 5:19 AM |
| luckey perhaps you should check facts, there are more children in foster care and that need loving homes then animal, sadly enough .... all i can say is the people who are here to give children a loving home need to be respected and embraced not trashed by a person who has no idea what she is talking about. over the past few months i have gotten to know alot of these ladies and they are great, there are some questionable but for the most part this is a network of good people just looking for children to love and to offer great lives to. ↑ |
| Name: heartwarmer | Date: Nov 1st, 2006 6:56 PM |
| I just registered with this site, but have read most of luckey_ in _lifes posts... Not every child in foster care is easy to adopt...they have strict requirements for some, such as no children in the home, can only be the youngest child, serious emotional issues, etc...As I have children in the home already, half the foster children advertised on the internet are out of our reach. The required classes in my state are not feasible for my husband and I, as they are mandatory..his job does not allow him to take the same evenings off every week for 10-14 weeks... same with traveling to another country..we just can't take off for several weeks to pay $20-$30 k for a kid halfway across the world. So yes, the foster care system is a great place, if you meet the requirements - but why chastise those who want to raise a child from birth. What's the difference of putting a profile on the internet when the foster care system does the same with their kids? just my thoughts on the subject. ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 4:30 AM |
| I really agree with heartwarmer. We actually tried for several little boys on adoptuskids.org and on nwae. But in those cases were were not eligible for the ages of the children that we already had. Had to be the youngest, or had to be the only child, had to be part of nicwa, etc. Doesn't mean that I am giving up on that option, just trying to expand my options. Thinking "out of the box"! thanks for everyones comments, Gracie ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 4:35 AM |
| We put in for a 8 year old girl from adoptex.org, but was told because we have an infant, we won't be considered. They told me that we have to have our son in our home at least a year before we will be considered from a child from that site. I think that is completely ridiculous. Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 4:44 AM |
| Yep, happened to us. We had the home study done and then found out that we were going to have a baby that I was not going to miscarry. Wonderful news, but it took us out of the process. We had a beautiful little girl. But found out later that we were considered for a 3 year old boy that would have fit perfit to fill the huge gap between the girls and would also have had a little boy and given a child a wonderful home. We had also found the same thing on nwae and it was a 3 year old boy and his 12 mth brother. Could not be considered for they had to be the youngest in the home. Our little one was just tiny at the time. And at any rate you can not have a new child come in the home for 6 mths here after the birth of a new child. I think that is for bonding time, but why not hold the child that they think is perfect for you if is in a current stable situation. sigh, Gracie ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 4:59 AM |
| Gracie, It made me mad that they said that our baby had to be in our home at least a year; he also is adopted. We have had him just over 4 months now. Why they wouldn't let a 8 year old girl have a happy home here too, due to a mere technicality just gets me angry. Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 5:03 AM |
| Carolyn, I don't have the answer to that. I feel your pain. I think that is just part of the part where the system is not working at its utmost. Gracie ↑ |
| Name: sweetiepie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 6:09 AM |
| Look I have lots of things I could say about foster care. I will try to keep it brief. #1. When you go to take the 10 to 14 week course the social workers will tell you right away...this is not the place to adopt. #2. DFS their first priority is reuniting children with families and once a child is removed the govt MUST give the birthparents 12 to 18 months before trying to revoke thier rights. #3. If is website says a child must be the youngest! RUN. There is a 99% chance that Child has attachment issues. 4# Adopting from the states can be very fullilling but much more then you expect. You much educate yourselves on the possible hidden abuses that do not come to light till often times years down the road. #5.Foster children need loving families and parents but the parents MUST be able and willing to go to the ends of the earth no matter what...as many issues transpire. #6 Do not consider foster adopt unless you have really searched you heart #7 Ads on the Net for fosteradopt ARE sugar coated, request to see the childs full file. #8 Each person must choose the type of adoption that is best for their family. If you do not you are doing a huge injustice to the child. ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 2nd, 2006 6:11 PM |
| Luckey-why do have such a problem with people advertising in newspapers and looking on the internet to be matched with an potential birthmom? It is done legally thousands of time in the US. How do you think adoption agencies find birthmoms-they place ads in newspapers!!! Of course they do. You think they wait for women to walk in off the street. They'd be out of business in no time. Adoption agencies have fancy websites-they are looking for birthmoms too, but on a grander scale. Some of us don't have the money or time to travel to foreign countries. It's just not feasible! For some of us it's not feasible to spend $30,000 on an agency adoption. Why should you be telling us what's right and what's wrong. Legally we can adopt this way-just because you don't agree-that doesn't mean you need to interject your 2 cents in at every opportunity. You never answered the question-why are you here??? Are you an adoptive parent, birthmom, own an agency? Why do you hang out here in the forums and be so negative and critical of the discussions we have. ↑ |
| Name: PDcom | Date: Nov 7th, 2006 7:05 AM |
| You may want to try www.parentpromoter.com. This is a fairly new site for adoptive parents and birthparents to create profiles. The site is currently FREE for new users. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 8th, 2006 6:12 PM |
| this is a good one ↑ |
