| Hey we are faithpatience and we reside in Charlotte, NC. We are willing to travel if it is on the east coast in a resonable distance ↑ |
Hi Faithpatience, welcome to the world of adoption. Are you h/s ready?
God may have sent you here to this board for other reasons!! Once you read, and are on it for awhile, you will understand what I am saying.
Wishing you blessings on your journey. ↑ |
Dear Faith and hubby. Hi welcome. I will warn you upfront you will not find a potential birthmom on this type of listing. To many scammers and game players sadly seem to pray on those wishing to adopt on this and many lists just like it. However this can be a great place to meet those also wishing to adopt a baby. Like the other poster have you done a homestudy yet? Sadly serious inquiries only is not going to always be followed or respected. Also you may be contacted by others in any country. Join a few yahoo groups and get to know what to expect. May you find the child of your dreams. I would also check into your states laws about adoption so your prepared in advance also talk to the agencies as well as several lawyers.
Baby dreams to You!!
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Hi all - I'm new to this board also (see listing: Calif Couple Homestudy Approved and Ready to Adopt). I have been watching this board for a while before I decided to join. By the way, I have my own adoption education & awareness website and am pretty scam-proofed! I am also a licensed psychotherapist and have developed pretty good instincts for sizing people up. What I have learned from this particular forum is the following:
1) Pregnant women / teens are not responding to posts to those of us looking to adopt. I do believe there are a lot of scammers or lonely women (or men?) who use this forum to get their psychological (and financial) needs met. If you look at my posting, I have informed any potention pregnant women considering adoption that I WILL be placing them in contact with my agency to verify their intentions (ie: verify pregnancy, I.D., etc.). This is something you should always do - DO NOT match or send money to someone unless you have an agency, atty., or facilitator verify info.
2) This should be a place where we (those of us seeking to adopt) should be able to come to discuss our journey - good and bad. But, I feel it is imperitive that we be respectful of any possibly pregnant women who may be actually for real. This is a place to share our feelings, but you may only be shooting yourself in the foot if all you do is rag about pregnant scammers and matches that fell apart. Keep your intergrity. If there are some verifyable pregnant women looking on this site for a potential adoption family, do you think they will choose families who are whiney, rude, desperate, cruel, and hostile towards others (scammers or not)?
3) Just to clarify some adoption lingo, and I've heard this from other professionals, pregnant women are not birthmothers until they have given birth.
4) Back to the psychological issue. Unfortunately, due to the nature of how the adoption "business" has exploded with the internet, and how those of us are in a very vulnerable position because our personal info is out for the world to see, it is easy to see how we can easily become prey for mentally ill or psychologically broken individuals to use us to fulfill their needs. I will also recognize that there are people that are using this as a thrill or financial gain as well (but again a need). It is an unfortunate situation, and very sad. Sometimes people just need to feel needed, accepted, listened to, etc. This is why they use forums like this - it's easy - they know what we want to hear to continue a conversation.
4) Scam-proof yourselves! Do not entertain lenghty contact with these women / men until they are verified. Let them know up front this is a serious decision. A truthful, verifyable pregnant woman considering adoption will be O.K. making contact with an adoption professional - most of them do not want to string this process out. Even if they need some counseling to decide whether or not to place a child, if they are verifyable, then they will be open to REAL contact with REAL professionals.
5) That's about it! I hope this has been helpful. I too long to grow my family through adoption (I'm also an adoptee). Good luck and God bless!!! ↑ |
