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Name: NDNBasturd

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Don't do it! Abortion is a MUCH kinder option for the child !!
Being an adoptee equates to being LESS then nothing in our society! Like my nick? Your kid will have lots of equally flattering names if you cop out of your responsibilities with "adoption" An Adoptee has no identity, no heritage, no rights, no real connection to ANYONE.

Don't let all these "we'll take good care of your baby people" fool you. They may THINK they know what they are talking about but they don't.

The ONLY person who can tell you what its like is someone who was "adopted" If you truly care about your child, either keep it, or kill it. Adoption = torture
I've only really hated one person in my life... the woman who gave birth to me and threw me away. ↓

Name: Dezzy | Date: May 15th, 2007 1:01 AM

There is a cure for you out there, Please do seek it. Adoption is not a bad thing, Murder is. Maybe your mom had no other choice, you never know until you walk in her shoes and you would know what the times was like or was she able to raise you, I am sorry you have harsh feelings but I am new here but I do not think anyone on here would approve of your harsh ways towards adoption. DD ↑

Name: vrs31proverbs31 | Date: May 15th, 2007 1:30 AM

NDNBasturd

YOU need some serious HELP with yur anger issues. Just because your life did not turn out they way you think it should have does not mean that adoption is bad. I grew up with adoption all around me I have known people who have place their child for adoption have been adopted and have adopted and my self I am a mother of two adopted children and NOT ONE of them have ever had or have the negativity you do.

You state and I quote (I've only really hated one person in my life... the woman who gave birth to me and threw me away.)
Well if adoption was so bad then why do you not hate your adoptive parents the ones who took care of you.

I will pray for you and hope you get help for your anger issue and you abandonment issues.

God Bless you ↑

Name: tattudemom | Date: May 15th, 2007 2:23 AM

NDN, you have valid points and I would never dream of telling you how to feel, so why would you think that everyone else feels as you do also? I'm sure many of the children in the foster care system are there because their parents thought they'd try to keep them against all odds. The feelings you're referring to aren't so prevelant in today's adoptees, especially with the openness that so many people share with the birthmoms. The child at least has the connection biologically through medical/hereditary information, but also the first mom and child can speak on the phone, share letters and pictures, and even visit with each other. Maybe you were part of a closed adoption. Many adoptees feel resentment, anger, and pain because they were alienated from their biological families. That's why open adoption is becoming so popular. Birthmoms now are opting for families whom they know will allow them ongoing contact because in most cases they don't want to give up their child. Also, adoptive families are screened closer than in the past, so there are fewer cases of kids feeling second best or even abused.

Again, I understand why you feel the way you do, but abortion is certainly not an answer. ↑

Name: dmt | Date: May 15th, 2007 5:10 PM

So you would rather be dead than adopted. I am sure most other children that have been adopted do not feel the same. ↑