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Name: WouldLoveToMotherYours

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Please please be oh so careful when arranging to meet potential adoptive parents. I know of a situation that happened when an adoptive couple drove out to meet a birth mother and her potential adoptive child; the couple was nothing that they had proclaimed to be, and it went almost to a stalking situation.

This couple is very much the exception in adoptive parents more so than the rule BUT one can never be too careful when placing a child.

And to the adoptive parents here...why not tell right up front who you REALLY are? why proclaim all of these great things, that when others meet you and dont know your story they dont see any part of the greatness??

And when an adoptive parent has changed her mind, I know that is a let down, but that is her choice. Birth mothers are making a very big life altering decision here and if they are good hearted people they wont make that decision lightly. If she tells you that she has changed her mind, leave her alone...stalking her wont make her change back to her original thought, it will only make her scared and she will KNOW then that you arent the right family for her child.

This is a very sensitive situation that needs everyone to be honest, understanding, and patient!! ↓

Name: KellyJude | Date: Jun 30th, 2008 11:08 AM

That is absolutely horrible. I was hoping this board would get better. There seems to be a lot of scams. Now, from your posting to know the adoptive parents are behaving this way is really unbelievable. I hope the true birth moms who are looking for a good family are not discouraged off this board. As an adoptive mom myself I would never think to harras a birth mom. Even though this board is not the best, I still have hope that maybe our family can be matched with a true birth mom looking for a loving family. There are still good people on this board, so never give up hope. It is sad that hopeful adoptive parents would go this extreme. ↑

Name: seattlesamantha | Date: Jun 30th, 2008 7:55 PM

I feel like you are trying to make all the adoptive mothers our there look bad, and you are the only good one? I am an adoptive mother, and I CHERISH our first birthmother. I hope you haven't ruined it for the rest of us.....! ↑

Name: Mom2pugs | Date: Jul 6th, 2008 1:44 AM

I am a potential adoptive mom. I would not trust a match on this site for my life. IT IS NOT IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE BIRTHMOM!!!! Adoptive couples shoud want not only a healthy baby after birth but a healthy bmom too. I suggest they contact my agency and then make the choice of THEIR family. If they like my family to adopt their child the will pick me. ↑

Name: Lynne Banks | Date: Jul 6th, 2008 1:42 PM

I would love to know more about the couple you are talking about.
I can think of two couples that come to my mind who would do such a thing.
email me privately if you prefer.
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