| Please look out, do not trust, work only thru Agency. Good Luck. ↑ |
| Hi, I understand that you trust her and that is great BUT if you want to give her financial help please do so through a lawyer. Cantact a lawyer in her area and send the money to the lawyer for them to give out. ↑ |
Hi,
It varies state to state. Some states you are not aloud to give them anything at all. If you give them something and your are in a state that you are not aloud to it would be considered a felony. Even in the states that you are aloud to give money in they might let you give money for some things and not others. If you give them money for the wrong thing it could be considered a felony. I am sure you know that you are suppose to have an adoption attorney and you are also suppose to hire her an attorney of her own. What I was told needs to be done is she needs to go to her lawyer and let them know what her bills are and what she needs money for. Then her lawyer will look and see what you are aloud to pay her. Her lawyer and your lawyer will get together and make an agreement. If you two are in different states they will make a compromised between the states. After you find out what is legal and they let you know when you are aloud to give it to her her everything should be okay. If I were you I wouldn't bling with out using a lawyer. When I was talking to a bm I was thinking about buying her maternity clothes. I was told I would be committing a felony by my lawyer be careful. Also keep in consideration if anything happens with this adoption any money you have already given her you can not get back.
Good luck,
Michelle ↑ |
| In my state....you can give her nothing....expenses are okay ONLY through a lawyer....You can't even let them live in your rental house free......because then it is construed as you buying the baby....And the baby will go to foster care and you and the birthmother would be in jail for buying and selling the baby......Even soap and shampoo or food or socks can not be given for a gift without an attorney doing the shopping........I talked to our attorney and he said that if someone had proof of gifts being given...even before a paper was signed then the state would step in once the baby was born........So please check your state and also make sure you talk to an attorney that handles adoptions. Because some attorneys do not know and then ignorance of the law is not accepted in court......Good Luck... ↑ |
First, you should only be doing this through an agency or attorney. Your post is leaning towards I will do whatever I can to have this baby and how can I go around the laws. Second, if she is talking to other families- is she taking money from other families- and how do you know for sure?
I know the desire to have a child but your post has red flags all over. Plus (I know you don't want to hear this, but from an outsider who has been in your shoes of wanting a child) "I want to make sure I am the one to adopt her baby girl" sounds desperate and ddesperate puts you in a bad situation. ↑ |
