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| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 11:30 PM |
| This is a wonderful place to let them know of known scamers or if You have been scammed. Be if financial or emotional its a scam if the potential birthparent was Not pregent or is pregnant and is working with several couples or is taking money from more then one person or agency etc. Good Luck be careful. Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 5:57 PM |
| Dreams, Noticed you joined the forum. Thanks so much! If we all bond together we can make a difference! Hugs, Lori ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 3:31 AM |
| Lori Yes we can!!! Take care Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 10:49 PM |
| Hello everyone read learn listen. And most of all check out everything anyone tells You. Get confirmation. Best wishes Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 11:05 PM |
| Also, adoptionscam.com will be happy to hear any concerns PAPs have regarding a possible situation and will help assist you! Also, any information you share with us will be kept completely confidential and WILL NOT be posted. As we all know, scammers like to check themselves out on public forums! Unless we have to do a full background check, we'll be happy to help you without charge as much as possible. Good job Dreams!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 3:11 AM |
| GReat place to check out be an aware potential adoptive parent as well as potential birthparents. Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 4:09 AM |
| HI all make sure that if your getting seriously involved with a potential birthparent to make sure they are Legit. Get that pregnancy test verfied thru her doctor and thru your agency or lawyer. Make sure what she says is true that her home address is a real one Meet her face to face? Maybe go to her doctor with her if possible? Get names of her family or friends if you should lose touch? Does her family and friends know of her consideration of adoption? Do they support her? How old is she? Very young or older are all reasons for Red Flags. Is she single or married] more risk seen with Married moms. Does the potential birth father know of the pregnancy? Does he support her choice for adoption? Is he willing to sign papers giving up all rights to his child? Does she have this child named in her head? Most potential birthmoms do not name a child they plan to place. Will she or has she met with an adoption counselor? Will she give you permission for release of her medicals records? Does she constantly need Your help? Does she always seem in some form of crisis? If Yes RED FLAG here big time. Does anyone else support her emotionally? Lots of things that may lead you to question the potential for a situation to not be legit or to be High risk. Be a good consumer and Always remember this is NOt just your Heart its your money also. Protect Your heart and your money. Be a cautious consumer. If it feels wrong or something feels off. Then do follow up on those feelings. It if seems to good to be true? Once again proceed with caution. Good Luck Dreams ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 9:16 PM |
| Hi all - I'm new to this board also (see listing: Calif Couple Homestudy Approved and Ready to Adopt). I have been watching this board for a while before I decided to join. By the way, I have my own adoption education & awareness website and am pretty scam-proofed! I am also a licensed psychotherapist and have developed pretty good instincts for sizing people up. What I have learned from this particular forum is the following: 1) Pregnant women / teens are not responding to posts to those of us looking to adopt. I do believe there are a lot of scammers or lonely women (or men?) who use this forum to get their psychological (and financial) needs met. If you look at my posting, I have informed any potention pregnant women considering adoption that I WILL be placing them in contact with my agency to verify their intentions (ie: verify pregnancy, I.D., etc.). This is something you should always do - DO NOT match or send money to someone unless you have an agency, atty., or facilitator verify info. 2) This should be a place where we (those of us seeking to adopt) should be able to come to discuss our journey - good and bad. But, I feel it is imperitive that we be respectful of any possibly pregnant women who may be actually for real. This is a place to share our feelings, but you may only be shooting yourself in the foot if all you do is rag about pregnant scammers and matches that fell apart. Keep your intergrity. If there are some verifyable pregnant women looking on this site for a potential adoption family, do you think they will choose families who are whiney, rude, desperate, cruel, and hostile towards others (scammers or not)? 3) Just to clarify some adoption lingo, and I've heard this from other professionals, pregnant women are not birthmothers until they have given birth. 4) Back to the psychological issue. Unfortunately, due to the nature of how the adoption "business" has exploded with the internet, and how those of us are in a very vulnerable position because our personal info is out for the world to see, it is easy to see how we can easily become prey for mentally ill or psychologically broken individuals to use us to fulfill their needs. I will also recognize that there are people that are using this as a thrill or financial gain as well (but again a need). It is an unfortunate situation, and very sad. Sometimes people just need to feel needed, accepted, listened to, etc. This is why they use forums like this - it's easy - they know what we want to hear to continue a conversation. 4) Scam-proof yourselves! Do not entertain lenghty contact with these women / men until they are verified. Let them know up front this is a serious decision. A truthful, verifyable pregnant woman considering adoption will be O.K. making contact with an adoption professional - most of them do not want to string this process out. Even if they need some counseling to decide whether or not to place a child, if they are verifyable, then they will be open to REAL contact with REAL professionals. 5) That's about it! I hope this has been helpful. I too long to grow my family through adoption (I'm also an adoptee). Good luck and God bless!!! ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 11:34 PM |
| The Right place to look for information. Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jul 22nd, 2006 1:55 AM |
| Great Place to check out anything or Anyone you feel their is reason to question. Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Me | Date: Jul 29th, 2006 3:26 AM |
| bump ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jul 31st, 2006 3:10 AM |
| Be careful be a good and cautious user of the internet. Best wishes Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 5:10 PM |
| would love to have everyone concerned about scams to help us with this new forum...... hugs, blessings,and baby wishes to all.... Lori ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 9th, 2006 1:52 AM |
| another good one ↑ |
