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Name: codyjody [ Original Post ] Home » Pick Your Crowd » Stay at Home Moms » Name: luckey_in_life Title: Adoption crowd Have any of you read the posts on the adoption crowd? I am really getting tired of reading posts like the one below. Don't these people know they should be working with an adoption agency or a social worker. I hope young pregnant girls know not to give their babies away to strangers they meet on a chat room. I think these people are trying to take advantage of pregnant women. ************* Name: trina6913 Title: Wanting to adopt African American baby My husband and I are wanting to adopt an african american baby...please contact us at... [email protected] thanks ? Your Reply Name: luckey_in_life • Date: 10/31/2006 06:24:23 I didn't think babycrowd was meant to be a place for birthmothers to find homes for their babies!!!!!!!!!!! = Name: Lynne n • Date: 10/31/2006 06:28:49 No neither do i! = Name: codyjody • Date: 10/31/2006 07:34:29 Luckey, why is it, you like making trouble so much? If you don't like what we post at adoption crowd, STAY OUT OF THERE! We have enough people trying to scam us all in there, we have finally had some peace....untill you decided to ride in on your... high horse! If a potential first mom finds the right family for her child in our forum, that is one less chilld in this world in need of a family. You come into our forum and call us child predators.....That is just down right RUDE! how many children have you adopted and given a loving home? How many times have you had to say good bye to a child you held and rocked to sleep, over and over, Because the birthmom changed her mind and decided to parent? How many times have you been at the airport, boarding the plane, excited to go meet the newest member of your family, and gotten the call that the Mom decided to parent? And after the heart break of this, still decide to stay in contact with the family because you have grown a great friendship. How many times have you heard on the news of a newborn baby being left in the alley way, or in a trash can behind someones house?....Well my dear, The mother to those children, could come into our forum and see the "warning" you post, get scared, and run away. How would you feel about that? A child dying, is nothing to over look. If a family that has all their paperwork done, lawyer on retainer, more love to give a child, wants to post to a potential birthmom, who are YOU to say it is wrong? I believe in Fate, I do all that I can to help children find safe homes. If you want to stand in front of a child getting placed into a loving home....So be it,,,, Just remember the other alternative a scared potential mother has! Jody .......... = ↓

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Name: codyjody | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 12:54 PM

quote: Don't these people know they should be working with an adoption agency or a social worker. ********** Don't YOU know we all are working with an agency or social worker. You can NOT adopt without Them!....???? Quote: I hope young pregnant girls know not to give their babies away to strangers they meet on a chat room. I think these people are trying to take advantage of pregnant women. ******** Do you think we just email them and say: Hey... young pregnant girl, here is our address, send us your baby? We have months to meet in person and make friends with these women. Each family in an adoption has a lot to prove to one another, before a formal " match" is made. If either side decides it is not the right decision, the match is never made....But a friendship is!..... Jody ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 12:55 PM

Codyjody, Simply posting this statement: To all birthmothers: ****BE CAUTIOUS about individuals who solicit for the adoption of your child. For your safety, I recommend you DO NOT select adoptive couples from online chat rooms or message boards** is not bad advice. There are respectable adoption agencies and social workers who deal with placing children in loving homes everyday. My concern is that some people may be trying to bypass adoption laws in a desparate desire to obtain a child. I am also concerned about predators on the internet. I would not give away my address over the internet, and I especially would not give a child away over the internet. What about scared teenage girls who happen to come across one of the pleas we all read over there in the adoption forum? A teenager would be easy prey to one of these random posts on the adoption forum. If you are desparate to adopt, I hear Africa has many children in need of homes. I do not think posting in chat rooms and placing newspaper ads is the best way of going about adoption. I think people should take this subject a little more serious than that. = ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 12:57 PM

Hey - pay attention to the paragraph written by BabyCrowd about this forum; "Trying to make sense of the adoption laws in your state? Confused by the different regulations surrounding international adoption? Wondering what your rights are as a birth parent or as an adoptive parent? Just looking for adoption information? You'll find all the support and advice you need when it comes to child adoption in this forum." Does it say anywhere this is a place to meet and match? NO! Maybe we should all email Hearthsone Communications (Contact button at bottom of page) and request that they add another line to this paragraph stating: This is not a place for prospective adoptive parents and expectant / birthmothers to meet or match ↑

Name: codyjody | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 2:01 PM

Quote: "Trying to make sense of the adoption laws in your state? Confused by the different regulations surrounding international adoption? Wondering what your rights are as a birth parent or as an adoptive parent? Just looking for adoption information? You'll find all the support and advice you need when it comes to child adoption in this forum." ********** HHHMMM ......"Just looking for adoption information?" Example: Trixie and Davie are looking to adopt. Here is their adoption web site. www.lovingcouplelookingforangel.com.... WOW, that looks like adoption information to me!!! ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 2:08 PM

Chat Rooms are NOT places for adoptive parents to solicit birthparents. It is not appropriate for hopeful parents to post “I can help” messages, or internet addresses for birthmothers to visit, or to send this type of e-mail to birthmothers. Conversely, it is not appropriate for birthparents to use the Chat Room to solicit adoptive parents. There is no way of knowing which parents on the message board are qualified to adopt. I recommend that you search for licensed adoption agencies in your state. Any of these agencies can assist you with options planning. ↑

Name: codyjody | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 2:18 PM

quote: Chat Rooms are NOT places for adoptive parents to solicit birthparents. It is not appropriate for hopeful parents to post “I can help” messages, or internet addresses for birthmothers to visit, or to send this type of e-mail to birthmothers. ************** THESE ARE NOT THE RULES PLACED ON THIS FORUM!!! If they were, we would live by them! And AGAIN, I ask, how many children have you adopted? What brought you to this forum? OHH thats right, you are the "adoption in chat room, police chief," that aparently knows NOTHING about adoption!!! MY bad! ↑

Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 7:14 PM

Luckey, Just to let you know we all have to have an adoption attorney to adopt and a homestudy by an agency or social worker. So we have already been there and done that. Please do your research if your are going to post! ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 7:17 PM

Quote: "Name: tamara anderson • Date: 10/31/2006 14:14:20 Luckey, Just to let you know we all have to have an adoption attorney to adopt and a homestudy by an agency or social worker. " *** I am glad to know that you are psychic and can speak for every person that posts in this forum. ↑

Name: Carolyn | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 7:39 PM

CLICK AND IGNORE............. ↑