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i see alot of people think that this is wrong for women to do but yet everyone wants a baby what is wrong with wanting to have a baby for someone ?? ↓
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| Name: gbuckley35 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 2:26 PM |
| my wife and I have been trying for 6 years to have a baby, and after fertility shots, treatments, etc. our doctor told us to adopt, or to find a surrogate mother...we are a loving couple, and we can provide a loving home for a child, we just want a child to love, rasie and to complete our [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: rainbow17139 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 2:44 PM |
| there is nothing wrong with that at all look at my ad rainbow17139 ↑ |
| Name: Melis | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 6:57 PM |
I think that by you wanting to have a baby for someone that cannot, it makes you a VERY SPECIAL PERSON. You need to follow your heart and make the decision based on your feelings!
Melissa ↑ |
| Name: bluitexan20000 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 7:49 PM |
| thank yal so much but i see some woman bashing us for wantin to do it now i have 2 more friends of mine wantin to joine me if any one is lookin plz email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 8:22 PM |
| I think it is great that you wish we all could have babies. But it comes down to what are YOUR COSTS? How bad do you really want to help people with little or no cost to the adopting family or larger fees to the adopting family, then to me it just turns into making money on the side. So again what are your fees going to be? ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 8:37 PM |
i'm sorry... I just have to say something. I just read the last post, and the impression that I got was that this person is saying that if you are compensated for carrying a child, your making money on the side. Having a baby via a surrogate mother is different than having a baby via adoption.
A surrogate mother is doing this because she wants to have a baby for another family. When an birthmom (I hate to use the word gives) her child to family, it's usually because she can not care for the child.
I too am looking to be a surrogate mother (I'm talking with a wonderful family right now). And the "compensation" I receive is not alot compared to what my body will be going through. For 10 months of my life I will pregnant, I will give birth. Though I'm so excited to do this. I don't think it's fair to say that I would be making alot of money. Because I'm not in this for the money. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 8:46 PM |
Give me the fees because I know for a fact the it can range from 5000-50000 what are you women charging.
Try not to blind side people here. If you are going to look for a family you should post your fees. Then if people can not afford your cost then you will not waste your time or theirs. On other site they list the fees like http://classifieds.surromomsonline.com maybe that is a good place for all you to post your help ADS. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:03 PM |
I know that I do not want a family to go into debt to have a child. I do not come on this site to find a family. But I have had alot of people email me. And I have found a wonderful family I'm speaking with. But they way you phrase "what are you women charging"... I find a little insulting. You make it sound that all we are doing is trying to make money. I wish I could have a child for another family and do it for nothing. But I'm not in that position. Don't get me wrong, I'm not hurting for money. But I just can't do that. I know for a fact that alot of first time surrogate mothers can charge anywhere for $18-$22 thousand just for their compensation.
And then there are extras...for example:
1. travel expenses
2. maternity clothes
3. money for the implantation of the embryo (for a GS), and for insemenation (for a TS)
4. extra for carrying multiples
5. extra for a c-section
6. house cleaning (for later on in pregancy)
7. insurance (only if the surrogate insurance will not cover it)
plus there can be other expenses.
I'm asking for a between $15-$18 thousand. And that will cover EVERYTHING. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:09 PM |
| Thanks that is all I was wanting you and the others to do is list your fees. Its about the same for an adoption for the most part. At least know people have an idea about you for the others we will wait to hear their response. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:11 PM |
| Oh yes I forgot to ask that is not the IVF right? IVF should add another $10K-$15K on top of that for the expense for the family. Or is there another way? ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:16 PM |
from the research I have done.. alot of familes have already tried IVF, and they have frozen embryos to transfer to the surrogate mother (there is a fee to transefer the eggs, but not 10-15 thousand). That would be a gestational surrogate (GS)
You can also have a traditonal surrogate (the surrogate uses her eggs and the IP fathers sperm). That cost about $500 for every try. Though some people try to do this in their homes. AND NO NOT THAT NATURAL WAY...hehe :) ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:31 PM |
Oh these chat boards, what a blast... we may not be able to adopt $20-30,000 is a bit pricey, the cost of surrogacey is just as much if not more, we tried invitro back in 2000 for $15,000. Obviously it did not work because here I am. Money, Money, Money, seems to make the world go round more than love.
We did have a young lady offer to bear a child for us for free, via a turkey baster lolol but that has dried up as [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 9:39 PM |
| PattyJB...I wish you all the best in your journey to become a family...either it be with adoption or surrogacy. i am becoming a surrogate mother because I have been blessed with my little boy. And it would be an HONOR for me to help someone else experince the joy and love that I feel. Though I'm not doing this for this money... There is a business aspect to the whole process. Everything has to be done legally, and there needs to be a contract. ↑ |
| Name: bluitexan20000 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 10:08 PM |
| i personally have never done it before i am will in to try at least 1 time and i dont know about all of the money issues it would depend on the family i work with i cant make them go in dept for her child yal seem to think its all about money its not yal women who cant have children we are another option to havin a child of yr own ↑ |
| Name: clarissa | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 6:43 PM |
| nothing, i wish I could find a surrogate ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 8:58 PM |
| I don't see a thing wrong with it, but I do know it is not legal in every state. Wish it was in mine, i might pursue finding a surrogate. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 12:40 AM |
| the only reason I'm putting this one at the top is because of what Luckey copied and pasted...she doesn't included everything that was said. If you read down, you will see where i said I was not in this for the money. Thanks! ↑ |
| Name: mommyboo | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 12:55 AM |
| Women who do this for families are very strong hearted and will be rewarded in life some way ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 1:04 AM |
| Hi I can speak for momof1 who has introduced me into the surrogacy world (thank you momof1) My husband and I have adopted a wonderful little boy and we are ready for another baby to complete our family. Because of momof1 we have now started checking into surrogacy. Paying a surrogate compensation for carrying "my baby" is an awesome thing! I can't carry my own child anymore because of a hystorectomy, but surrogacy can be another way to increase my family size. It is not all about the money, it takes a very special person to do this for another family. I am glad there are people out there who can and will do this for people like me who can't have kids anymore. My hubby does not have any biological children of his own and now that we have started talking about it, he wants one. Out west it is very expensive so it may not work out, but if it wasn't for the kindness of someone already involved with this, I would never have checked into it. I am very grateful for her honesty. Either way we want to enlarge our family. We just haven't quite decided yet :) ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 1:06 AM |
| thank you mommyinwaiting for your kind words! :) ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 1:13 AM |
| You are welcome momof1, you have opened the door for us to check into a new option we never seriously considered. I have done a tiny bit of research and I see fees are all over the place. That there is also different approaches that might make it affordable. We are still looking into it. We have shared a bit of this with family and they are tickled by the thought of my husband having a biological child. ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 3:42 AM |
We also have been looking into surrogacy. We are also looking into IVF, but mostly with a surrogate. I have found the posts by many to be very helpful - especially with momof1 and mommyinwaiting. Thanks. Do you momof1 use a company to go through or are you private? Does anyone know an easy way to find our if surrogacy is legal in your state?I would love to find a surrogate. Stil looking for one. I do think that they are very giving. We are still looking in to adoption of children. We have two wonderful girls, yet after several miscarrages and 1 stillborn just not sure that I have it in me to try physically again. We have a 6 yr old and an almost 2 yr old and would like to adopt 2 boys one inbetween the girls and a baby or have a baby and still adopt a little boy between the girls. It is so hard. We have a wonderful life, full and complete, but we have room for more kids to love. It would be nice to have that, yet not so much cost to do. We would rather give it to the kids. Standard costs are costs, but when it is very expensive we could have paid for all four years of college, too!
Let me know if anyone is interested in being a surrogate, would love to talk about the possibilities,
Gracie ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 3:49 AM |
| gracie... what is your email. I would be more than happy to talk with you about surrogacy. I have done alot of research, and I can share the info that I have learned. ↑ |
| Name: nyjocool | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 3:54 AM |
| I think surrogacy is a wonderful option for some couples. I also find embryo adoption very interesting! Some couples will donate embryos free of charge too, but you have to be selected and follow all the steps as if you were adopting a newborn. It's really catching on. Something else to think about Gracie! ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Nov 6th, 2006 4:04 AM |
| Thanks, I have thought about embryo adoption. In fact have a friend that has an embryo that she wants to transfer to a facility that allows embryo adoption for it is at a facility that does not allow it. She can not and does not want to have more kids, but wants to not let this child sit there and wishes for someone to love it. I am not sure that I am ready for embryo adoption, but I am for it. They say that there are about 300,000 embryos out there just setting. That is terrible. ([email protected]) ↑ |
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