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Name: XandirsMummy

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My unborn son will most likely never know his biological father (fathers choice not mine or my sons) & because of this I am concerned that when I do have him he will bond with my partner then I'll have to explain to him 1 day that his "Daddy" isn't his dad at all. I've already thought about how to word it when I do tell him but it doesn't stop me from worrying about if he's going to hold it against me for not telling him from the start. I've thought the conversation would go a little something like this "You're daddy is your daddy & he loves you very much, nothing can or will change that but you need to know there's another man that helped mummy make you. You have every rite to know who that man is & I'll do what I can to help you". I'm just so scared the response I get back will be something like "I hate you mum, you lied to me. Why didn't you tell me about my father?" ↓

Name: Jay | Date: May 13th, 2011 6:17 PM

I wouldn't talk to him about this until he is 10 or even older. Just a little advise. Due to it will be hard to understand when he is younger. Maybe don't tell him ever. ↑

Name: dad | Date: May 16th, 2011 2:15 PM

Best not to tell children what may be more useful and not. A sperm donor does not make a dad. Its is the parent that cares and provides that is the parent. Dont make things worse for the boy or yourself. Unless you want to be the Jeremy Kyle show. ↑

Name: XandirsMummy | Date: May 22nd, 2011 5:21 AM

Thanks for your great advice. But I can't not tell him, he has a half brother that he'll grow up knowing. Could be kind of strange for both of them if I don't tell Xandir about his father ↑