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My mother in law and her friend caught me in bed with another man.She chased the guy out and the price of her silence is my hair.I have to go to a gents hairdress shop and ask him to cut my hair as short as he wants and i have to tell him why im getting a punishment haircut she wants me to be publicly humiliated.Im 22 and i love my husband very much this was a one off mistake which i deeply regret.I have to go shortly what can i say to make my mother in law change her mind or do i own up to my husband??
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Tell your husband if he loves you he may forgive you if you get all your hair cut of how will you explain that to him anyway.
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Better to lose your hair than your man Jenny get down the barbers maybe a bit of humility will do you good. I cant think how you are going to explain your lack of hair but maybe you can think of somthing as you are sitting in the chair sorry.
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I think your mother in law is giving you another chance she is not going to tell on you and your hair will grow back in time tell us how you got on
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Tell your husband Jenny god only knows what your mother in law will make you do next.Think about it jenny you could be the laughing stock of your area and then your mother in law could still tell all.Dont forget her friend she also knows she may want to punish you in some stupid manner.
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I say fess up to hubby, besides... how do you know that after you get all your hair cut off MIL wont tell him any way?
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Thanks Lindalu but I went to the Gents and told him I needed a punishment haircut for getting caught he told all the other customers and they all agreed to let me go before them.They thought it would be a great laugh at my expenss.When I got in the chair he turned it round to face them so they could get a better view.I sat down with hair past my shoulders he started by cutting right round my head above my ears.The men were all laughing and making comments like cut it higher so he did!! Then out came the clippers and he run them up the back and sides then he askd all the men if he should finnish me of with a razor he got a big yes for that so on went the cream and he went round my head with a razor.Some of the men were crying with laughing to much.Then he turned me round in the chair to face the mirror O MY GOD I had no hair two inches above my ears all the way round my head it was all bald one of the men said it was a mushroom cut I ran out with them all laughing and shouting at me.All the way home I could see people stareing and giggling my mother in law and her friend think its perfect my husband has not seen it yet what o what can i tell him?
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You stupid fool your husband is going to know your haircut is not the latest style he will demand to know why you have had your hair cut in such a way what possible story can you tell him.If he discovers the truth that public humiliation you went through will be for nothing you had better think fast girl.My only thought is get your MIL to help out it is her doing.But i do agree with Lindalu its one hell of a punishment I only hope its the only one you get.
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Ha Ha Ha I think its a great punishment boy I would have given a £100 to watch that haircut a mushroom I love it Ha Ha Ha your MIL is a hero.
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You have made a bad choice Jenny you are will have to do any other thing your MIL or her friend want you to do.\i just cant understand why did you not think I believe you now face more humiliation I do feel for you.
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Thanks Ann you may be right I asked my mother in law for help explaining my haircut to my husband she agreed as long as I agreed to do what ever she asked I agreed to her deal what choice did I have.She told my husband that she had been helping me with a home perm and it all went wrong and that she had cut off all my damaged hair he believed her but that leaves me in her power now and I think that I may have made a bad choice.I had no idea one stupid mistake was going to lead me down this path I cant think of a way out help!! I know its my fault but I have been punished the haircut is unreal it will take me a year to grow it back. How can I convince her that I dont need any more humiliation I have leaned my lesson.
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Its not to late Jenny you could still own up if you dont your MIL will just go on punishing you in any humiliating way she or her friend want to.Her only hold over you is the fact she caught you in bed with a man if it TRULY was a one off tell your husband the truth he may fogive you.You must also realise that if you are publicly humiliated again your husband could well find out.How will you exlain that? You have been punished I think you have learned your lesson tell all or be prepared to be made the joke of your area.
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Hello mushroom head Ha Ha Ha your MIL has got you now I was trying to think of some realy humiliating things she could do to you. What about a good old spanking in front of all her friends better on the bare a mushroom head with a red bum what a picture Ha Ha Ha .The MIL from hell what a stupid fool you are Ha Ha Ha
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Thanks Ann I know you are right im in for a bad xmas my mother in law has now told my husband I cant wear a wig because the back and sides of my shaved head must be in the air at all times and shaved twice a week at this rate my hair will never grow back.My mother in law has now told me we are going shopping for some new outfits for me and a new range of underwear god knows what that will mean. My husband thinks its great we are now getting on so well. Its just not fair I look a fool with this haircut and now I have to go around the town so she can buy me some sexless outfits I bet.
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I did tell the truth it was a one off but I have been a terrible flirt around the area I wont be from now on not with this mushroom cut some will say the punishment is long overdue god I wish I could turn the clock back.Thanks Ann.
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Jenny did you cut your hair because MIL said to, or was it because you felt guilt? If it is guilt the hair cut will not relieve it, the only thing you can do to relieve the guilt is to tell DH.
Sweetie we are all human thus making us all prone to mistakes. Don't torture yourself any longer! tell DH about it. Personally I think MIL was wrong for asking you to do that. Cutting your hair will not change what you did, it only gave MIL sick laugh at yours and DH expense. = |
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Hi Jenny Lindalu is right if you dont own up your MIL will punish you more and more. I know he may not believe you when you say it was a one off because you are a terrible flirt. Your MIL has seen you make him look a fool behind his back and will only publicly humiliate you its a wonder that she did not make you get the haircut at the Gents in the nude.I know its a difficult choice I'm sorry but I will be here if you want to talk.
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Hello Ann you were right about the shopping trip I am now wearing a shapless sack type dress and the biggest knickers my mother in law could find in my size they are past my waist.I have had to buy a load of them and plain old womens bras if any one see''s me in them I will just die I wont ever live it down she must have a plan to show me of.I will have to tell my husband he knows I only wear thongs I cant think of a story about these big pants.The haircut is bad bad but to be seen in this underwear is just to much.I will own up thanks for your comments and thanks to you Lindalu I will let you know how it went.I think that is was some guilt but I thought my Mother in law would not let me go through with it fool I was.
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I was havin a bad day till I read your story what a great punishment for a mingin tart a tart like you took my husband I hope your MIL keeps humiliating you I like that idea of a naked haircut you MIL is the best .
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Hello Ann and Lindalu I took your advice and now I'm in big trouble.I told him about getting caught the haircut and the granny pants.She was there and they both went mad real mad shouting and stuff.He thought the haircut was "a dam good idea" I had to take of my dress and show him the undies he just laughed I cried.She said that her plan was to give me a "trim" in front of all the neighbours wifes whos husbands I had flirted flashed my knickers seen topless sunbathing everthing came out.I was to get my "trim" in just my granny pants MY GOD I SAID NO WAY.He said sounds like a good idea I just cant believe he said that.He said he was sick of my childish behaviour and constant teasing and flirting.So thats my choice be totaly humiliated by his mother in front of everyone she can do what she likes as well as the "trim"I just dread to think what can happen.I must wear this bloody underwear and my hair is to remain very short I have to get it cut at the gents from now on.If I agree to this he will draw a line under it and we start again.I followed your advice now I'm really in for it there must be something I can do to avoid some of this WHY O WHY ME I was only haveing a bit of fun.I do need some good advice and ideas PLEASE PLEASE HELP
Im so sorry why does she hate me so why does she want to humiliate me why will he let her do it.Do I really deserve this sort of punishment I'm not really that bad = |
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O I'm so sorry darling I never thought it would be like that for you.I'm quite shocked by your husband he must be really angry with you to allow your MIL to carry on with your humiliation.You need to stop the "trim" in front of the wifes that could be very bad if the punishment ends up of a childish nature mega humiliating to some one your age.If they insist in a form of public humiliation for you try to think of one with people that dont know you in another town.Try to appeal to your husband without your MIL there he is a man.Do a deal with your MIL go round all the wifes and appoligise to them with her thats all I can think of now I'm so sorry I do wish you all the best LOL Ann
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It sounds just right thats what you need a very public humiliation then you can feel like your husband must have felt for all those years you have been messing about flashing and flirting tell your MIL to keep up the good work. I hope you cry and cry
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Insted of a punishment haircut why does't your mother in law spank you on your bare bottom in public that would be a better punishment, , I know when mom spanks me I get humiliated
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Thanks Ann I did offer to apoligise to all the wifes but that is not what she wants she wants me to be humiliated in front of people like the haircut.I had a private word with my husband but he wont budge his mother is to decide what my punishment will be.I agree I cant let her have her way in front of all those people. I know the idea in another town is good but what can I offer I dont want to even contemplate anything like that stupid bitch Janet has suggested so I need to be carefull what I say my MIL would think that idea was great but NO WAY.It needs to be something she will really go for,a good showing up is what she needs thats what she said. Why are all these people against me what have I done to them I just dont understand please help LOL Jen
PS She is 59 and my husband is her only child I think that has something to do with this hatred or am I just a fool I behave like one = |
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Boy o Boy Your MIL is going to sort you out back in the barbers chair I think why not naked that must be the most humiliating haircut in the world Ha Ha Ha Your friends Ann and Lindalu have no advice have they you are a silly childish fool and deserve all you get.You husband has got the right idea let mummy sort it out he should spank you in the front garden let the wife''s watch that.
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Hi jennny I thought your MIL was old and you married her only son that explains a lot she is very protective you hurt him now she will hurt you.I''m afraid she is of an age that do believe in some more direct punishment I know you said no way but she would go for it.The idea of another haircut at a gents I dare not say it but some ideas have been suggested I know its outlandish but you will have to consider everthing the final choice is yours which is the worst they are both mega humiliating.
You could always walk away and start new. You are very young then no worries about any humiliation.Those people like Janet are only laughing at you I dont think they really hate you like MIL does.I cant really help you its such a mess it depends how much you want to stay with him in the end LOL = |
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This is stupid Jenny you have already gone and had most of your hair cut of for this vindictive bitch. Now you are thinking about a nude haircut in front of a load of dirty old men or allowing her to smack you like a child.Get a life girl tell them both NO you have had your punisment which was far to harsh all of you need to move on hopefully together.If you let this woman humiliate you anymore all your self confidence will be gone DONT DO IT SAY NO!!!
Remember she is a woman like you ask her what would she feel if her hair had been cut off. = |
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When I read this I thought it was a joke! If it is....shame on me for wasting my time!!
Aside from all that...I would tell my MIL to kiss my a$$! And...as far as dh letting his mommy decide your punishment...no wonder you made the choice you did. I'm sorry.......I have to be brutally honest here....I think some serious counseling is needed for all period! = |
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Its no joke Lory.I no its really really stupid I just felt so guilty I just went along with it now I look like a freak.I cant face any more humiliation but I think that I deserve it deep down inside I know its stupid but I feel I need to prove to him I am sorry. Maybe his mothers punishment will do that thanks jen
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For gods sake Jenny you do not need to prove your love or anything like that by letting that vindictive bitch of a MIL punish you in public or for that matter in private.You need to sit with your husband and talk this through does he really want you his wife smacked or stripped in public I think not.Tell him your worries about his mothers plans he will I think put a stop to them.
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Hi Joan I have talked to him he said that so long as the punishment is carried out in front of people who dont know us then that is ok and it will prove i'm sorry and love him.So its up to her now I dont know what she has planned but it involves her friend.I dont feel to bad once its done we can restart fresh I hope.
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Nope...don't do it!!! Humiliating yourself in front of anyone..anywhere is not going to help any situation....if your dh is truly into forgiving...and, loving...he will not make you humiliate yourself anywhere...anytime!! If that is what he or she expects....it's time you thought of moving along...IMHO!! That's not what someone who says/claims they are willing to forgive, forget & love....is all about!! If this is the case....I'm sorry again...I think you need to think about moving along.....IMHO!! Best Wishes!!
p.s. And...for Christ's sake...MIL needs to stay the he!! out of it...it's not about you, her and him...it's about you & him!!!! = |
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Thanks Lory I know what you say is right but I have that feeling inside that I need to learn my lesson I know its mad.I have blurted out the idea about the haircut to her and I think she will go along with it but she will set the rules.I have found a last min hol on the net and I have booked this for my husband and me maybe we can sort it out on our own.If not then I will have go ahead and face the humiliation it cant be all that bad I have been seen topless before its just a bit more.Thank you for your advice we will sort it out without her.She is very sure that I will leave but I'm not going to give in I do want us to be together dont you think its worth the embarrasment?? Is it to high a price to pay ??
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Dont even think about agreeing to any idea with that bitch you are bound to get more than a haircut remember even if it does happen in another town stories like that travel fast.Just have a good time with your husband and talk it through.Try to impress on him that his mother is out to really punish you in public get him to put a stop to it.Best of luck let me know how you get on.
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Please do what Joan and Lory are saying they are right dont let your self be humiliated any more you would be very silly of you to think that a haircut is all your MIL has planned.Think if you are naked you will have to do anything she says she could leave you like that!!! What other humiliating things she could do to you in front of all those men its madness.You have to remember that news like that WILL travel your friends or people at work could find out think of that.Give it a lot of thought before you act.Stop feeeling guilty you have had a punishment haircut dont have a worse one SAY NO.
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We had a great break I let him have all his daft wish's even down to a hollywood we really enjoyed ourselfs he agreed that no more punishments and all the past was forgiven. When we got home we told his mother she walked out.I thought wells thats that but she was back later on with this other woman who told my husband I had tried to have sex with her husband at the office xmas party A LIE.I argued that it was all made up but in the heat of it all I admitted I had kissed him.That was it my husband said you have not learned your lesson and its back to his mother to sort me out.I'm to get another haircut I expected I would I'm just so sad that it all looked sorted out and now she is back in charge.I feel as though I have let you all down as well as my self god I'm such a fool sorry.
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O dear Jenny you are such a fool godness only knows were it will all end for you.My best advice is to walk away if you stay then you will face more public humiliation from your MIL your husband seems hell bent on letting her have her way.All you will end us as is a public laughing stock dont do anything with her please, I know you feel guilty but when she is finished humiliating you all you will feel is far worse and all those people will have watched get out just walk away do it for yourself.
Dont give in Dont let her do it to you = |
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All I can say is....you are too young to be going through all of this! Tho...that's sometimes how we learn from our choices & mistakes. It seems there are too many involved in your marriage...that won't work..as you already know!
I know you feel guilty for your choice....but, the only way to move on from that is...to start feeling good about yourself....forgive yourself! It seems to me you've already paid the price for your choice...no more humiliation is needed IMHO!! I would not keep myself in this situation with all of these people....you need to surround yourself with people who are giving you the respect & kindness you deserve.....if your dh is not doing that...no matter how much you love him....move on! It will be hard...but, not as hard as the roller coaster they seem to have you on! Try not to look at it as she has won....b/c you are the one who is winning from escaping her torment!! And...hello...gotta be honest here! Keep your hands & lips to yourself...kissing someone is cheating in my book!! What is going on?? There seems to be "other" issues going on here! = |
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Tell ur husband the truth. That is horrible. And asking his mother to keep it a secret.
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If u love ur husband why do u keep doing these things?
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O god I've made such a bad bad mistake she said there and then make a choice "trim" in front of the wifes or out of town naked haircut what a choice I picked out of town.I thought that it woud not be as humiliating boy did I make a bad bad choice the amount of spectators its bound to come out I will never live it down THE HAIRCUT WAS ONLY PART OF IT did they laugh and laugh god all those men god was I stupid stupid stupid.I cant even write it down stupid stupid boy what a fool why o why did I not walk away like you all said.I need to sit and think sorry.
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Well thanks Lory for that I have paid a very high price for that kiss when I look in the mirror boy o boy what a price for what you call cheating.
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I had to be honest with you & yes...you did pay a ridiculous high price. Sorry! Something that most of us would not have done....if you cannot sit down and have a talk or discussion with your dh and attempt to work through things....how can you expect to sit down with him when there are issues in the future? Marriage isn't easy...there are always gonna be ups & downs. What price will you have to pay for him then? Just something to think about!
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Well Jenny we did tell you not to let that bitch have her way.What happened? I understand that you got more than a haircut what else did she do? It might help to talk about it we are here to help if we can.Have you talked to your husband about what happened? is he understanding does he now think you have been punished beyond your crime? It sounds like you have I do hope it all works out now. Let us know if you are ok I am sorry but we all did warn you.
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What happened Jenny are you ok I know its sounds like you were really humiliated I just cant believe you went and let her get you a naked haircut and more by the sound of it.It helps to talk we are all here for you come on love it will be ok once you get started.Dont let the bitch win talk it through.
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I cant talk about it yet I feel so humiliated and so ashamed I need to come to terms with it all first.But thanks for all your thoughts I will need some time I still cry a lot sorry.
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Thats ok Jenny you take your time we are all feeling for you it sounds like you had a real bad time.When you are ready let it all out it will make it better LOL Ann
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Jenny, first ....you should not have to humiliate yourself to please your MIL. Second...if your hubby really cared for you he would not expect you to do what his mum asks. I'm sorry, I could be wrong, but I think your hubby and his mother are both sickos to even suggest such a thing. As for you ...you should tell them.... NO!!! Don't allow them to control you in such a demeaning manner. You may be young, but you can still tell them no, refuse! You have already paid for your wrongs.
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Jenny, don't take this the wrong way, but what the HECK is wrong with you. Would you allow your daughter to be treated this way for a mistake. HECK NO, but you are willing to take this. Yeah your dumb but made a mistake. You also made a mistake by doing what youe MIL told you to do . Grow some balls women WAIT never mind. You are better than that no matter what your past is. If you husaband loves you, make him treat you like he loves you and you respond to that love. If he continues to treat you like this, tell him I said you should leave. Ask that fool, has he ever made a mistake and if so did he have to show that mistake to everyone. Remember, everyone has something in thier closet. Also ask youself, why you cheated. Was it for pleasure or mental. Either way you have a long road to go with your husband. You did cheat and the trust was abandon. You have to respectfully rebuild it. Also the love and communication will need some work. I think people get into marriages with this thought everthing will be perfect. You have two non perfect people coming together to form a perfect union. That seems unlikely. It requires alot of work . Also if the affair was because of sex, remember men have to be train about the female body. Practice and communication make a great lover.
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Thanks for all your thoughts you may as well know how bad it all went and why I am so ashamed and humiliated.My M IL and her friend came for me I had to dress in big flowered pants a dress and a waist high jacket we went on a bus to the next town.My MIL found a barbers shop down a side street we went in there was 7 old men waiting and one in the chair.But the barber was a big woman with a crewcut I said NO WAY not here not in front of this lot.MIL pushed me in and started to tell them all that I needed to be punished and she told all these lies and made me out to be real bad.They all agreed I should get what I deserved.The woman said strip slut so I just did I tried to cover myself but she said stand in front of everone with your hands on your head.I made a big big mistake and said f... off you fat old cow she was on me like a flash she just picked me up pulled out a chair and put me over her knee.Boy o boy did they all laugh and cheer when she had finished "teaching me a lesson" I did stand in front of them with my hands on my head crying.Then I had to sit on a stool legs apart hands behind my back and she clipped off all my hair and shaved my head with a razor the men just loved that my MIL was clapping and laughing all the time.Then my MIL said put your pants and jacket on NO DRESS and she said get out I said NO WAY so the fat cow said I think you need "another lesson" I ran out the door .I had to walk to the bus stop like that all the way home people wanted to know if I had lost a bet or my skirt people just laughed and laughed.I have not left the house since I am terriffied that some one spots me How can I ever live this down.
My husband has gone mad about my shaved head and banned the MIL from coming round so thats real good news but he does not know it was a naked haircut or what that woman did to my in front of everyone I just dare not tell him god I'm so scared.Why did I ever think that my MIL would not humiliate me so so badly and I think you ARE right Lindalu I had alredy paid for my wrongs WHAT HAVE GONE AND DONE we will have to move.I'm so so sorry my life is falling apart I feel so ashamed. = |
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You silly silly girl we all told you not to go with that bich now she has humliiated you big time.You must tell your husband everything NOW.do not delay if he finds out from somone other than you it will be all over a story like that will soon be the talking piont in all the bars and pubs TELL HIM GIRL NOW.I just cant grasp why you were so stupid as to strip in front of all those men no wonder they all laughed its the best show they will see this year at your expenss. My god spanked at your age in front of all those men and you MIL I bet she laughed the loudest you silly girl STOP punishing yourself.
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I thought you already told your dh?? You claimed in a prior response you did....did you???
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Own up to your husband or you will regret it for the rest of your life. It is better to be honest. If he truly loves you, he will understand. But only after some time. You have to give it time. He will be mad and confused. Do not crowd him. Tell him, apologize and then leave him be. If he loves you, he will come around. If you don't tell him, your mother in law will own you. Moreover, it will haunt you.
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Good God Lory I would never never have told him I was going to get a haircut in the nude I only agreed to that with his mother so she would not humiliate me in front of all the wifes.That has now proved to be a big big mistake.My god how that fat cow humiliated me I just begged and begged her to stop I dont think I will ever live it down Thanks for all your help you are real kind I should have listerned to you sorry
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Well Jenny your MIL has really made you look a fool now a very public punishment your MIL can really say you have been given a lessonyou will always remember and so will all those men. I am so sorry I just cant understand how you fell for it.We all told you again and again to say NO but you new best and now you will have to live with it.I expect some photos were taken on mobiles I expect they will appear on the net in time yes I have to agree with you I dont think you will live this down.That MIL is real sick what a price to pay for what you said was a bit if fun.I dont know what to say im so sad for you. You are to young to have all this happening to you I'm so sad and sorry for you.
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Sorry Jenny...I for some reason or another thought you already told him. I"m with with Ann...I feel sad for you...sorry..(((HUGS))) But...your going to have to fess up to dh....hopefully he'll be understanding..and, y'all can work through it...over time. That is the only obvious answer I can see for you to "move on" and get past this. You have already paid a price that you thought you deserved...you can overcome this & move on...forgive yourself...even if you think no one else will. Be strong!! I pray you find peace & all of the answers you need to move forward. Best Wishes!!
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I normally dont agree with spanking but in your case you deserved it you are without a question the most foolish girl I have ever read about.What ever did you think you were doing stripping off and allowing your MIL to have your head shaved are you MAD!!! then walking home in just your knickers MAD!!!You say you deserved to be punished well I do hope you are now satisfied I bet your MIL and all those men are. If you do tell your husband I hope he is very very understanding but you must face the facts that as well as making yourself look a fool he also looks a fool.
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Your mother in law won't keep her trap shut for long. Something will happen in the future, and she will open her fat mouth. Tell DH what happened, and take the risk. You shouldn't be sleeping around anyway. You made this choice, so live with the consequences. MIL will spill the beans eventually, short hair, or long.
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Yeah, you are pretty stupid. Now you're screwed FOREVER. You have to be INCREDIBLY IDIOTIC. What the hell. You need to 'fess up, let the chips fall where they may, and quit giving your MIL that much power. Have you no self esteem? It sure sounds like you don't. Your hubby can't be that special that you'd allow someone to do that to you to keep him. Nobody is worth all that. Especially since the MIL will probably make you tell him anyway, or tell him yourself. She's just gonna humiliate you before he finds out, and the MIL knows this, and you do to. FOOLISH WOMAN, YOU.
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Yess you are right cjsims and I agree with you Debbie but I thought I was right to agree to MIL demands I now know that I was a stupid fool. I have told my husband everything boy was he mad he says he forgives me but he is a bit cool towards me so I dont know how it will all end.The worst is that people round were I live have found out I expect MIL told them and they make comments when i pass by like can you sit down ok and things like that I hope it wont last to long god what a fool I was.
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Tell your husband. Only way to beat blackmail. Don't cut your hair!
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Oh so you actually got your hair cut. Now not only do you have no hair, but your MIL has a hold on you forever. Silly silly girl
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You are wrong Briseis MIL no longer can tell me what to do but my husband has decided that my hair will remain boy short I will get it cut at the Gents from now on
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I cant understand why you are still letting your MIL now your husband dictate how you look or what you wear.Dont you think that you have been humiliated and punished for what you did its time to STOP.You are a stupid young girl you have been punished in the most public manner time to draw a line I think .I understand that people will make fun of you but lets face you deserve it.
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Your husband has decided how you'll wear your hair. Good lord girl! If you want it boy short then that's fine. But if you want to grow it long, you grow it long. My hair is real long, and my man would like it shorter but I say Hell no. It's my hair. I'll wear it how I please. Get a grip girl. It's your hair!
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You know what I'd have done. If my MIL caught me in bed with another man, and said I needed to shave my head or she'd tell my husband? I'd just smile at her, call her a bluff, and tell her to get the Hell out of my house. Then I'd organise it with a friend to pretend that I was out with her all afternoon. So then, when she told my man, I'd deny it and get my friend to back me up. That way, the MIL would look a lying fool and learn not to mess with you again.
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Yea thats great to say that now Briseis I have a shaved head I just thought if I did what she said I would get away with it but it just went bad to worse for me.I just cant understand what a real nasty bitch you are Debbie I hope someone catchs you one day and you get humiliated i was only having a bit of fun now the whole area laughs when I go by.
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Catches me? I'd never cheat on my man! I'm not a slut ...
And actually I was only trying to offer advice should it happen to you again. So less of that backchat from you. = |
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I also have the MIL from Hell, and I'm sick and tired of these interferring MILs who think they can do what they like and say what they like. It pisses me off, and it pisses me off even further when women let them get away with it like you did! I know you can't change the past, but if your MIL tried to blackmail you again, I was offering advice on what to do. No need to be so f'n nasty.
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Backchat thats just great you talk like my MIL are you all nasty people out there is there no one that understands?
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Backchat is just a word! It's patronising yes but when you tell people you hope they'll be humilated and that they're nasty bitches just for offering you advice, what do you expect?
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Noone is going to understand why you did what you did Jenny. Your MIL didn't humilate you. You humilated yourself by doing what she told you, even though what she was telling you to do was both unreasonable and damn cruel! I hope and pray you'll never let anyone walk all over you like this again.
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Who the hell do you think you are Jenny dont forget you are the one thats had their backside tanned and head shaved you must be REAL smart to let that happen I might be a bitch but im the bitch with all my HAIR not a bald silly silly little girl like YOU.
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Ohhhh hold on hold on. I thought you were calling ME a nasty bitch, but you were in fact referring to Debbie ... Sorry for the mixup! BUT nothing of what I have said to you was 'nasty'.
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Jenny, just curious, why did you post this in 'alternative family'?
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Sorry its about my MIL thought it was the best place
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Ah OK. Is your MIL completely out of the picture now? Or does your man still see her? My MIL is completely out of the picture ... she's a real bitch.
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She has gone but he still makes me wear the big knickers and I have to get my hair cut real short a short back and sides he calls it YUK.But thats the price I have to pay my own fault.
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Thats real GOOD!!!!!!!
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No it isn't Jenny. You made a mistake. The way I see it is this. If a person cheats, their partner has 2 choices.
1. To leave their partner as they would be unable to forgive them or trust them again. 2. To forgive their partner and trust them again, but never to use their mistake against them or punish them for it. Your husband is being a hypocrite. Hes staying with you, but he's still punishing you, holding a grudge, unforgiving. He needs to make his mind up, and there is only one way to do it. Tell him you will be growing your hair long and wearing whatever items of clothing you choose, but that you will never cheat on him again. If he doesn't agree with this, then leave him! I know that's tough, but what kind of man puts the love of their life through this disgrace? Lay the cards down now or you will regret it. = |
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No it isn't Debbie. It's shocking that she is being treated in this horrible way, and even more shocking that she thinks she deserves it. Noone deserves to be treated like this.
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Get real bris this stupid girl let her MIL take her to a gents barbers she stripped naked then swore at the female barber who put her over her knee and gave her a well deserved spanking then she shaved her head and you think I should not call her you are living in another world she is a silly stupid girl who deserves what she got!!
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Ohhhh Debbie, the hostility in you is rank! Settle down girl. I'm not saying what Jenny did was in any way NORMAL. I'd never let anyone treat me in such a foul way. And like I said to Jenny, she caused her own humiliation by allowing her MIL to do it to her. But that's done now.
I'm talking about the way her husband is currently treating her, and telling her she shouldn't put up with this treatment any longer. Whether she chooses to listen to me or not is up to her, but at least I am trying to help by offering advice, not stooping to her MIL's level by continuing to abuse her, like you are. = |
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And yes I agree that Jenny has been at best 'silly' and I hope she learns from her mistakes.
But if you think continuing to verbally abuse her is helping her, then it is YOU who is living on another planet. = |
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Actually, now I think of it, this all sounds a bit far fetched to me ... a barber put this girl over her knee and spanked her, allowed the other customers to laugh at her, and make her strip ... That would be enough to have the barbers shop closed down and for the barber who did this to be up in court for assault.
Has anyone thought about how far fetched this sounds??? = |
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I mean if my MIL took me to a barber shop for a 'punishment' haircut and did what she claims her MIL did, the barber would first off refuse to cut my hair as barbers are only licenced to cut men's hair, and second off ask my MIL to leave as her behaviour would be disturbing the other customers who would be uncomfortable at the sight of this abuse ... That would be a normal situation ...
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I know it all sounds unreal Briseis but thats what happened no one in the barbers said stop the fat cow of a woman humiliated me in front of all those men there was no need to spank me like a child I will never live it down.The headshave was to be my punishment not the public spanking im sure my MIL arranged it all but it was real it did hurt and no one stopped her.Thank you for trying to talk to me and I do realy mean that I do feel so alone sometimes thanks.
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She wanted to be punished bris she just got more than she expected now her MIL has spread the word about and she is a laughing stock.Its true she will never live it down I agree its a totaly over the top punishent her MIL must be from hell.It is her own fault she played around and got chaught but I think the punishment haircut was all that was needed.Its a hard life for some.
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Well if she wanted to be punished, then she got what she wanted and shouldn't complain.
But if she didn't want to be punished, then she should never have let her disgraceful MIL put her through Hell. Either way, I can't condone the treatment involved. If it were me, I'd be right on the phone to the police charging the barber with assault, and telling my hubby the way it's gonna be. Either way, I'm done here. = |
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I saay own up and take the consequences. No one is innocent, we are all deceivers and liars. Your husband would probably do the same, if he could get away with it. I would not allow my mother-in-law tell me what to do nor would I give her that much power as you would, if you go ahead with her request. I think she is very silly and stupid. She should stay out of it. If she is doing this to you, then she is just as guilty as she is deceiving her own son by keeping the secret and manipulating you for her own selfish power needs. Go to him and you know what to say....face it, you screwed up, now pay for it and don't do it again, and perhaps seek counselling. You give too much of yourself. good luck
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wat to do if aboy kiss u but he has a girlfrend and he knows dat u luv him ?
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JENNY, GET A GRIP! WE ARE IN THE MILLENIUM! WHAT NEXT? ARE YOU GOING TO WEAR A RED A ON YOUR SHIRT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? GIMME A BREAK. AND WHERE THE HELL DO YOU GO TO GET A NAKED HAIRCUT AND SPANKING..THIS SOUNDS SO MADE UP IT ISN'T EVEN FUNNY. AND IF IT IS REAL, GIRL, YOU NEED A NEW LIFE!
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i like this boy. he is in my school.what do i do?
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Mom in law will hold it agains you. Use it as leverage forever. But you rick loosing your man. Good Luck ivorysoul
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FUCKING HELL!! i call bullshit
Exuse me...but your barber pulled you over their knee and spanked you? Surely a barber wouldn't do that...it's assualt. If i was a customer in that salon i'd put a stop to it...I wouldnt sit there and laugh. = |
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I think u need to tell him what u did 'cuz u r going to end up feeling really bad and it will bother u with everything u do. And it seems to me that his mother is more interested in hurting u and helping her own son!! And if it were me I would still be worried that she will tell him anyway if I got my head shaved or whatever! Ur hubby is gunna wanna know why u got ur hair cut so short or whatever anyway. U should tell him!
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My bad. I didn't know ppl posted again and stuff. I think u should leave ur hubby 'cuz if he really loveed u he wouldn't have made u do all that crap! That's horrible (if it is even true!) I'd beat the heck outta both of them and called the cops on the barber shop lady! U should leave him. He is mean.
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