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Name: aburnedmemory

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my parents are separated...my dad has a new family...so my dad hasn't seen me for seven months, i tryed calling no answer, he even forget my birthday!

i know that before that i had always old him that i was busy with school and activities so i had no time now that i have made time it seem theres no time for me - he has his new family, and his 2nd new daughter. i just think that he forget about me ,should i forget about him? i rember that i called him once about 5 weeks ago and at the end of the conversation that we had for like 10 min he said i love you but it seams like he dose'nt. ↓

Name: dadto4 | Date: Mar 9th, 2007 6:49 AM

I am sure he loves you. Try writting him a letter and say how you feel. ↑

Name: Lizzi | Date: Mar 9th, 2007 1:46 PM

You only get one father in this life so if at all possible please try to communicate with him again. Start staying at his house every other weekend. Get to know him again and your step/half siblings and your stepmom. You have to MAKE things happen. Plan a get together at their house and have a cookout or bake a cake for after dinner or something. If you're around your dad can't ignore you but you have to MAKE things happen. Call your dad and say "Hey dad I really wanna come spend the weekend at your house"! I bet he would be delighted you WANT to!!!!! Good luck!!! Don't EVER give up!!! ↑

Name: pippy | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 5:06 PM

try contacting him again and see if you can go around and chat tell him you miss him and love him very much tell him you would like to meet his new family as they are part of your life as well as he is your dad ↑

Name: austintroup | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 5:57 PM

I WOULD FORGET HIM AND TELL YOUR MOTHER ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM AND SEE HOW SHE AGREES.........I WOULD DEFANATLY FORGET HIM AND GO OFF TO COLLEGE WITHOUT LOOKING BACK...OR GET A JOB!!! ↑

Name: Natasha1 | Date: Aug 10th, 2007 9:27 AM

I am in same boat my dad left when i was 4 and i used 2 see him alot as i got older wasnt that interested in goin thre all time my step mum hated me and tried everythin 2 make me n dad argue he now has another son who i have met twice and he is 5 i dont have any interest in my dad i dnt get xas or bday cards aint for years so i aint bothered ↑

Name: Natasha1 | Date: Aug 10th, 2007 9:27 AM

Mayb you can arrange an activity for the two of you to do toghter for a day?? ↑

Name: user73 | Date: Oct 30th, 2008 2:42 PM

Lizzy, You maybe setting her up for a dissappointment if she never gives up... I agree - I would think that your father would love to spend time with you at his house and with the time get himself and the familly accustomed to your regular visits. Try to be friendly and create a good relationship with the rest of the members of the family. Bring them a cake you baked or something - really be nice so they would feel the only normal thing is to be good back to you as well... It may take time - don't get discouraged by little things - there are so many vested emotional interests in that kind of relationships and everyone has their perfect reasoning, so do not be judgemental, just concentrate on the main goal - you want to have a good relationship with you Dad and most likely everyone else comes with him too, so you have to work a good one with the rest too.... And hopefully they'll feel the same. ↑