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I have recently had my Son of 6 diagnosed with Autism and my Parents the childs grandparents keep saying things like "in our days you would just get on with it" or "he'll grow out of it or he'll just have to fit in or you've just been brainwashed by todays society" I feel angry shocked and annoyed by all this but what can I do??? Please help are they just plain old fashioned? What can i say in reply??? Email me Sozo26@hotmail.com ↓
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| Name: dirtydebbs | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 1:12 PM |
| get as much info as u can n let them read it if there interested (which they should b) then they wil realise that he can get better but he wil never grow out of it. if u fancy a chat at anytime my e-mail is dirtydebbs@hotmail.com. You feelin angry is normal at the end of the day he's ur little boy and u wil defend him. My little girl is 7 but was diagnosed at 3 ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 7:01 PM |
| I know excatly how you feel sarahdann, my mum has been fantastic but my dad has said the very same thing to me 'oh he will grow out of that i am a bit like that myself' i got sooooooooooo mad with him, just a few weeks ago he asked me if callum was any better, i reakky felt like saying 'yeah i gave him some paracetamol and he is fine now', you would think they should care enough to find at least something out about it. im sorry if i come across a bit strong but that makes me really angry, knowing how important it is to have your family around you who care enough to know what autism is! best of luck sarahdann. ↑ |
| Name: ltl | Date: Aug 13th, 2007 2:48 AM |
| Hi Sarahdann, My mom was the same way. She would say that "he's too little, every child is different, he'll grow out of it", even after I pointed out my son's lack of interest in playing with other kids, and lack of eye contact, etc etc. But with all of that denial, I was not angry...some people can't accept certain thing epecially when it comes to their loved ones. After my mom's comment, I just smiled, because it really doesn't matter to me. What mattered is that denials won't help my son, knowledge and seeking help for him is what counts at the end of the day. My son, fortunately, has showned remarkable improvements, and until today, my mom would said, "see??? you're overreacting"....again, I just smiled, because I"m just thrilled to see that he's improving...still a long ways to go, but to my mom, he's perfect. That's fine with me as well. :-) ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Aug 13th, 2007 10:51 AM |
| thats a really nice way of looking at it Itl, maybe i'll change my views on my dad, well said. ↑ |
| Name: wallflower | Date: Aug 21st, 2007 1:39 AM |
Hi Sozo,
It's amazing with the autism awareness out there, there still is that mentality that they will grow out of it or it's not that bad. It sounds like my parents. They are wonderful, however, are totally oblivious on what it takes to raise 3 autistic boys. My parents are old fashioned and religious. I just tell them to basically be supportive or be quiet, also I send them information on autism periodically that they don't read. I'm still angry and shocked over this as well. Thank goodness I have wonderful friends and a wonderful therapist...HA..to thine own self be true,
shawn ↑ |
| Name: Eileen White | Date: Nov 8th, 2007 9:36 PM |
| I am a Grandmother of 2 with autism a girl 5 a boy 3 they came to live with me cause my daughter could'nt look after them , these 2 kids have taugh me a lot maybe your Parents need to get more involved in the day to day care of your little boy it really opened my eyes.like 2 talk .eileenwhite@eastlink.ca ↑ |
| Name: Kelly Boerger | Date: Nov 25th, 2007 9:54 PM |
| I am a grandma of a six year old boy who I strongly suspect may have asperger's, but his parents are not seeing or willing to pursue the possibility. You have every reason to be anoyed with your parents. I hate reading, but when I suspected my grandson may have AS, I started reading many different books on the subject. I also began researching on the internet. Would they be willing to at least look into some information on the subject? I hope they do. Your child needs they're support. ↑ |
| Name: Snupi75 | Date: May 27th, 2008 12:55 AM |
| Hi, I'm a grandparent of an autistic 6 year old. Try to be patient with your parents. "In their day" things all had a name, and a diagnosis was just one thing. Autism is a conglomeration of disorders lumped under the same name, and that is part of the frustration. You can't just pick out the one problem and say "This is the cause, so let's fix it!" Do your parents have access to the internet? I have some suggestions on some sites they might be interested in. Maybe it would help them to talk to another grandparet with a child of the same age and gender? I am also a Registered Nurse. I feel deep kinship with your annoyance, what I hear from your statement is that you feel completely unsupported and you feel like you are having to face this huge thing alone. I will be glad to help if I can, even if it is just to listen. We just obtained a service dog for my grandson, and it is working wonders. You can e-mail me at snupi75@yahoo.com. If you have Yahoo Messenger, we can add each other to our contact lists and talk in real time, or you can use my main e-mail addy dendon@centurytel.net , please keep in mind that the last addy is not for forwards etc., it is my personal address. Look forward to hearing from you. ↑ |
| Name: asdmom | Date: Sep 21st, 2008 9:59 PM |
| is your son high functioning or low functioning, can he talk? ↑ |
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