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Name: Kirsty

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I don’t really know where to start. I work in a residential school for children with autism and I have worked with a young person for 4 years. I had an amazing bond with him and I adored him. We worked so well together and would have so much fun. We also had some really hard times but the end result I felt he knew why we went through it because it was in his best interest. I felt like he respected me because I would fight and push for him to see him out in the community and doing things of his interest but most of all he knew he could trust me. Prior to me working with him he was basically failed by people and they would trick him and after a lot of hard work I established a relationship with him. Anyway I had been off work the last 3 days and I went in this morning to find out they had sectioned him and I know they say we are not to get close to the young people but sometimes you can’t help it and I did have a special bond with him. His mother died when he was young and his father would visit when possible. Now I know nothing where he is I cant even get the contact information for his father however even if I did would it be inappropriate to ask him if I could visit his son. I know deep down that he will most probably be better off in a more suitable environment because he had kinda out grown the school so I’m happy for him but at the moment I’m heartbroken and I’m scared he will think I have failed him to. You as parents do you think I should stay in touch or accept that he has moved on. ↓

Name: dianna | Date: May 8th, 2007 1:54 AM

Oh I feel for you. But first, what a wonderful person you are. I think we'd all feel alot better we all had somebody as dedicated to our children as you are. ANd YES, I would definatley try to keep in touch. He trusted you. He may go on but he may thrive just knowing you are still in the picture. Autistic children feel so alone as it is....I would think nothing would be better for him thatn to know that though you will not be his teacher anymore you are still his friend and you will always be there for him if he needs. Hope this helps and take care and PLEASE know whatever the outcome what a teriffic person you are. and what a difference you made in his life. God bless! ↑

Name: onlinedizzy | Date: May 8th, 2007 1:57 AM

IAs aparent i don't think it would be innapproprite at all consdiring you have been so very involved in this boys life. What does sectioned mean? It sounds kind of scarey like he is locked away somewhere. I don't know how you can work in any kind of residentil institution and not get close to people if you have half a heart. I think heneeds to know that he hasn't been abandoned and that people don't just vanish from your life- it must be very frightening. ↑

Name: ltl | Date: May 8th, 2007 3:10 AM

It's so wonderful to see how caring a person you are!!! After reading other postings of abusive bus driver, etc. it's so refreshing to see an understanding and caring person out there. I really think you should make your best effort to stay in touch with him...for all you know, you might be his only "stable environment". He may be frighten to death with all the new changes, and just having someone familiar who he trusted may give him the right push to situate into a new environment, and to know someone he trusted care enough can be very comforting!! If you get the brush of,f please continue to try unless the father specifically says "no", which I wouldn't understand why he would do such a thing. Praise God for you!!! ↑

Name: Kirsty | Date: May 8th, 2007 9:37 AM

Hi thank you for all your kind words. I am feeling a little better and I will go in today and hopefully discuss it with my boss. Yesterday was hard I was working from 7am to 10pm. I found out as soon as I started but I thought keep strong as I had the whole day to get through however as I was leaving for a walk with another child late afternoon I bumped into a staff member who was present when D left and he said he was asking for me. Well that just hurt like nothing else. So by the time I got home yesterday I just broke down and I read these forums and you mums and dada are amazing I just didn't think I would be the person with a topic : ) but I can’t thank you enough. I will fight it regardless! as I know I will continue to be in this boys life for as long as he needs me. I also should have used the word assessed instead of sectioned because it does sound scary but your thoughts were correct online dizzy. But not to worry I’ll bounce back he can’t get rid of me that easily. Thank you so much mums xxx ↑

Name: jojojohnson | Date: Jun 6th, 2007 3:48 AM

kirsty,
hi, i have a 7 year old child with autism, and he has gone through many people in his short life. i always make it a point to visit anyone who has been a part of my sons life, he feels so happy when we go to see someone that he used to work with. i know how influential one person can be on my son. so i think you should try to contact him. my son asks for all of the people who have been a part of his life. and the smile on his face when he sees them is enough for me to know.... he has to see them.
good luck to you! ↑