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My son is 23 months old. At 15 months he was only saying 3 words. Thats when I knew ther was a promblem. His doctor refered him for some speach therophy. Hs's been going twice a week since then. Now he says about 15 words but he doesnt use them for communication. His attactment with his toy cars really concerns me and he will line them up in a atriaght line almost anywhere. He will also do them in a order from smallest to largest. Once he sets them up he cant see you touch them or he goes crazy mad for a really long time. It confusses me cause my hudsband says thats just him being a 2 year old. he has 3 bad habbits that really concerns me.One is that he eill bite his nails until there are almost gone. Then he loves legs. He will rub up and down anyone legs anywhere. Last but wrost he always trys to choke himself be putting his fingers in the back of his mouth. I have been seeking advice for help but my hudsband says hes just a spoiled kid and i am over reactting. What shpould i do?? ↓
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| Name: Ontario_Father | Date: Feb 1st, 2008 1:00 PM |
Hello sunshine, first off I know what you are going through. My son will be 4 in April and he was the same way, and in some areas worse. ASD is hard thing to deal with.
I am no doctor but I do know allot about Autism and from the sounds of it, your son does show signs but that does not mean he is has Autism. Like I said I am no doctor.
You know your child best. You should check out what the type development mile stones are for a child. You can also get information on Autism that should help you quite a bit.
You also need to get your Husband on board. Once you read through all of the info listed above, give it to him and make him read it. It sounds like he is in denial, which is not uncommon but can affect how your son gets treatment, and yes you can get treatment. The sooner the better.
The last thing you can do is keep a journal. This is not as much work as you think but it is some work. Keep a one pager a day on what he did (playing, reading,) and how he acted. Also keep track of how he acted in different situations. Last but not lease, keep track of what he eats, and when he goes to the bathroom and what it was like. (runny, hard, etc.) This will help professionals diagnoses him if it comes to that.
My son was diagnosed when he was 20 months and he was on the severe end of the scale. He will be 4 in April and will be ready for school in September because of the help my wife and I have given him as well as the help we have gotten him.
My prayers are with you and your family. ↑ |
| Name: BlakesMom | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 6:17 AM |
Hi Sunshine............. My son was diagnosed at the age of 18 months.......via persistence on my part and NONE of my husband's. Fortunately, prior to conceiveing my son, I had worked for 20 years in the Special Ed Field........13 of which was directly with children with Autism. I am not a doctor.........but the traits you are describing are consistent with ones exhibitied by children with autism. Fortunately (I guess), my son's "signs" were much more evident for me (my hubby would NOT accept it-----although now, 18 months later ---- he is completely on board). Blake was diagnosed in the severe range, exhibiting much more sever behaviors than you have described......
Lining up of the cars is a definite trait.....Does your son have interest in other toys....and if so, does he play appropriately with them?
Does you son self stimulate.......(lining of the cars might very well be a self stim behavior, as well as the rubbing of legs) Anything else such as handflapping, staring at his hands, etc,
Does your son initiate interaction with other children......? What are his verbal skills...... Is he verbal? If not..........did he possess verbal language that 'disappeared? Does he make eye contact? Seriously, no child with autism is the same........ Do some research.........if your child is autistic, it is likely many websites depicting autism will desribe him to the tee!!!! I assume his current doctor has not made a diagnosis.........WHY? I fired my pediatrician and got one that was more familiar with autism.........THEN.....we were entitled to so much more thereapy! In the state of IL, a child is entitled to Early Intervention Services through the state at a minimal cost until the age of three. EARLY INTERVENTION IS KEY!!! If you are not recving this.........check into it. I hope I don't sound like I know everything, because I am at a loss EVERYDAY....... I am just a few steps ahead of you because of my son's age and what we have gone through. Take care of yourself and your little angel! Cindy ↑ |
| Name: aggravated | Date: Feb 23rd, 2008 12:15 AM |
| I just read about your son and would like to say the following.... a lot of men dream of having a son to teach sports..hunting..whatever and then when they finally get their son, and something is not right, the typical responce is that "it's just a phase, or he's fine" Men don't want to admit that their drean life raising a son may not turn out after all. (no offence to men, but that's just the way it is) I took my son (now 3 1/2) to his regular pediatrician several times and told them that my son was delayed in several areas and did not seem "normal" to me. The responce I got several times over was" let's just wait and see what happens" I like my pediatrician, but went elsewhere to get a second opinion. I just knew something was wrong. And my husband is not listening to me at all. After the second opinion, I was referred to birth to three, and when my son was "to old" for that program, the first pediatrician sent us (finally) to a developmental pediatrician who diagnosed my son with autism. I hate the end result..I mean I wish my son could be "normal" but the fact is that he is autistic, and I went through a lot to find out what was wrong. But it's nothing compared to what my son is going throough and so now we are fighting to get help for him. My point is that mothers have great instincts and they should be followed. If you think there is something wrong follow up on it.Hopefully your son will be fine, but waiting to see may not be a good idea. As the professionals say "Early intervention is the key to success" ↑ |
| Name: phc64 | Date: Feb 23rd, 2008 3:37 AM |
| I agree with the last post! When my son was little, I kept waiting for him to develop like his sister did (twins) and I had this feeling something was wrong. Alot of people said: "He's going to be fine!" Unfortunately they were wrong and at the preschool screening it became painfully obvious. This was13 years ago and I didn't even suspect it was autism, because I knew nothing about it. There is alot more help out there now as far as early intervention and detection is concerned. As a mom, if you have that gut feeling, something might be wrong with your child, don't let other people patronize you. ↑ |
| Name: kat26 | Date: Apr 4th, 2008 4:00 PM |
hi, by the time my son was 1 yr old i thought that there was a chance that he was autistic, because he used to say "ehhhhhh" while playing with certain things (like blocks) and just zone out while doing that. then at 2yrs old he started to flap his hands at certain things (like credits on tv screen, fan, etc) thats when i knew in my heart that he did have some sort of autism. at 3yrs old he was diagnosed "mild to moderate autistic"
anyways, he used to put his finger in the back of his mouth too.... and he will line up cars or line up other things and he gets really mad if you try and touch them too...
i don't think you're over reacting...(my husband thought the same about me) i would definetly stress all your concerns about his bad habits to his doctor and maybe even take him to a specialist....because if he is autistic-early intervention is the key....and your son goes to speach therapy, that is wonderful! it has helped my son so much!
everybody thought that i just had a spoiled brat, but i knew there was more to it then that...and when i took him to a specialist i was hoping that i was the one that was wrong...but i wasn't.
so definetly ,follow your mothers instinct...and thats not overreacting..... ↑ |
| Name: sara7273 | Date: Apr 8th, 2008 11:10 AM |
| hi, i have a 10 year old who has just been refered to the cdu, he was mute until the age of 4, we went to speach therapy, pychcologists etc, but no one ever said thier was anything wrong, like you he was obsessed with cars lining them up, also would turn any item over to sit and play with wheels for hours, he loves creases on jeans, he has a brother who is 4 with a different obsession he loves my hair!!! he will sniff and wave it over his mouth, it doesnt matter where we are he must get to it, i dont know how i will react when the diagnosis comes as i have spent days crying, i feel let down by the NHS as my eldest could have got more help, i also have a 6 year old daughter who is fine thank goodness, i forgot to mention that my eldest was born with sugar lumps on his hands and he now bites them leaving them raw. ↑ |
| Name: mi brother | Date: Apr 9th, 2008 5:18 PM |
| well i can onli say make sure you go to more than one doctors and do ur on research i can understand mi brother has that same habits but he is has high function austim wat u have to do is constanly work wit your son work on his motor skills start with the basic he will graduly come around and when u see the improvement everything will turn around ↑ |
| Name: Jods | Date: Apr 12th, 2008 12:28 AM |
| I think they ae big signs of Autism, my son's father actually pushed me to go and see specialists because i thought he was just being a typical baby. We had him first seen by someone at just over 2 years of age where he was diagnosed with a serious language disorder and he was not diagnosed with Autism until he was nearly 4 1/2. My advice is follow your gut feeling and take him to see every doctor that you can to get a early diagnosis.!! ↑ |
| Name: pddmom | Date: Apr 18th, 2008 4:13 AM |
| Hi, first I want to tell you that my prayers are with you, and anyone else who reads this. You are going in the right direction. My son was diagnosed with PDD-NOS when he was 2, he will be 3 in May. My husband has had a tough time also, and still lives in denial. But despite his denial about the diagnosis he does tons of physical activity and sensory recommendations with my son every night. See what your state offers for Early Intervention, and have them refer you for a diagnosis. this will then qualify you for more services for your baby. These early interventions are crucial to your son. GL, and God Bless. ↑ |
| Name: ipomeroy | Date: Apr 27th, 2008 1:32 AM |
Hi there,
I have a similar issue with my 2.5 yr old daughter who was on track until almost a year ago in communicating where now she won't say a thing. She has been diagnosed with minor autism du to the fact that she doesn't get aggressive at all, in fact she is totally the opposite, but shows the lack of communication symptoms and also lines everything up which I and my husband actually see as a sign of intelligence. There is a method behind why they do this. There is nothing wrong with order and routine. This is a good thing. I will be taking my daughter to speech therapy in a few weeks for the first time and will see how things go. I think seeking advice is a good idea depending on how often the habits occur. Just remember, there is alot of support out there. Let me know how things go. ↑ |
| Name: jojojohnson | Date: May 10th, 2008 6:46 AM |
| I just want to say, if you think something is wrong, persue it. My husband convinced me until my son was 3 that he was just "spoiled" well, he was autistic...And I knew it. I knew for a long time. But I so wanted to believe him. Trust your own instincts, And whats the worst? Your wrong? Great. ↑ |
| Name: isabella | Date: May 14th, 2008 1:49 AM |
| Name: isabella | Date: May 14th, 2008 1:50 AM |
| hi i am isabella scared about autism dont know enough information ↑ |
| Name: Cadesmom | Date: May 24th, 2008 7:59 PM |
| Your gut feeling is probably right. Your son does a lot of the things that my son did at his age. When I mentioned it to his doctor, he said that I needed to socialize him more. Doctor after Doctor couldn't see that he was autistic, but I knew. Finally after a year on a waiting list for a child development pediatrician, he was diagnosed with autism....by this time he was six year old and past the age of government help here in Canada. Look, the earlier he gets therapy, the better his outcome will be. If only I hadn't have let all those doctors convince me that I was being paranoid. Every bit of evidence now has proven that the earlier an autistic child gets help the better his/her life will be in the long run. Keep a journal of all his milstones and everything he does and has done. Because when you finally get to see the developmental pediatricians they will be asking you to fill out miles and miles of paperwork, providing the history of his entire little life, from the moment he was born. I wish I'd have had someone tell me what I have just told you..........when I was going through the same thing back in the day. Your husband needs to support you and get on board. Hey, if your son turns out to not be autistic, great, however if he is......you can make all the difference to his life. ↑ |
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