hi,my baby is 2month old.i am breastfeeding,but my big problem that i cany breastfeed in the streets,when i go out to buy something for example,i dont have any chance t breastfeed him,especially with the stupid law in the USA that prevent me to breastfeed in the car,MY BABY DOESNT ACCEPT ANYTHING BUT MY BREAST,HE DOESNT EVEN ACCEPT MY MILK FROM A BOTTLE WHEN I TRY TO PUMP,,,WHY????????
NOT A FORMULA,NOT ANYTHING????? WHY?? WHAT CAN I DO? I AM LOCKED AT HOME,.PLZ HELP ↓
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| Name: jillw | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 6:40 PM |
| Where do you live. I was not aware of any laws that prevent a child form getting food. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:03 PM |
| I breastfeed my baby in the car all the time so I have no idea what you are talking about! Of course the car is parked, and with the air conditioner on. I also no that in the state of California where i live there is a civil law that protects breastfeeding women from getting an indecent exposure ticket while breastfeeding, due some idiot people that actually get affended when we're just doing the most natural thing ever. I believe that same law exist in New York. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:04 PM |
| I meant "I also know"..... my baby is chewing on my arm making it hard to type and concentrate! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:07 PM |
| I know that they make tanks that just flap down and there is just a hole out around the nipple area and it doesn't expose the entire breast. It looks like the baby's mouth would take up most of the flesh that is being exposed. I can't imagine that you could get into trouble for feeding you child (unless of course you just took you shirt off and went bare chest) ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:18 PM |
50 State Summary of Breastfeeding Laws
Updated February 21, 2006
More than half of the states (38) have enacted legislation related to breastfeeding.
Thirty one states allow mothers to breastfeed in any public or private location (California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, Oklahoma, Ohio, Oregon, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Utah, Texas, Vermont and Virginia). ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:18 PM |
Fifteen states exempt breastfeeding from public indecency laws (Alaska, Florida, Illinois, Michigan, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, North Carolina, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Utah, Virginia, Washington and Wisconsin).
Ten states have laws related to breastfeeding in the workplace (California, Connecticut, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Minnesota, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Texas, and Washington).
Nine states exempt breastfeeding mothers from jury duty (California, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa, Minnesota, Nebraska, Oklahoma Oregon and Virginia).
Four states have implemented or encouraged the development of a breastfeeding awareness education campaign (California, Illinois, Missouri, and Vermont). ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:21 PM |
| I'm curious as to where you are from? Please tell. Looks to me that the majority of the states are Pro breastfeeding. Why wouldn't they be? Maybe you're just confused. There are alot of ignorant people out there who don't know. Like my mother in law told me something one time when I was about to breastfeed my baby, and I told her "if I show a little while I'm trying to get my baby situated, oh, well, I'm trying and people should mind their own business anyways, all I'm doing is trying to feed my baby and it's mine and her business only!" ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 7:22 PM |
http://www.ncsl.org/programs/he
alth/breastfeeding50.htm
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can go to this site and look up the state you are from and it will tell you all the laws that were passed that deal with breastfeeding. ↑ |
| Name: newmommyof2 | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 8:53 PM |
| have you tryed the big nipple bottles? they allow him to suck as if he was nursing! try that and see what happens.(If i might ask what law says you cant nurse in public(car)) I do it all the time, heck i do it when im walking through the store. if my baby is hungry they all can kiss my behind):) ↑ |
| Name: aliaa | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 9:20 PM |
| people you dont undersatnd,maybe i said it in the wrong way.if i am going out with my husbend(id ont drive)to any near place to go to the doctor for example,there is no time that we park the car,so i can breastfeed,,,,we have a date that we must catch,and the law HERE IN NEWJERSY i cant take my baby to breatfeed him from the car seat while the car is going on. and if i am in the supermarket buying fast my things,,,how i will stand in the supermarket to breastfeed? ECPECIALLY THAT MY BABY NEED ME ALWAYS TO CARRY HIM WITH ONE HAND AND HOLD MY BREAST FOR HIM WITH THE OTHER,OR HE CANT FEED IF I DIDNT HOLD MY BREAST FOR HIM, ↑ |
| Name: firewife | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 11:14 PM |
Aliaa, no state has a law banning BF, I nurse in the grocery store all the time, have you tried a sling?... its a great way to free your arm plus it gives your baby a little privacy
As for feeding in the car, I know this sounds crazy but it is possible to nurse your baby while he is in the car seat, youneed to unbuckle and kinda lean over him, not east I know but when baby is screaming and you are driving down the interstate with no place to stop, it works ↑ |
| Name: firewife | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 11:14 PM |
| sorry for typos, baby is crawling all over me trying to "help" ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 2:46 AM |
alia, thats where planning comes into play. We all have to do it and being that you're breastfeeding you'll learn too. If you know you need to leave the house say at 11:00 then you need to be completely ready and the baby too, so that you can dedicate at least a half hour before to nurse your baby so that he/she is full and ready for the trip. If he/she get's hungry while you're trying to hurry in the supermarket then tuff! You go to the car and feed him. We all have things we have to do and times we're suppose to it by, but you have a baby now and you'll learn to plan better. And the law that you can't take the baby out of the car seat is while the car is moving is NOT a stupid law! I didn't realize that's what you meant cause I wouldn't think anyone would disagree with it. Did you know that car accidents is the #1 cause of infant deaths! Keep that in mind next time you think that law is stupid. If you're baby get's hungry on the way home, or to somewhere, you'll just have to try different things to calm him, give him your finger to suck on, or a pacifier if you're lucky enough to have a baby that will take one.
Oh, if you are flexible enough you CAN breastfeed you're baby while baby is in carseat and buckled in. It hurts though, and like I said you have to be flexible, and I think it helps to be larger chested. Keep your bottom seat belt buckled too for your own safetly. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 2:48 AM |
| sorry I just realized that I have many typo's in that last message but it's still readable. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 2:51 AM |
| oh I just read firewifes, yeah I was on a long trip on the highway and was 2 hours away from home, my baby started screaming wanting to be fed, so I plopped it out and leaned as far as I could over the carseat. Oh man it sucked but the baby was happy! ↑ |
| Name: momof3 | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 1:57 PM |
| The reason there are laws againist breastfeeding while the car is moving is because that is very dangerous. Your baby needs to be in a car seat at all times. Trust me. I worked the ambulance for years and you would be amazed at what can happen to babies. You need to do as farah said,plan, plan plan. If you are going to the doctor, breastfeed before or at the appointment. ↑ |
| Name: aliaa | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 6:56 PM |
farah i m from a country which we dont use car seat,or belts...cause we dont move in the highways,because the country is very crowded already,,,,thats why i dont use them,anyway,i m not tallking about the law now.but you dont give me solutions,,,,, my baby is still too small to plan,of course i tried to do that,but sometimes before i go out he is sleeping,and once i get in the car he is awake,and want to fed,breastfeeding in the car seat is impossible,i think it is a strange idea,first,,because i have small breasts,second i am MUSLIM,,so i have to cover well my body and my breasts while feeding,this is the right thing to do,not to let all people watch..(i have small breasts anyway like i mentioned so it is impossible).now MY QUESTION IS WHY MY BABY DOESNT ACCEPT MY MILK FROM ABOTTLE OR A FORMULA?? I THINK HIS PROBLEM NOT THE BOTTLE BUT ITS TASTE,,BECAUSE WHEN I TRY HIS FACE GIVE ME THE LOOK (DISCUSTING)..
SO IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE THAT I CAN GIVE TO HELP ME IN THE STREETS AND WITH BETTER TASTE??????? ↑ |
| Name: firewife | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 1:13 AM |
Aliaa, you are not making any sense, please try to help us understand. In your orginal reply you stated you were from the USA, however in your last reply you said you are from a country that doesn't use car seats or buckles. It is the law in the USA to use car seats and in most states its the law to buckle up.
As for your baby not taking a bottle of breastmilk, have you tried different types of bottles and nipples? Some babies never take a bottle, my 6 month old refuses it, no matter what is in it.
I am sorry that you feel it is strange to nurse your baby in a car seat, I believe that when a baby is hungry, he should eat, no matter where you are. When most women nurse the general public around you can see nothing, if you are discreet most won't even know what you are doing. People do not typically watch either. Have you tried a sling, or nursing cover, even just a simple blanket? If you are unwilling to try these options, the only thing you can do is plan. I hope you work it out it is not fun to be stuck at home all the time. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 3:08 AM |
I understand what she is saying, that she is FROM a different country and moved here, and she is muslim and they DO have to keep covered up. Even their heads and neck I've seen. Kinda of a weird religion though to have to worry about that when you are trying to nourish your child.
I do not know what else to say because my baby will not take my milk anymore from a bottle either and I do not try formula because I'm against the idea when my body makes the most perfect formula for my baby. Try to find nipples that are shaped like your nipples. Also try practicing at home feeding your baby with a bottle of your milk when the baby isn't all ready crying and hungry. If you wait until the baby's upset he will most likely not except it, you see! He'll just want the breast because it's most comforting to him. Also if you have someone else try you might have a little luck. My baby wasn't taking a bottle with my milk but then I let a whole month go by just solely feeding her from my breast and now she will not except the bottle, and she gags with pacifiers. And if your baby is asleep before you leave, wake him up and try to feed him. And if he cries in the car wanting to be fed, if possible pull over somewhere and feed him and use a blanket or scarf or something to cover up. Sorry I really do not know what else to recommend. Our babies get used to our breast and then they do not want anything else. Good luck and it'll get easier when the baby gets a little older and will go a little longer between feedings. Plus we really do learn how to plan better once we get the hang of things. This is my first baby too, but I breastfeed like a pro now. ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 3:09 AM |
| Oops I meant my baby WAS taking a bottle and then stopped ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 2:54 PM |
| I do have to say one other thing. I do not know much about the Muslim religion, but I know it's been around for centuries, where bottles and formula have not and so the women would of had to just breastfeed. I think it's sad when you have to feel ashamed to breastfeed in public because of a religion. It's just made up anyways, but thats my opinion on all religions. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing to do and you should not have to feel ashamed that you are doing it. Instead you should be proud! Many women now a days are too selfish to even try it, being that they can just start off with bottles and formula and not dedicate the time to breastfeed. ↑ |
| Name: aliaa | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 6:43 PM |
| hey farah,,,,my religion is not weird,and i am not shamed of it,if u think it is made up,so this is up tp you,u will know u r wrong,but after you lost the chance to change ur opinion!! my religion keep me respectable and safe by covering me,not for men to treat me as a slut,or walking naked in the streets! my religion told me to breastfeed my baby for two years,,not ashamed for breastfeeding !!! i know u wanted to help,,,,thx,,but you have to respect other people religions in your words farah,,,,,it is not something WEIRED AS YOU SAID, this is my problem that i am not comfortable to breastfeed in the streets not my religion problem ! thx for help anyway,i will manage ! ↑ |
| Name: Farah | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 6:10 AM |
| I do respect other peoples religions even if I do not agree with them (and I do not know enough about yours to disagree), and I only thought it was weird because you said that you were muslim and had to "cover well your body while breastfeeding" so I just assumed that was part of the religion. I am only one person and it was just a spontanous thought. I think many religions are weird though so it doesn't matter. I think it's great that your religion supports breastfeeding and to the age of 2! ↑ |
| Name: ARMANISMOM | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 6:59 AM |
| I had the same problem where my son would only want my boobs and I finally tryed the gerber nuk nipple and he will take this nipple only if someone else is holding him. He smells his breakfast, lunch, dinner and dessert on me and has a fit. Also he will take the podee bottle straw while sitting in the carseat if he is hungry. This bottle is a total life saver since there is a straw that goes from the bottom of the bottle to the top and then another straw that connectsto a nipple and this is the only part that goes in his mouth. "Pacifeeder" is another take off of the same bottle. You can find these bottles on EBAY... ↑ |
| Name: debbie_dettner | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 5:55 PM |
I'm sorry, what do you mean you can't breastfeed in public? Where on earth do you live? I have two children and I'm pregnant with my third. I breastfed whenever and wherever I needed to when my child was hungry. I didn't flash my nipples, but don't feel the need to hide what I'm doing--THIS IS WHAT BREASTS ARE MADE FOR, FOLKS!!! Feed your child! Find a bench at a park, a seat in the mall, even a restaurant booth. Get a nursing shirt if you need to--I found pulling my shirt up always the easiest (the baby covers you below and the shirt above) and if you feel more comfortable, cover your shoulder with a receiving blanket.
If anyone bugs you, look the idiot straight in the eye and ask, "Do you eat your lunch in the bathroom? No? well, why should my child?" And then stare at them until they feel completely uncomfortable and walk away. If you feel the need to flip them off, go ahead. ↑ |
| Name: debbie_dettner | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 6:06 PM |
| Hey Farah and Firewife--you guys are awesome! Great comments, although I read them only after I responded last. Aliaa, one thing you must remember--and I know it's hard right now because you are sleep deprived and this is a completely new experience--babies are only small for an EXTREMELY SHORT amount of time! Once they hit about four months, their stomachs are larger and breastfeeding is not as frequent. You will be able to schedule your time for you in the very near future. For now, try to remember that your baby needs you now and this will pass in the blink of an eye. You will turn your head and when you look back, they will be headed for college. Relax and enjoy this time. When you get frustrated, take a deep breath, look at the beautiful baby you are holding, and know that this moment will never come again. ↑ |
| Name: aliaa | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 12:25 PM |
| i cant wait to give him other food really,he is taking it from four months???????????? i will try to let this pass,he was with his doctor yesterday taking his first shots,and the doctor told me that my baby will accept anything if he is hungry,but i must bear him cry a little then he will accept any food i give,and that there is no problem at all to give him one bottle in a week. ↑ |
| Name: SaraSum | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 5:09 PM |
| I nursed my twin girls for 2 years. We used to pull over somewhere and I would just sit in the back with a blanket to kind of cover myself and nurse whoever needed fed at that time. However, I have seen many people nursing their babies in public. They usually carry some sort of cover (a small blanket or scarf to lightly cover their baby's head (as well as their breast) and generally just lift their shirt up so everything is pretty much hidden. If you are driving, just try to always give yourself enough time that you can pull over into a parking lot or private area and just climb in the back seat and nurse him. Also, many stores have nursing facilities. I have also gone into a dressing room to nurse one of my girls. The attendent was more than happy to let me do so. I know that it's a challenge, but just try to be patient (easier said than done, I know) but in the end, it is soooo worth it. I am so happy that I nursed my daughters. I really believe that they are healthier and happier children as a result. ↑ |
| Name: SaraSum | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 5:25 PM |
| aliaa, Just want to add to my last post. I am Muslim too and I also live in New Jersey. I also felt uncomfortable nursing out in the open but at the same time, I had to find a way to get my daughters fed when they needed it. Luckily they did take a bottle from me however, I chose to primarily nurse them because I felt it was more natural. Another suggestion is that you make sure to feed him right before you go out. This way (depending how long it is between feedings), it will give you some time to do whatever you need to do outside. Plus, if you are at the mall, which you may be for more than 2 hours, try the dressing room idea or just walk back to your car and nurse him there and just meet up with your husband afterwards. With twins, we pretty much thought of everything and with some clever thinking, you can really find a way to work it out. ↑ |
| Name: ellen | Date: Sep 20th, 2006 1:08 PM |
| I breastfed my daughter until she was a todler. At first I was very uncomfortable nursing anywhere but at home...but you have to overcome your anxiety and just nurse your baby wherever you want....JUST DO IT and you'll realize that it is not that hard to manage...just don't worry about what anyone else thinks.good luck ↑ |
| Name: aliaa | Date: Sep 20th, 2006 5:40 PM |
| hi sara,,,where are u from? u r american?? muslim american? i thought it would be nice to know you as long as u r muslim and living here with me,,,,i am a new resident here,and i am from egypt ↑ |
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