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My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 7 years. We have both remarried and have other children. Our visitation schedule is very strict and we don't waver from it. He recently went from a well paying position to become a delivery man. He is now having the support reviewed. Our children are older (12&10) and very active in sports and other extracurricular things that he is present at. If the support goes down, do you think it would be wrong of me to ask him to split the cost of those activites? I am afraid he is going to tell me that he pays enough and won't help out. If he doesn't help out, I'm afraid we will have to stop the activities. Any advice?
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I like hearing threds like this it motivates me to make my marriage work even though I am not always happy and we don't always get along. The situation sounds complicated. Your kids might have to give up their extra activities.
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Lucy, it sound to me your feeling guilty to ask your children's father to help with the well being of your children. DONT FEEL GUILTY! Child support can only stretch so far, people dont realize that its not for clothes every month, children have daycare expenses,food, shelter, electricity, school supplies, fieldtrips, projects for school, the list is endless! Rarely does child support cover all of that, leaving the other parent to pick up the other half plus the rest! So can you just throw your arms up and say, hey, sorry kids, Im not gonna pay for your needs because I dont make enough! NO! As parents, its each of our obligations and responsability to provide for them no matter what. We do what we have to do and thats what realy parents do. Extracurricular activities are a vital part of a childs well being. It is our jobs as parents to not let our kids suffer for something one parent is lacking. There are scholarships and subsidy available for these reasons. Please seek them out. Maybe volunteer at one of thier activity's to "work" for the scholarship, there are always ways around things. The best of luck and happiness to you and your kids!
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Child support is to support a child, not to pay for extras. If you were still together and he had changed jobs, you would discuss if you could afford the sports, etc...if you could not, they would NOT be in sports. So if you want them to continue, I suggest you get yourself a second job or a first job and pay for it yourself.
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In my divorce papers, my ex is suppose to pay support for 3 children and any extra curricular activities that the children are in, we split the costs 50/50. All you can do is present this to your lawyer or judge while he is trying to get his support reduce.
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Please....say no to the children for petes sake. my kids go out for one sport each and my folks pay for the basketball camp and football camp. It is part of there birthday. I am married to there father but I did raise my eldest son on only 200.00 a month child support and never expected more. If there was something beyond our means and they wanted it badly again that goes on there birthday wish list. plan ahead
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Ask him if he will split it and if he says no then you will have to withdraw the kids from the things they enjoy. If your ex sees how much this bothers them though,he may reconsider and pay up.
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And you can also tell the kids it's not because of you because you will pay for half,then they can work on their dad to change his mind and help afterall.
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my husband and I are getting a divorce,we have 3 kids,12,10,7. I have always been home with the kids I have worked part-time 3 days a week,so I am home 2 so they can come home on the bus and do extra activities on those days,I was the one who always took the kids to doc apts,get school stuff. My husband want 50-50 visiting with kids . They would live with him 50% and me50%. I work partime but I make good money,I work for my families business. He has been on off jobs in past 3 years. He now has a job he just start where he make about the same amount of money that I do. I may make a little more. He refuses to pay me child support. Will he get away with not paying? He said he will pay when they are with him but I know he wont buy clothes or stuff they need I will end up buying the kids everything. I do not want to always keep record and ask him for the money. Will I be granted some support?
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I am sorry but I do NOT agree with Lizzi Never speek badlyt about the other parent or put blam. If he can not afford it why is it his falt. Why tell the kid your father will not pay it hurts the kids . Above all else DO NOT DO ANYTHING to HURT THE KIDS!!!!
Just ask him if he could hel out with the kids activites. If he ca not or will not ask the court. I hoonestly would be more concerned about food and cloths for the kids then the activities! Yes they are great for kids but lets get real it will not kill them if they can not go. = |
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I dont see anything wrong with the mom saying to her kids that she has her half,and they'll have to ask dad for his.
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MOST PEOPLE DON'T TAKE A LESSER PAYING JOB BECAUSE THEY WANT TO. PLEASE DON'T TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY, BUT MY HUSBAND HASN'T BEEN MAKING AS MUCH AS HE DID WHEN HE MADE THE ARRANGEMENTS TO PAY DAYCARE FOR TWO CHILDREN WHICH IS VERY PRICEY. WE STRUGGLE TO MAKE THE BILLS AS IT IS AND WE ALSO HAD A BABY. MY SON GOES WITHOUT. NOT THAT YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD GO WITHOUT, BUT MONEY CAN ONLY GO SO FAR. SOME SACRAFICES MAY NEED TO BE MADE ON BOTH PARTIES. IS HE REMARRIED? DOES HE HAVE OTHER CHILDREN? TALK TO HIM AND SEE WHAT HE CAN DO. OBVIOUSLY IF HE IS MAKING LESS MONEY AND HAVING THE COURT REVIEW HIS CHILD SUPPORT ORDER IT IS FOR A GOOD REASON. I AM SURE HE WOULD NOT WANT HIS CHILDREN TO CUT OUT SPORTS OR OTHER EXTRA CURRICULAR ATIVITIES, BUT UNFORTUNATELY YOU CAN'T GET BLOOD FROM A STONE. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. I HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU.
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My son'sfather and I separated in 2001 he was ordered to pay me child support. At the time I didn't think anything of him not putting down all employment, he had been fulltime in the alabama national guard since 1999, the only employment he put down was a part time job at a grocery store. He then was deployed to iraq in april of 2002. My child support never changed, I don't think he reported he was in the guard. While in the guard he got married and when he returned he and his new wife got custody of my son through lies and knowing the judge. I could not afford a lawyer to go to court so I just returned my letter to his attorney requesting a hearing, While im waiting for a hearing for months im still getting my son on a regular basis so im thinking well everything will turn out ok and i can try to save some money for an attorney too much time went by and now when i can get an attorney ive waited to long to get custody back im told. In 2005 my son's father and his wife were going to get a divorce and he asked me if I wanted to get him back, of course i said yes my son was sooo happy he was going to start school back at home with his old friends, not he case he instead takes my son 100 miles away to his mother and puts him in that school system for 3 months. Now its 2006 and I just found out im pregnant working at a job that pays so little i feel like im working for free, and he thinks its time for me to pay child support, keep in mind we haven't gone to court to give him custody, any way it ends up that im paying more child support than he was paying me and i was making less than he was. Now im behind on my payments 3 months because I had my baby and can't work. What can I do My son doesn't want to live with his father, He is now 11 at what age will a judge listen to him? What can I do to get back child support for 2001 when he didnt report other income? What can I do to get my payments lowered I have no income?
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Miss E. - It depends on the laws where you are from. In my state, TX the court consideres a child's opinion of where they prefer to live at the age of 12. Also, depending on your c/s issues, it doesn't matter what he reported at the time he was supposed to pay child support if the court ordered him to pay a set amount and he did not pay, then you can request back pay for the amount you are owed. If he won't pay, you can file a petition with the county clerks office and the state may be able to withhold his income tax return in order to pay you. If you owe him money for c/s too then you will most likely be ordered to pay him in return. Good luck
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Lucy, your ex might still have to pay the same amount of child support if you can prove he took the lower paying job to get out of paying his current child support. Depending on what state you live in (and how good your lawyer is), if your husband has a college degree in finance and his taking a delivery job for lower pay... then a judge might think he's not living up to his salary potential... also, if it isn't already, get your child support order changed on how much your responsible for and how much your ex is responsible for when it comes to activities or costs outside of child support...
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If he was a real father he would go ahead and help his child with the cost of the activities. This day and age if we keep our children active in sports and things they have less time to go out and get there selves in trouble. talk with him and if he refuses then maybe hes not such a great father and then i guess you will have to do what it takes i know i have 3 kids and 3 jobs good luck
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Lucy, I too am in a position of similar distaste. I have two children from my first husband which we have been divorced for 5 years. They are (9 & 11), and are also in extracurricular activities. My ex doesn't pay but 200 to 300 a month (which I'm taking back to court to get that modified as we speak) but with that small amount I do ask that he pitch in and help for they are not only your children but his as well and to see them succeed and be happy in life doing what they love should be his goal in life as well as yours. So the next time your feeling guilty about asking him to step up, DON'T
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It wont hurt to ask? You are probably getting the exemptions on the income tax, while he gets none, so maybe you could save some of that money for the sports. Some people also get (EIC), which doubles the income refund. Also the kds don't have to play in all sports and the academics should come first.
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I have full custody of my son and am being forced by a female judge to continue to pay child support in the amount of $175.00 per week. I have had custody for over 1 1/2 years and was paid current up to the day before I was given custody. I filed a motion to change the support and lost and the judge ordered me to pay my ex wifes legal fees. Additionally she allowed my ex to sieze a trust fund I had, My ex made over $500,000.00 last year wich we proved in court and this same judge allowed her to list her income at $10,860.00 I am ready to scream, I was also denied a change of venue and the judge said let him appeal this and see what that costs. If I castrate myself and become a female maybe I can get a fair trial. My son is 5 and DYFS gave me custody because my ex wife was substantiated for abuse and neglect. she only see's my son 2 hours per week supervised. Judge Michelle m. Fox is the brains behind this one.
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Considering that fact that the internet is available to the minor children discussed in this article, it is in poor taste to keep this on a "searchable" site. It is not factually correct.
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Child support includes money for the support of the children and anything that includes raising them, including activities. He isn't responsible for more than that except providing for them at his home. You are remarried and have additional money coming in that you can share in the expenses of your children too. You have to live within your means and your children may have to pick and choose their favorite sport over something else. Sacrifice is a part of life and this will teach them an important lesson that people don't always get what they want.
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If your ex cares at all, you shouldn't have to ask him to split any expenses having to do with the kids. Just like he purposely left a high paying job for an ordinary job, it's simply so he doesn't lose too much on having to support them. If he isn't going to split half on their sports, then he shouldn't show up for their games. But when you ask him to split the cost, you better be ready for a fight if he isn't going to agree.
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I'm a single mom trying to find out how to file an oder for child support. I just found out where the father of my child is, and I don't want to keep enduring everything on my own. Can someone please help me.
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i gotta question
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does anyone know how they configure child support for someone who is self employeed
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im self employed, and the way we do it is based on average monthly earnings. we each contribute percentage of child support according to percentage of earnings. this is re-evaluated once a year.
as for the question on the father now having a lower paying job. I agree with the reply given before. - U should allways try look at it as if u were still married. - do what u can for your kids, but downscale if u need to. even married people have financial problems sometimes, and have to cut back. It works the same way. = |
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we all want the best for our kids, but sometimes we cant afford it. married or not.
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i have never paid a penny to CSA...
f**k them... i used to pay direct to mother but then she decided to be a bitch (as most women are) and inform CSA... now my son is at the age of 20 i dont have to pay nothing to CSA, so why have i got a bill for £500 of them... in my option the goverment has to much power.. how dare they take money off you on top of all the tax we pay for everything . and for all those single mums out there. GET A JOB !! dont you get enuf hand outs fron the goverment.... tax credit, working tax credit , help with housing, free dental, free health care.... need i say more . = |
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While attending a parenting class resulting from my recent divorce the question was posed to the entire class of about 25 people “What is the definition of being a parent?” Amazingly no one in the class spoke up, I answered the question similar to the description below, however since that date I have thought about it and the people there. I have taken the time to expand this answer to encompass all of my thoughts.
Our primary role as parents is to provide shelter, nutrition, nurturing, love, admiration, education and guidance in the rearing of our and all children with whom we come in contact with, to raise a child that is emotionally strong, educated, self reliant, morally correct and psychologically, socially and physically fit. Allowing them to be a child and enjoy everything life has to offer at such a young age because in a few short years they will have the same daily responsibilities as you do now. A child must be allowed to grow as an individual yet softly guided to make the correct decisions about his or her actions realizing that every action has an equal or greater reaction both positive and negative upon themselves, their family and society in which they reside. That their actions may have long term effects upon themselves and others. Immoral acts carry the sentence of shame and disappointment; it is acceptable to be angered by your child and for them to know it however they must always feel loved. The guidance you provide now will help them in the future make solid decisions based on intellect that they will carry for the rest of their lives. We as parents have great responsibility for all children to learn from, children learn from observation of the people they admire, their parents. It is our obligation to conduct our lives in a sociably acceptable manner from with which our children will grow allowing them to have a positive social, moral and economical impact upon society as a whole. And to prosper as future parents going on to raise a family of their own without being a burden to society. Kurt W. Schwiedop 2006 = |
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I am 4 months pregnat and my boyfiend dosen't want to pay anything , we don't have medical insurance and I need to have a ultrasound and my exboyfirnd dosen't wnat to pay ? what i should do?
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My boyfriend pays $800---on time, every month, for one child including medical and dental insurance on $60,000 per year. He also pays transportation expenses and uncovered expenses like braces. All for a child who is rude and disrespectful and for whom a used car is not good enough.
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Im on child support and one of my children has just turnt 16 she wants to get a job how will this effect my benefits?
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Debra...it should not effect your bennies whatsoever. My sd..had a kid @ 15...(she's 22 now) it didn't effect bennies at all... in fact our insurance paid for the birth of our grandababy.....apparently as long as mom was paying a dollar a month..it was all good. My middle sd worked from the time she was 16....it didn't affect mom's bennies either.....and, she was able to file a return too. Also...both of these kids were kicked out at these ages too....we still had to cough it up to mom. At least that's how it worked in the lovely state of Colorado. Good Luck!
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Well, unfortunately, rarely does the child support actually go to supporting the child, It ends up paying for new vehicles, larger homes, new clothing FOR MOM, dates, etc. Dad is not going to be held hostage in a job that maybe he dislikes just so his ex can live a material lifestyle.
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I feel your pain. My ex doesn't help pay for ANYTHING extra. We even had to go back to lawyers and ended up with a mediator who said that I couldn't ask him to do that, as that was covered in the child support. (minimal as well). Doesn't matter he gets part of MY military retirement just for being married to me for six years, he didn't help with the kids, didn't work for two years, had affairs and was abusive. Am I bitter? Probably, and it burns me that he doesn't choose to help out in the extra activities (sports) that the kids do. Good luck, but if you go back to court, they will probably say that is what child support is for.
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I'm a non-custodial parent, and the court order I'm under states that any extra-curricular activities should be split 50/50. However, my ex wanted to let my son have private golf lessons at $75 each, and I said no, because it was a frivolous expense for a child who was only 7 at the time, and who barely picks up the club now. Be mindful of your ex's situation, because although you parent in separate homes, you still co-parent.
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agree with SErina, never speak badly or blame the other parent children. He is not a bad person if he can no longer afford to pay for something. You never know down the road if he will make up in other ways. Try to be flax and understanding. Raising kids together isn't exact science :)
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You receive child support. That is supposed to cover the expenses of the children. If the amount goes down as a result of your ex's new job, you and the children need to discuss the situation and live within your means. Why make your ex the bad guy in this? Divorce effects everyone and the children need to know that they have to learn to accept the new life you all have. Balance and moderation are a part of life. Have each child pick one or 2 activities that they enjoy and pay for those from the child support payments you receive. If there are others that they want to participate in, have them find a way to earn extra money to pay for it or have them put it on their Christmas or Birthday gift list. They will appreciate it more in the long run and you will be teaching them a very valuable life lesson.
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Help! Here it is New Years Eve and I am frantically searching the web for child support ans. Please someone help. I live in NYS with my husband of 11 years and our two children ages 11 and 7. Recently my child was approached by a child (age 17) stating that his mother told him my husband was his father(Yeah, Mery Christmas to us, Huh?) My husband admits that he had relations with the women around the time in question. He thinks a blood test is only fair and resonable to put an end to all questions. ( I don't agree, but thats another story) My question is: If he is the father and now they want child support does he owe support from the date the child was born or from the date he became aware that he was the father??? Please help. Lynn
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I have a question regarding the agreement my ex and I have
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i haven't gotton money from the father at all this month what should i do
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Mother, if you consider having sex with him perhaps he may just pay the child support. Try that!
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is this a chat room
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I CURRENTLY OWE CHILD SUPPORT I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW MUCH AND WHERE CAN I FIND THIS INFORMATION?
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Me and my ex had a hearing for modification for support he claims he needs to go out on disabilty he owes back support i had already gotten some of that. At the hearing i did not agree so now it's back to court .Now i had receive another complaint for support by him what does that me even know we are going for the hearing that i did not agree with.Thank You
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My kids father was striped from his income taxes refund for child support? Am i intitled to that money and if so who do i contact for it.
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has he been good about paying support in the past? If so then he most likly is having the support reveiwed becuase he dosen't think he can afford to pay what he was before. If I were you I would sit down with him before the new child support is set and say " if it is very low is there any way that you can help out more when the kids have a activity. If he can great! if he can't look for programs in your area that help kids pay for shoes/ uniforms or the cost of enrolement for the sport or activites. There are many out there becuase of the studis that show kids are more likly to stay out of trouble if they are in activites . If you can't get any help then ask your kids what activites they would be willing to drop or replace for cheaper ones. You might be surprised to fing that there are some that they would be wiling to drop with out much thought. I wouldn't tell them that they can't be in them becuase their dad isn't helping out as much as he should. I think that would cause unnessasary hurt fealings. good luck.
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I have a question about child support and taxes .... My ex is being a jerk always trying to prove me wrong, but this time I really don't know that I am right, though I think I am. Is anyone up for talking?
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As you stated you and your ex have "other" children, When more children are in the mix, your ex should have had a hearing to re-evaluate his support to you, support is based on many factors and one of them is the number of children involved that need support.
Your ex has a lower paying job now and it is very appropriate for a re-evalutation. You say that your ex attends his childrens extra-curricular activities, this is a sign of a father that cares and loves his children. My father never would allow me to join any outside activities that cost money; ie, boy scouts, football, nothing at all. He never took me to a movie, or played pitch and catch. He did take me to a colledge football game once, but he stopped by a hookers house to have sex while I waited in this strange persons living room. Sounds like to me he is a very good father, he does have more children to spread the support over. You also have more children to spread your finance's over. What you are worried about is that if your support from him is dimminished, you will have less for your newer children, or that you will keep up whatever activities for the newer children have, and have to cut back on your ex's children. It's a terrible choice. You asked if it would be fair to ask him to help or split the cost's for the children from your marriage with him. It's absolutely .........."Fair", ................ "To Ask",............. to demand Totally Foul Play, and any type of "Emotional Blackmail" would be totally out of line. Life isn't always about making kids happy, taking responsible care of them is. This would be an important "life Lesson for them, in that when we as humans do things we can't afford, they get repossessed, taken away, we have to re adjust to what we can afford. It may juts keep your children a wake up call that life isn't about being a ........ Human doing, ......... and really more about being a ........"human being". Humans have got some crazy idea that we need to be doing something all the time, shopping at the mall, going on vacation, going to church, going to whatever, and it all involves spending money. My baby mamma, eats out 6 nights a week, my daughter is in a private school, they are always at WalMart, buying useless stuff. She drives a 2005 Toyota that costs her over $450 a month, she is living way beyond her means and expects everyone else to pay for it. I want my daughter in public school, we have great public schools here, yet I don't have any imput. I warned her about buying the Toyota, and she is always having trouble paying for it. She also has full coverage insurance, which isn't cheap. I drive a 1995 Chevy pickup that I rebuilt for a total investment of $2000 and have to only buy liability insurance for around $550 a year. We think we "deserve" all this stuff out of life, yet we need to earn it, and then save it for a rainy day. You said little of your life style, at what level you live, well if your ex' has his ducks in a row for the hearing you will have less money coming in. Be civil and polite and ask him if he can still help with the kids activity costs, if his answer is, "I really can't", figure something else out, but never blame your ex, for what life has handed him. I had a job paying over 50k a year when my daughter was born and three years later the plant closed, and I had no job. At 43, I am only making about 12k to 15k and thats only because I work under the table and am paid cash, if tax's were taken out I would be one broke person, I am barely staying alive, and I have zero frills other than a movie evry now and then with my daughter, she's 7 so I could care less about the movie we are watching, it's just spending time with her. = |
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My ex owes over $24,000 in child support to my children. I know that saying no is hard, but the children are old enough to know that the reason they might not be able to do all the extra-curricular actitivies is because Dad's not paying his half. My own children did not get to play hockey when they were young for that reason. Let him explain to your children why they can't participate in the things they love.
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In the state of Iowa the support can only be reviewed by a judge every two years. If It does go in front of a judge request that he pays half of activeities (such as sports for the children) explain to the judge that you based your life around that set amount before and that you cant afford to have kids do sports if he doesn't help. Child support goes for "SHELTER" "FOOD" CLOTHING" etc.. Tell them that you spend it on that and the children really would like to be in sports. And see what the judge says.
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Well my b/f and I just had a son. And his ex wife lost her kids "THREE" times to DHS due to leaving the kids unattened. She going paid 120$ for four kids. and she got the three girls back in sept of 06. She took Us to court in march of 07 (a month before mine and his son was due) for child support and back child support. She was trying to get child support back from Sept when she got the kids. But I always told my b/f that you "NEED" to stand up for yourself and say what is on your mind. He did. And we only had to pay back child support from Jan of 07 instead of Sept of 06. We pay 298. a month for three girls. She lost the two younger girls in July of 07 because this was the third time she has left them home alone and got caught so they lived w/there father and I. They just return to her home in Nov 9,07. and in the first week she wasn't suppose to leave them w/her husband alone because he has two counts of child abuse against two of the girls. The "FIRST" week she had them back she wasn't home in time for the children and they were left alone w/her husband. DHS didn't do a thing about it. they just called her and confronted her and told her not to do it again. (She already knows that she shouldn't of done it. my god she is 40 years old??? Is she really that stupid that she can figure that out if its in the papers from DHS!!! I mean I even knew it. .so she pays us 92.00 a month. And we pay her 298.00 a month. We have two children half time w/her and she has one child full time and two half time. I dont understand why she is paying us and why we are paying her ALMOST 300.00$ for ONE child that is going to be 17 in july and has a job. umm. doesn't sound right. Miss E. I think you should contact child support recovery and ask them or tell them that he is in the guard and see what they say tell them how long he has been in there. Because your children should recieve some kindof vetreans insurance or something if there awhere of it.
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Vicky I'm not sure what state you live in but in the state of iowa on the child support web site https://childsupport.dhs.state.ia.us/welcome.asp you can find a chart that tell you a percentage that you will pay on your and the others income
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Soke I have a job Raising five kids. Four are my b/f's w/his ex and one is mine. It takes A LOT out of you expectly my youngest is 10 months today. So you say us "MOM'S" have to get a job. Some of us work two to three job plus, college, raising children while a lot of what you so called "FATHERS" sit on there ass and have them EVERY OTHER Weekend. Wow you work umm what 40 hrs a week? Try working "EVERY min of the day. If you have kids that's what your doing it "NEVER" stops.
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be glad your getting something,, my children are owed over 29K and the courts and bench warrent division wont do a thing about it , even though he has lived in the same home for over 10 years
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Do I have to pay any child support before we are divorced?
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Check out the kids deserve support Jaki's Law petition on care2.com
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i am 38 years old now and just found out who my real father is. Is there any way i could get my child support for my first 18 years of life
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i give her money all the time for child support 300$ here 200$ there. i gave her 300$ 2 weeks ago. i gave her 500$ last month am i wrong if i dont give her money?
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I am wondering if he fell into hard times. I don't know who would take a cut in pay unless he is a deadbeat dad. Sounds like the two of you are raising your children together. Sounds like a beautiful thing to me. Give it some time and see if the child support goes down. If it does, wait and see what happens. Please don't become the type of parents that makes hurting the other parent a priority. It's about the children and working as hard as you can to make sure your children become loving, caring adults. We have enough sadness going on in this world with our families. Pray about it and your answer will come. And put yourself in his shoes. I wouldn't tell you I lost my job if I did...think about it. Flip side, if he did like my son father has done for 14 years...quit jobs when the first child support check was deducted...then that's a different story. You have to stand your grand and do not waver. I wavered with the court orders and it wasn't best for our child.
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I'm in the process of getting marry next month, will this afect my child support? Does my new hubsband salary be taken in consideration?
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Victoria---No...your new hubby's income will not be a factor in child support. It will always be based on yours & your x's income.
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I've been fighting for custody for almost 5 years now.....the judge issued 4 drug test already and he has failed them all.....so why are they still giving him a chance to hurt my daughter......I think its my lawyer!!!!any suggestions?
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I RECIEVED ORDERS FOR CHILD SUPPORT I HAVE TWO DAUGHTERS MY OLDEST DAUGHTER I AM NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR MY YOUNGEST ONE HER MOTHER PUT ME ON CHILD SUPPORT. I ASKED THEM ALL OF THE RECIEPTS THAT I HAVE IVE BEEN PROVIDING FOR BOTH OF MY CHILDREN WHENEVER THEY NEED SOMETHING I GET IT NO QUESTIONS ASKED I WAS TOLD IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT I HAVE BEEN PROVIDING IF IT WASNT A MONEY ORDER MADE TO HER SAYING CHILD SUPPORT IT DOESNT EVEN COUNT NOW I HAVE BACK PAY AND AN AMOUNT EVERY MONTH THEY I KNOW I CANT PAY BECAUSE I ALSO HAVE TO PROVIDE FOR MY OTHER DAUGHTER IT IS CRAZY HOW SOME WOMAN CHILD SUPPORT IS ALL THEY LIVE OFF OF I NEVER FELT COMFORTABLE GIVING HER THE MONEY BECAUSE ALL SHE WILL DO IS SNORT IT AWAY AND DEPT OF CHILDREN AND FAMILIES CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT UNLESS THEY CATCH HER IN THE ACT SO WHAT AM I TO DO I AM TRYING MY BEST WHILE SHE SITS ON HER BEHIND COLLECTING FOOD STAMPS UP TO 500.00 DOLLARS A MONTH SHE LIVES OFF HUD PAYING 50.00 A MONTH AND SHE WORKS PART TIME COLLECTS MONEY FROM HER OTHER DAUGHTERS FATHER WHAT CAN I DO . SHES BEEN ON ASSISTANCE FOR THE PAST 15 YEARS AND STILL HAS NOT MADE A MOVE TO TRY AND BETTER HERSELF. IM BARELY MAKING IT MYSELF AFTER PROVIDING FOR BOTH OF MY CHILDREN AND NOW SHE WANTS MORE I AM REALLY LIVING PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK BUT NOW I AM STUCK HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR A SECOND JOB NO LUCK THEY REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND ALOT OF US FATHERS ARE TRYING SOMETIMES WE JUST HAVE OUR BACK AGAINST THE WALL SHE WONT EVEN LET MY CHILD COME TO MY HOUSE AND ITS WRONG I BABYSAT HER CHILDREN WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER BUT I CANT BABYSIT MY OWN DAUGHTER SHE CANT EVEN SPEND TIME WITH HER OLDER SISTER AND IT IS WRONG BUT THE SYSTEM IS IN HER FAVOR .
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I have a question for any of you to answer. My wife and I are on the verge of breaking up. This past Friday she was arrested and charged with domestic assault against me. I did not call the police; she did. She called them because after she hit me in the face, I left the room so she couldn't hit me again, because I knew that if I would have stayed, I would have seriuosly hurt her. Well, went do stairs and locked the door behind me so she couldn't follow me. That's when she got mad and said, "since you don't want to talk, I'm calling the cops and your azz is going to jail tonight." She said she was going to tell them that I choked her. I told her she was crazy, and that she would be the one going to jail, not me. Well, the police came and arressted her. When she return home early Saturday morning. I stayed at a friends house with my boy. When I returned home that morning, she asked if I would let our 2yr old son spend some time with her, I said yes because I didn't think it would have been right for me to not let her spend time with her own son. While I was out running errands I came back home to find that she had left with our son. She also took 2000.00 out of the bank account. Now I don't know where she is and although I've spoken to her on the phone, she refuses to let me see my son. What should I do?
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can my ex wife get in trouble for keeping my kids tax return for two years
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My fiance pays 350.00 a week for his six year old daughter. His ex-wife now works only two days a week, just bought a brand new Toyota Fore Runner, Florida every winter, and whenever he picks his daughter up, she's dressed in RAGS. Sooooooo frustrating.
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it all depends on who has primary custody I think. If it's all 50/50, and they are split placed, but he's only paying you cause he happens to make more $$ than you, then as long as he pays, that's what it's for, and you shouldn't ask him. Some judges make the guy still pay even though it's joint custody, just cause they happen to make more, and that's not fair. but if during the review he doesn't have to pay at all, then yes, you should discuss the bills for the kids be split 50/50.
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hello
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