Name: prettywoman Title: Evil Ex Wife

Hi everyone! I am very new to this forum! Wow I had no idea that there are so many others dealing with similar situation when it comes to dealing with an evil ex wife.

We are dealing with a psycho of an ex wife literally. She stalks my husband and has been for 4 years now. My husband is in the military and she even tracked him down when he was deployed. She calls his bosses and lies about things. Luckily my husbands always has proof that he is doing everything right so far as paying child support on time etc.
She tells lies to everyone that listens to her.
My husband's father side of the family have decided to join forces with her which is unbelieveable to me. I do not get this at all.
I have pretty muh stayed out of this however sometimes I just can't be silent and I have let her know that her behavior is unacceptable to me and she has overstepped my boundaries.

She clearly never liked me. I have given her no reason to other then to get married to her ex.

She is not over him that is very clear to me.
Now she is engaged to some other guy. She is having this guys baby in about a month and she still stalks my husband.
She uses my husband's daughter by denying visitations and alienating the little girl from her father as well as me.

Luckily the little girl loves and adores her father as well as me.
My husband's daughter is 7 years old.

We recently found out that she is abusing that ittle girl which we are trieing to do something about it. She abuses her mentially, pgysicially and verbally.

Gosh I would have to write pages to tell all the stuff that I witnessed.

So I aam going to make it short.

My husband and I have a very loving and strong relationship. I am so Blessed with him.

Now I would like to contact her fiancee and clue him in. He has no idea what is truly going on. He only comes to stay with her over the weekends and is in another state 5 days a week.
My husband had contacted him once and he told my husband that he was asked by my husband's ex to stay out of it and to not speak with us. Hmm wonder why?

Stay out of it? right , he is about to be in the middle of it if and when they get married.
I like to tell this man that his fiancee stalks my husband and that she is herassing us.

I do not know if this is a bad move or not? I just am fed up with this woman.

I know I kinda wrote a little about everything keeping it short but the main thing is that we are being stalked by his ex and just need some advice.

Thank you  ?

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Name: Trying2cope • Date: 04/29/2008 19:21:13

prettywoman- I don't suggest telling the X's fiancee what she's really about as he will find out soon enough. Better to let him find out another way than to be the one to tell him and give her ammunition, since of course she will find a way to blame you when he bolts out the door and out of her life. She can only play this nice role with him so long before she shows her true self, fangs and all. Like you, my hubby's X hates me for the simple fact that I married her X, I haven't given her a reason to hate me personally, unless you believe the things my hubby's stepson tells her. We went to mediation only to find out all his friends hate their stepmom's so he decided to hate me too and try to get rid of me. But that's a whole different conversation thread! I know you feel badly for the unsuspecting fiancee, but really, I think it best to concentrate on keeping her at arm's reach so she understands where her boundaries are with you. Not to say she'll obey them, especially if she suffers from the "X Syndrome" many of us forum posters know about. Good Luck !  =

Name: prettywoman • Date: 04/29/2008 20:44:21

ty trying and I think that you are correct. Ty so much for your input!  =