Hello!
I'm a teacher and I have been married for two and 1/2 years to a wonderful man whom I met back in the country where I'm from while he wastransfered there by the company he works for here in the US..
Ok. He has two children from a previous marriage whom I accepted from the very beginning just like he accepted my 13 year old daughter. His ex-wike is a woman full on rage, venom, envy and she is evil.
At the very beginning of our relationship 5 years ago, I was very loving with his children and once the older kid told her mother that her brother called mr "mom" and loved me very much, the ex went bizarre and started manipulating the kids minds against my husband, my daughter and me.
Every other weekend for the last 21/2 years, The kids would arrive with attitudes and the younger boy telling nasty things to my daughter, the older girl stealing my daughters' personal belongings, you name it!
Anyways, my husband tried to deal with all these issues in the best possible manner but I know he is scared to face her because of the manipulations and the law. He would even travel during the weekend when he was abroad to follow his visitation rights and she wouldn't allow him to see the children at all because" she didn't want him to"???
Anyways, I have been affected emotionally big time because I'm not used to having to deal with courts, police, etc. and she wants to file complaints and take him to court for more $$ or for whathever reason she makes up. She is a complulsive liar who cheated on my husband and then asked for forgiveness and wanted him back and he said "no".
Once I moved here when she saw me physically the first time, she started manipulating even more and everything would affect my husband and of course our relationship as well. Every week was a bill, a complaint, the kids with an attitude and it has come to the issue of her MAKING up that mu husband and I "physically discipline" the 8 year-old boy and filed a legal complaint against both of us.
Once again, my husband had to spend $$ in an attorney ( money that we don't have to spare) and it has gotten to the point where I'm scared of being around the children and can't stand this situation.
I'm scared, I have worked very hard to raise my daughter on my own and she is a high honor roll student and I don't want this to affect her. This is ALL beyond my control and I feel my husband hasn't stepped up because of his fear of the retaliation (emotional) and I have decided to divorce him and go back to my country since this woman is soo evil and I fear for my career and my security.
Am I doing the right thing? ↓
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