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Name: kesh95

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I have been married for 12yrs, have 3 younger children (youngest is 4)..My husband is 17yrs older than me, we got married after I found out I was pregnant with our first child when I was 20yrs old. I always thought things would be better when we got older, but that is no where near the truth! We have nothing in common except our children, I can honestly say I am not "in love" with him any more. I don't care to share time with him. We don't share any of the same interests. Now as why I feel "stuck" I do in home child care and in my state everything (regardless of who's name is on what) gets split 50/50..which would mean I would our house would have to be sold (cause I dont havet the money to give him half the equity)...I would really love to move back to my home town, but have virtually no one there to help me get on my feet...I want to continue to do child care but again affraid because it took me a good 2yrs to get my child care business up and going smoothly! I REALLY JUST WISH HE WOULD LEAVE BUT HE REFUSES! ↓

Name: kesh95 | Date: Sep 27th, 2009 11:07 PM

Also he is very controlling! If I get a text he thinks I am cheating, if I am checking my email he thinks im cheating...if he calls my cell and I don't answer, he thinks I am cheating...I have absolutely NO friends, not even girlfriends because majority of the time I am not able to leave the house with out at least one of my children with me! If he goes out of town, he will call constantly to see what I am doing! About 9months ago we got into a heated conversation, during that conversation he told me that he that he "loved me, but was no longer in love with me" then when I told him I felt as though I was the only one trying in our marriage he told me "well why don't you just stop trying so hard"! Honestly that is when things changed for me...I did, I stopped trying....and totally turned the other way...when I did ask him for a divorce, he instantly changed his mind and seems to be doing everything he can to hold on to me...but one BIG problem, I have made up my mind, I WANT OUT! ↑