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My poor husband has two daughters from a previous marriage. He is a lovelly daddy to both of his children but for years his hands have been tied. Ex wife had an affair and left my husband 11 years ago their girls are now 13 and 18. For years she lived in the same villiage as us and over the years has become an embarrasment to us and the girls. Her affair didnt last longer than 6 months once she had left my husband and things went down hill for her fom then. I met my husband 6 years after they had broken up. My husband always paid maintanance for the girls and tons extra on top. 4 months ago ex decides she doesnt want to live in our villiage anymore and the children can move in with us. She went to live 500 miles away and the poor girls were left at our door. This woman has found ways over the years not to get a job and has spent what seems like every waking hour thinking of ways my husband can pay for her. My husband stopped paying her maintanance the day she left. Needless to say we did not receive a penny from her in maintanance. 2 months after she had left, the youngest daughter says she misses her mum and wants to go live with her. Her mum agrees to collect her but because we refuse to pay her fuel to travel back down for her she asks the 13 year old to hand over her birthday money which the poor child does! 4 weeks later my husband starts maintanance again for the youngest. Ex wife is not happy and wants the previous weeks to be back paid or "she will take it further"! My poor husband is fuming as she never paid us a penny from the day she left and is sick of her threats. Over the years she has borrowed money from us and our family (pleading poverty) never repaid, has lied to child support to get more money from them just to name but a few. My step daughters while living with her never had a clean home or clean clothes she never took them anywhere or spent time helping with homework. They always arrived to our house dirty, hungry and unhappy looking. The eldest who still lives with us tells us that her mum was angry with her for not going to further education because maintanance would be lost and "what would she do without the money" ex even asked her daughter to lie to her dad and tell him she was going to college so he would still have to pay the ex! My head is ready to explode! Not only am I worried about the youngest and the effect this is having on her sister being seperated. My husband's heart is broken as we cannot afford to travel to see the youngest before xmas if we back pay the ex! anyone have any ideas? ↓
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