Until 2 weeks ago we had a marriage/family that everyone admired, even us. We have made it through the toughest financial times and came out with no arguments over money and always found a way to love each other.
May 31, 2010 my wife kissed another man on a cruise she took her mother on for her 60th birthday. She came home and tearfully apologized and told me she would never want me to leave her over this and she knew it was a mistake because she was drinking ans so on. I wholeheartedly forgave her and vowed to move on with our lives as if it never happened.
3 days later things started getting uncomfortable around the house so I sat her down again to explain that I forgave her as God forgives us, unconditionally. Before I had the chance to explain, she said she was not sure she wanted to be with me anymore! We immediately met with our Pastor and that evening was UNBELIEVABLE for both of us.
The next few days she did everything she could not to come home. I didnt understand how after such a wonderful night, she would rather be away from our family. She explained to me that she was a changed person from who she was when she was 25 (8 years ago) when we met and she doesn't like who she is now because she changed for me.
She says when this man kissed her she realized I didn't get her that excited anymore when I kissed her because it was not as passionate. By the way he sent a mass email to a bunch of people trying to find her and did, unfortunately we share an email account so I got the email responded and he said he didn't want her, he kissed her to try to sleep with her and told us good luck fixing our marriage now.
My wife says she loves me and is completely attracted to me and all and she is not sure if she wants to take our 6 and 9 year old boys away from such a great dad but she wants spice in her life again. She is unwilling to say anything except she is confused about how she thought things were so wonderful and now she is unsure. She wants space and its hard for me to give that to her because I am too scared to lose her.
What do I do, and how did this become my fault after she cheated? ↓
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