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Hi I just came upon your website and it seems great. I am in need of advice from step-moms who are in my situation. I am so frustrated and feel at the end of my rope. I am married to a great guy who has two daughters from a previous marriage, a 9y/o and a 6y/o. I have my own 11y/o from a previous marriage. He has joint custody and we have his girls every other week for a week at a time. They are great and we have a very loving relationship. My daughter, the 11y/o, likes the oldest step-sister very much but hates the youngest one. I think mainly because of jealousy over her usually receiving the bulk of the attention from pretty much every adult in her family other than me. That is very stressful in itself and my daughter really does not like my husband very much I think because she doesn't like anyone who takes my attention from her. Anyway, all of that is stressful enough on the weeks we have his girls, but their bio-mom is the kind who wears very skimpy revealing clothing we when take the girls back, she tries to manipulate the girls, she has said some bad things about me that the girls have repeated to me, and she tries to get jabs at me while trying to be sweet at the same time. It was bad enough that I had to see her two times a week, on the day we take them back to her and the one night a week on our week that she has dinner with them. Now out of the blue she has started calling them every day on the weeks we have them. She has NEVER done this in the five years we have been in this situation and although she certainly has every right, I feel there is an underlying motive, i.e., she is trying to irritate me, she wants to make sure the girls think of her at least once a day while they are with us, or maybe she just is insecure. Any advice would really be appreciated. I am on the verge of going into therapy over this. ↓
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