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Name: StepFamily Right & Responsibil
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1. I will be a part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
2. I have every right to my feelings and to express them in a respectful manner.
3. I will NOT be responsible for the welfare if children for whom I can set no limits
4. I must be consulted about children that are living with or visiting us, whom they can visit and when, etc.
5. I will not be solely responsible for housework, chores will be distributed equally and fairly. 6. I will be consulted in all matters concerning this family.
7. Others may not violate my private space, nor take or use any of my possessions without my permission.
8. I will NEVER be treated as dirt in my own Home.
9. My stepchildren will ALWAYS treat me with respect, even if they don't like me.
10. I have the right to my privacy regarding all issues.
11. I have the right to choose what a child is allowed to call me, or not call me.
12. I will be consulted about all financial issues regarding this family i.e. child travel, schooling etc, as long as it affects me too.
13. We will never discuss marital issues in front of children, nor will we disagree about discipline in front of children. We will Always show a united front and discuss later out of earshot of child our disagreement.
Our marriage is our FIRST priority, and we will address all issues together.
The Biological Parent’s Bill of Rights
1. I will be a part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
2. I have every right to my feelings and to express them in a respectful manner.
3. I will NOT be undermined in my parenting decisions of the children.
4. I must be consulted about plans involving children that are living with or visiting us, whom they can visit and when, etc.
5. I will not be solely responsible for car maintenance, house repairs, yard work; chores will be distributed equally and fairly.
6. I will be consulted in all matters concerning this family.
7. Others may not violate my private space, nor take or use any of my possessions without my permission.
8. I will NEVER be treated as dirt in my own Home.
9. My children will ALWAYS treat me with respect.
10. I have the right to my privacy regarding all issues.
11. I have the right to expect my children to call me dad or some variation of dad.
12. I will be consulted about all financial issues regarding this family.
13. We will never discuss marital issues in front of children, nor will we disagree about discipline in front of children. We will Always show a united front and discuss later out of earshot of child our disagreement.
Our marriage is our FIRST priority, and we will address all issues together.
The StepChild’s Bill of Rights
1. I will be allowed to discuss and make suggestions in the decision making process for things that directly involve me, i.e. my schooling, my visitations, etc.
2. I have every right to my feelings and to have them addressed to learn to express them in a respectful way.
3. I have the right to have limits that are set within reason and basic enough that I can understand and follow them.
4. I must be allowed and/or earn reasonable “privileges” while living with or visiting, i.e. whom I can visit and when, etc.
5. I will not be solely responsible for housework, chores will be distributed equally and fairly.
6. Others may not violate my private space, nor take or use any of my possessions without my permission or reasonable suspicions.
7. I will NEVER be treated as dirt in my own Home.
8. I have the right for my father’s home to feel like my own home.
9. My parent and stepparent will ALWAYS treat me with respect, even if they don't like me.
10. I have the right to my privacy within reasonable limits.
11. I have the right to be part of the process of choosing what I am allowed to call, or not call my stepparent.
12. I have the right to be completely oblivious of financial issues, marital issues, etc. unless I am a direct cause of such issues. i.e. asking for too much additional stuff. NOT child support, etc.
13. If I am the cause of above issues I have the right to be involved in a discussion regarding them in an unthreatening manner.
14. I have the right to believe my biological parents are the best people in the world.
Our family is our FIRST priority, and we will address as many issues together as possible.
The Stepparent's Responsibilities
1. I will be an active part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
2. I will express my feelings in a respectful manner.
3. I will set resonable limits and goals for my stepchildren, spouse, family and myself
4. I will be conscious of consulting my spouse (and stepchildren when appropriate) about children that are living with or visiting us, whom they can visit and when, etc.
5. I will do my fair share of chores without complaint.
6. I will consult everyone involved in all matters concerning this family.
7. I will not violate others' private space, nor take or use any of their possessions without permission.
8. I will NEVER treat others as dirt in their own Home.
9. I will ALWAYS treat my stepchildren with respect, even if I don't like them.
10. I will respect my spouse and stepchildren's (within reason) right to privacy regarding all issues.
11. I will compromise and come to a fair determination of what a child is allowed to call me, or not call me.
12. I will discuss openly all financial issues regarding this family i.e. child travel, schooling etc, as long as it affects me too.
13. We will never discuss marital issues in front of children, nor will we disagree about discipline in front of children. We will Always show a united front and discuss later out of earshot of child our disagreement.
Our marriage is our FIRST priority, and we will address all issues together.
The Biological Parent’s Responsibilities
1. I will be a part of the decision making process in my marriage and family at all times.
2. I have every right to my feelings and to express them in a respectful manner.
3. I will be responsible for my children's actions and the consequences administered.
4. I will be conscious of consulting my spouse (and children when appropriate) about children that are living with or visiting us, whom they can visit and when, etc.
5. I will do my fair share of chores without complaint.
6. I will consult everyone involved in all matters concerning this family.
7. I will not violate others' private space, nor take or use any of their possessions without permission.
8. I will NEVER treat others as dirt in their own Home.
9. I will always treat my children with respect.
10. I will respect my spouse and children's (within reason) right to privacy regarding all issues.
11. I will act worthy of being called dad or mom and not try to be my children's "buddy".
12. I will discuss openly all financial issues regarding this family i.e. child travel, schooling etc.
13. We will never discuss marital issues in front of children, nor will we disagree about discipline in front of children. We will Always show a united front and discuss later out of earshot of child our disagreement.
Our marriage is our FIRST priority, and we will address all issues together.
The StepChild’s Responsibilities
1. I will abide by the decisions made in family discussions even if they were not my suggestions.
2. I do my best to learn to express my feelings in a respectable manner.
3. I will abide by the limits set for me and accept the consequences gracefully for testing the limits.
4. I will do my best to maintain and/or earn reasonable “privileges” while living with or visiting, i.e. whom I can visit and when, etc.
5. I will do my fair share of chores without complaint.
6. I will be respectful of all discussions and issues involving the family.
7. I will NEVER treat others as dirt in their own Home.
8. I have the right for my father’s home to feel like my own home.
9. I will always treat my parent and stepparent with respect.
10. I will respect other's privacy.
11. I will compromise and come to a fair determination of what I am allowed to call, or not call my stepparent.
12. I will not butt my nose into financial and/or marital issues.
13. If I am the cause of above issues I will do whatever I can to help come to a reasonable solution.
14. I will accept the fact that even if I think my other parent is the best person in the world, there are at least 2 other people who care for me and deserve to be acknowledge sometimes.
Our family is our FIRST priority, and we will address as many issues together as possible. ↓
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| Name: DANIELLE | Date: Apr 23rd, 2006 7:12 PM |
| My husband and I have been separated for 3yr. I made one requset of him, that is do not introduce uor children to (thes three month girlfriends) My children are young and Ii don't want them getting attacted to these peple to have them leave there live shortly after. I he agreed at the time but no longe respects that wish --- He's in his mid 30" and his interest seem to be in young 20 somethings that have much more maturing to do, and children are not one of their proirities. Any suggestions of working around this matter in a peaceful manner ? ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 3:56 AM |
Hi Danielle
Tell him that you are thinking of the kids and are worried that they will get attached to these (LADIES?) and then they wil be the ones to get hurt. Alos tell him that the kids think they are being introduce to the furture Step mother.Ask him if he could at least wait 6 months before he introduces them to the kids Or the very least when he becomes more seriuos with them.
That is the nice way... I would call a lawyer and see if anything could be done legally . If it is possable I would say look I do not want to take you to court over this but I will if I have to..
If you can not do anything leagalu talk to the kid about the dating and remind them that the father maynot be seriuos about the ladies..the also depends on the age of the childern
Maybe you both could talk to them together???
http://www.geocities.com/histigerlily this is a helpful web I found
Best of luck ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: May 14th, 2006 1:29 AM |
| Daniell how is it going? ↑ |
| Name: Mell | Date: May 19th, 2006 4:08 AM |
| WoW this is great Thanks Serina!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 4:21 AM |
| Name: Linda S | Date: Sep 14th, 2006 9:40 PM |
| This is awsome ya know! I am printin it out now!!! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 12:39 AM |
| BUmp Thought ya might want to see this again ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 3:23 AM |
| Bump for Brook w sorry this islong but helpful ↑ |
| Name: BrookeW | Date: Nov 11th, 2006 2:36 AM |
| Serina~ is this what you wanted me to see? yeah it all makes sense, and i agree with most of it. i should print it out and put it on my fridge lol. do you have step children? or are you a step mom? ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 4:27 PM |
Hi Brooke
Yes I am a step mother of 2 bay soon to be 15 now and a step daughter soon to be 13.
I actually printed this out and did put it on the fridge..we no loger need it but it was a real help!!! ↑ |
| Name: BrookeW | Date: Nov 13th, 2006 3:15 AM |
| Serina~ do you have any kids of your own? how was it becoming a stepmother? how are the kids towards you? i am sorry to ask so many questions, let me know if your not interested.. i am just extremely curious. thank you for your time and consideration. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: May 10th, 2007 2:09 AM |
| Name: Serina S | Date: May 10th, 2007 2:10 AM |
| Sorry Brook I am not on much I havve 2 step kids and we all get along great. No I do not have any kids of mine own just them. ↑ |
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