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Name: girli_bird

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my husband and I have desided that we will file for a divorce. It has been along time coming but for the best of every one we have waited until now. this is becuase of many things. His kids mom wasn't that envolved in their life until now. I am in school.He had to repair is credit so he could have things in his name once we seperated And last we could pay down our debts so it would make it easier to be on our own. Well after this summer we will be there. So my question is would it be ok to have a male freind, and when i say friend I mean freind that you have just meet.
Although the marrige is pretty much over I WOULD NOT cheat. I would feel wrong. But i would hate to pass up the chance of a new freindship when a rarely realte to people or make new friends. please help. ↓

Name: stevie | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 2:24 AM

just be carefyull, friends r great to have durring ruff times. ↑

Name: girli_bird | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 4:44 AM

ok should i be out it the open with it or kind of keep it under raps. I don't thimk that he would be ok with it no matter what is was, even though he doesn't want to be with me any more. ↑

Name: tb4 | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 5:53 AM

It might be a wise choice to keep your new relationship with the male friend under wraps for a little while longer. Explain to your new friend your going through a divorce and for the sake of hurt feelings for you and your soon to be ex. Have you filed for divorce or are you in the process? If you've already filed or have been served papers it still may be best not to display anyone new in your life just yet. It will save you from hearing negative talk even though it's totally innocent. I wouldn't discuss your feelings for this fella with too many people because they, too might get the wrong impressions. However, if your new male friend is aware of your situation, I'm sure he will understand your reason to take the relationship very slow. Only you know what's best and there is nothing wrong with talking to this person but you don't want to give off any wrong impressions of looking to meet someone else as a reason for a divorce. Too many other people jump to the wrong conclusions and you have to ask yourself if that is something you are willing to go through. However, if you take things slow and you have nothing to lose through your divorce, it will all work out for you. It will save you alot of headache and heartaches by keeping things quiet for the time being. At least until you get somethings finalized legally. ↑

Name: girli_bird | Date: Feb 13th, 2007 6:11 AM

no we haven't filled we are waitng until june, for money reasons. plus I will be done with school and right now all the utilities are in my name and for him to be able to get then in his name he has to be able to pay off some things that he had before we were married, which we have been working on. ↑