| well, is this his first child? my fiance doesnt really "play" with the baby either. i love to talk to my stomach but i feel like he doesnt pay enough attention to it. i mean, dont get me wrong, he's happy to be a dad but he's not as focused on it as i am. i think he's just sitting back for the ride until the realy prize comes. they dont know how it feels to have your baby roll around and stuff inside of you. i think that when he is a dad, he will come around, dont get him a book though, let him learn from the experience. the baby's not even here yet. ↑ |
| I remember when I was pregnant with my son there were times when I felt alone because I felt like he wasn't as engrossed in learning everything about the baby and my body during pregnancy. So I understand how you're feeling. However, I agree with Heather. You might be setting yourself up for disappointment if you buy the book and he doesn't do more than read a few pages to appease you. Let him feel his way through this and you do the same. Good luck. ↑ |
| I guess it is different for everyone, but I bought my husband a book. It is our first pregnancy and it was a surprise. We are both 25 and he didnt know a thing about what to expect so I bought him a book for fathers-to-be. He actually did take the time to read it and felt much more informed and part of the pregnancy because he knew what to expect and what was happening. I say buy the book. What's the worst that could happen?...he doesnt read it?..so what! He might appreciate being informed and able to read at his own pace without having to wonder. ↑ |
| Kristina--If you want, you can buy him a book and wrap it up and leave it in the bathroom.....That is where most men read anyway!I leave my books in there and I have caught my husband reading them....Buy one for him and wrap it up and out his name on it. Maybe he would enjoy that? ↑ |
| Thank you guys for the advice. I talked to Kevin and he said that he wants to know what's going on but didn't say yes or no to the book. I might buy it, leave it in the bathroom (thank you Sara D.) and let him make the decision after that. ↑ |
| Hi Kristina i thought i would write you back to kind of let you know from a guy's prospective. first i understand how your boyfriend feels about being left out. i felt that way for a while at first. my mother brought me two valuable books that i think would help him out a lot. the first book is what to expect when expecting. i know that it is geared towards women but i have learned so much from this book.. and the other book is my wife is having a baby.. and i am having a breakdown. this book explains things from a guys perspeective to let guys out there know that what they are feeling they are not alone.. i hope this helps.. ↑ |
| Kristina I have to say I think its really important for kevin to be there for you when you need him and to understand what your going thru. My wife and I have had 2 miscarriages and today we found out that we are pregnant again with 9 week baby who has a heart beat like an ox. my wife and \I have been thru alot but it was thru her telling me what she felt and when she felt it etc. I'm sure if there is books about he'll read them who knows you may read them together! he won't feel left out when your tell him everything your feeling. ↑ |
| Thank you guys. That helps out a lot! *grins* I never thought about us sitting down and reading them together. I'll go get those books this weekend. ↑ |
| well yeh if you think it will help or try taking him with you to scans...or showing him pictures of how big the baby is....i dont no he he there is ways to involve him! x ↑ |
