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I thought I would start a topic for people that have actually had abortions to see how they have felt after them.Like if they regret it, if they think about it in years to come etc.This would help people who are contemplating having an abortion make a helpful desicion. ↓
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| Name: wendy | Date: May 6th, 2006 4:23 AM |
| Yes it was the biggest regret of my life. I had the abortion when I was 14 and i was due in the November and every November I think about that baby how now it would be two and i really wish i knew if it was a boy or a girl and if it would have looked like me or its daddy. if i could turn back time there is no way i would of had it, i am still resentful at my parents and boyfriend at the time for making me so it. ↑ |
| Name: to wendy | Date: May 8th, 2006 12:37 AM |
| My mom shared with me a few years ago that she had an abortion when she was 17. She doesn't regret it b/c there was no way she could have properly raised the child. She thinks about it occasionally, but it isn't something that occupies every thought. No offese to Wendy, but what could you have offered a child? It's all a mindset...not to say it's the easiest thing in the world, but it's not the end of it. It's time to get ovvver your bitterness towards your parents and bf Wendy and learn from your mistakes. No one can force you to have an abortion, come to terms with your decision, there's no changing it now. ↑ |
| Name: pc | Date: May 8th, 2006 2:21 AM |
To the person who responded to Wendy,
First off, Wendy was posting this in response to a woman who is wondering if women regret their abortions. She did not post for you to counsel her on whether or not you think she is handling her Post Abortive Stress Syndrome well.
It's one thing to relate your own personal experience, it's another to get it second hand....even if it's from your own mother. I assure you, there are a good deal of things I gloss over in speaking to my young adult daughters when it comes to painful matters.
And if you think no one can force a 14 yr old to have an abortion, then you have lived a very nice life. Not everyone has had such privelages as to go through life thinking that they cannot be forced to do such things.
Wendy has suffered a valid loss of a child. Yes, she played a part of it, hence her seeing it as the biggest regret of her life. But she is not completely to blame. Not only does her parents and boyfriend shoulder much of the responsibility to the damage that has been done to Wendy and her child, but we as society shoulder some of the responsibility. For we have allowed a minority to convince us that abortion is about a choice, not about human life.
Women who suffer an abortion, even if it is completely without pressure (which is a rare woman who willingly chooses an abortion, most are victims of pressure when they are most vulnerable), only then afterwards discover it is not really about 'choice', but indeed about life and death. They suffer the loss of a child, worse, a loss that they willingly played a part in.
But the world will not acknowledge their loss. Nor does the world allow them to grieve. They tell them that is a choice they made, and that they simply have to "come to terms with your decision", and women like Wendy who are victims of abortion are simply put aside, not as mothers grieving the loss of their baby (which they are) but as women who simply made a bad decision which they now regret. There is a big difference in the two perceptions.
How about saying:
"Wendy, you have suffered a loss of your child. I grieve with your. I am sorry."
Wendy, I am sorry for your loss. I hope and pray that you find some peace and forgiveness. You may wish to check out this website:
www.rachelsvineyard.org. ↑ |
| Name: touched | Date: May 8th, 2006 4:59 AM |
| Thank you for sharing your story Wendy. Maybe it will help another woman in her considerations. ↑ |
| Name: wendy | Date: May 8th, 2006 6:22 AM |
| Thank you pc and touched for not putting me down or calling me a killer or anything like that. Not that you could make me feel any worse than I do if you did talk to me like that. I just wanted to share my story because if I could stop one person from doing what I did than its worth it. The person who posted To Wendy, my mum told me if I kept the baby I wouldnt have a home, I really wanted to keep that baby. My parents are financially stable, they could have helped me while I finished school, they just didnt want there friends to think I was a slut because it would have embarrased them. I will never get over my loss, ever. ↑ |
| Name: Please check out | Date: May 8th, 2006 9:15 PM |
| www.rachelsvineyard.org as on poster suggested. It help me so much!!! I understand. Please know you are not alone here. Even if you do not have much family support. ↑ |
| Name: janette (soon 2 be 17) | Date: May 9th, 2006 1:14 PM |
Yea I'm agree with you, wendy. I think I may be pregant because I haven't got my period for 58 days and I had sex with someone last month. I been feel so odd lately. I kept think about give it up for abortion if I'm pregant because it's best for me to get abortion because if I keep baby I would never finish high school and maybe not go to college. But I really want to finish high school, go to college then see the real world and start my career then get married and havew children. That's what I want to do for my future.
Yea, every girls think abortion is not big deal, well it is. I already regreted for have sex in first place at so young age. But don't be regret for give baby up for abortion but be regret for have sex in first place which you supposed to not have sex at young age. I will pray for you and to all girls who did same things as wendy did before. If you need to talk to me about anything....please contact me here my e-mail [email protected] ^_^
May god bless you all ↑ |
| Name: Katie to janette | Date: May 9th, 2006 1:16 PM |
| Hey I just found out i'm preggers lastnight want to talk on yahoo or aim ? ↑ |
| Name: janette to katie | Date: May 9th, 2006 1:18 PM |
| Yea sure! My aol sn is nicejessic. What is ur aol sn? ↑ |
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