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my sister in law got pregnant at the same time we did.As most of you know I miscarried a few months ago. We had the same due date. She is getting ready to have her baby. (also a boy) My brother and her have invited me to the birth but i just dont think i can go .... im really heartbroken right now and dont know what to tell them. i am happy for them but i just cant help but to feel like we should be getting ready for our son...i have been really depressed lately with the due date coming up and all i can do is cry.. any advice??? ↓
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| Name: mother2five | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 1:58 PM |
| First off I wanted to offer my condolences, that is rough. You will feel better about it in time, but if you just cannot do it, you do not need to feel obligated they need to appreciate the fact that this is a sad time for you as well as a happy as your going to be an aunt, but the birth could just be to overwhelming. Hope you get it sorted out, and don't beat yourself up to go if you just can't just be honest. ↑ |
| Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 2:02 PM |
| What a dilemma. I don't think you should go if you're not up for it. But you will need to go after the birth and see your little niece or nephew; I know it's tough but try not to connect your niece or nephew to your loss. Perhaps seeing the baby will actually help you. ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 10:06 PM |
| this is the second time ive had to deal with this. i also lost my first baby and it was the same situation. just a different little brother.lol. same due dates and everything. i chose not to go to the birth,but i went to see them in the hospital. i hate to say it but i actually hated his daughter for about the first year. i couldnt stand to even look at her.eventually i overcame that and i love her to death. it wasnt her fault. This time around they will be in the same hospital i was in with the same asshole doctor that my husband wants to kill.lol. i hope it isnt the same thing this time... i guess im just angry.. they didnt want their baby, she threw herself down the stairs to miscarry and everything. apparently she had twins and only miscarried one of them,,imagine their surprise when the pregnancy tests kept coming up positive (evil lol) i just dont know how ill feel seeing a baby boy knowing we were supposed to have one too. already told my brother i probably wouldnt be there and he understood only after my mom talked to him for about an hour..i was thinking of LOANING him my "what to expect series..lol what do yall think? ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 10:07 PM |
| thank you ladies XOXOX ;[ ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 11:05 PM |
If i was in your shoes, i would prob not go to watch the birth, but i would go the day of or the next day to at least see your brother, SIL and the baby!
sorry that you are in such a tough situation :( ↑ |
| Name: live.laugh0408 | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 11:21 PM |
| Man I am so sorry you are going through this. I understand the part where you are upset that they didnt even want the baby. doesnt is just make you mad when you meet a person and they are pregnant but dont want it ? And here you are trying so hard to become pregnant??? It just iirks me everytime I hear a story like that. Im sorry Friend...im here to help want my email address? or let me have yours.? I like you cause you understand the situation that I am in when it comes to inter-racial couples..so I feel like we have stuff in common. let me kno :/ ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 6th, 2008 11:41 PM |
liv-tHANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SUPPORT. AND YES IVE THOUGHT ABOUT KICKING HER ASS ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASION , THE ONLY REASON I HAVNT IS OUT OF RESPECT FOR MY BROTHER.
PLEASE HIT ME UP ON MYSPACE:
http://www.myspace.com/officerfluffy
IM SURE WE HAVE MORE THAN A FEW STORIES TO SHARE, AND YOU MADE MY DAY CALLING ME FRIEND, SNIFF..SNIFF..LOL TTYL ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 7th, 2008 12:33 AM |
| WELL HER WATER JUST BROKE...IM DEVESTATED.....DONT GET ME WRONG IM HAPPY FOR THEM BUT IT IS KILLING ME RIGHT NOW....GEEZ I WISH SOMEONE WAS ON HERE TO TALK TO..HUBBY WORKING.. ↑ |
| Name: live.laugh0408 | Date: Nov 7th, 2008 3:41 PM |
How did it go???? I hope it went as best as it could go.....I am sorry you are in this situation..no one deserves to go through this. Well let me know how it went!
and I am glad that I made you day :] ↑ |
| Name: live.laugh0408 | Date: Nov 7th, 2008 8:26 PM |
| AIDEN Come back come back!!!! Where are you :{ ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 8th, 2008 1:37 AM |
| well, im alive...it wasnt as bad as i thought it would be,, there were a few moments,like when the baby cried,and my brother told me he was sorry(broke my heart), but for the most part i was ok. i even managed to hold him without breaking..i laughed my ass off tho when the contractions and nausea started kicking in and when my brother threw up on her..lol. glad i didnt miss it tho.. ↑ |
| Name: aiden | Date: Nov 9th, 2008 5:12 PM |
| DOES ANYONE HAD TO DEAL WITH BLUE BABY SYNDROME, OR JAUNDICE? THERES SOME THINGS WRONG WITH HIM ...ILL LOOK IT UP ONLINE TOO. RESPONSES PLEASE ↑ |
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