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Name: Jessica

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I am 18 years old and I am 4 1/2 months pregnant. The father is only 17 and he left me when I was 2 months pregnant. We talk every once in awhile, but we always end up fighting because I tell him the truth which is what he doesn't want to hear. He is leaving on Sunday for New York. He is going to be up there for at least 3 years. He is only coming down every Christmas and summer vacation (the first time he will see his baby he/she will be 3 months old and then every 6 months after that). Last night I asked him if we could try to be together again when he came back in 3 years (I am willing to wait), but he said no. I don't know what to do...part of me thinks that this whole baby/him moving to new york is going to change him, but part of me says to move on. What do you guys think? ↓

Name: heather | Date: Oct 14th, 2005 9:53 PM

you cant make a person change their heart. i dont think that you should get back with him. though all of us want that fairytale of having the baby and a husband, it doesnt always work that way. its going to be harder on you. thats why i kindof hate being the female sometimes because we are always stuck, but guys can do what they please. he got you pregnant but not all guys are there. if hes there for the baby thats good but that doesnt mean he'll be there for you. i know it sux but there are so many other things out there that you need to focus on besides trying to put him back in YOUR life. like your future for you and the baby. im also 18 and right now im going to a one year college. i am 5 months pregnant but sometimes you have to make sacrifices to do whats best for your family. if you wanna chat sometime i have aim or yahoo messenger. my sn is sekcmix. for both. like i said though, its best to move on in life and get going with your future rather to sit around and wait for something to happen. ↑

Name: Jessica | Date: Oct 14th, 2005 11:37 PM

Well I am trying to get my life in order (going to school, getting a better job, etc.) before the baby is born and then when the baby is born I am going to focus my life around the baby and make sure the baby has everything he/she needs. Then I am going to walk and stuff a lot to get back in shape after the baby is born. His mom wants to see the baby at least once a week (even though he is not here). So I am hoping that if I get my life in order, get back in shape (after I have the baby), stay in good terms with him and his mom, etc. he might change his mind. Three years is a long time and I know we are both going to go through a lot of changes in that period of time. Like I said before...he is only 17 and he doesn't have much going for him so maybe once he sees me happy and stuff...he will come back. I know I am crazy for waiting so long, but I really want to be with him. We have been through a LOT and we just need to start over. ↑

Name: Angela | Date: Oct 19th, 2005 4:22 PM

Hi Jessica, I would move on. You have your baby to worry about now that is his loss if he doesn't want to be apart of your lives. H e's gonna be the one to miss that cute little baby growing up. ↑